Getting past the emotion: Swingers Discussion 1966791031

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Getting past the emotion: Swingers Discussion 1966791031

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User Details are only visible to members.	Oh, I see...well then perhaps try the soft swap first? In fact, that was our first swing experience. The ladies played while the men watched, we then performed oral on the other's partner, and ended by having sex with our SO next to the other couple. It was extremely hot and exciting! I still think the best way for you to start would be just playing with your SO in front of another couple. Afterwards, review with your SO how you feel. Were you excited and turned on or upset and really uncomfortable? From there, either take it a step further or step back. Take baby steps. When you're ready, you'll know it :) Have fun! Kat
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User Details are only visible to members.	Hi Beach, welcome to the forums :) Your profile is a little confusing. You state in your profile that you are newly single and had been part of a couple. Are you back to being a couple now? In either case, your OP is telling me that you're just not ready to make this leap, and that's OKAY. Some folks are never ready. Just my opinion, but jealousy is your gut telling you that you're not ready. Do what is best for YOU. Mr. Leeza gives you a lot of great advice, and I agree that soft swap might be an option (but only if you are NOT feeling jealous) - you can even be more conservative and only play with your SO in front of another couple doing the same. Until you really know which path you want to take, put play on hold. Read through the threads in the fora, but most of all talk, talk, talk with your SO. Best wishes :) Kat
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User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome to the forums, Beachlover! I have never been a jealous person and I have never really understood the emotion. I have enjoyed watching my wife being pleasured by someone else and she enjoys watching me. For both of us it stimulates even more passion for each other-- some images remain from play scenarios that we re-live again and again when we're home together. I have seen some jealousy and hurt feelings in the lifestyle (sometimes called drama). In order to avoid this you need to talk with your partner about what you want out of the lifestyle. What types of people are you interested in meeting (and what kinds of people are not compatible)? What activities are you interested in doing (and not doing)? What rules will you agree to follow (i.e. play on the first meeting, condoms or bare, same room or separate rooms)? How will you select play partners? Since you're unsure, you may want to try soft swap at first (playing in the same room with others but not trading partners). My wife and I have a few rules, safe sex, no drugs, same room full swap and no anal. We had as a rule that we don't play on the first meeting, but there was a couple that I was hot for the wife and he was instantly driving my wife crazy... the mutual chemistry was so electric that we were making out in the restaurant and even playing under the table... we just had to go up to our room to finish. Good luck to you and enjoy the lifestyle. There are several other threads that deal with emotions that you may want to scroll around and read the posts.
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