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Created by: Doc_n_Janine Original Starting post for this thread:
From observation, it seems that: All couples are looking for a single, bi/bi-curious female, or a couple that has a bi/bi-curious female. All females in a couple are bi/bi-curious. All the men in a couple are "absolutely, 100% straight". These same men will talk about how they want to suck dick when you start sending emails back and forth. If the female is attractive, it is a strong indicator the man won't be. The female weighs from 105-130 pounds, even when it is obvious from her photos she weighs more. If she admits she weighs more, she's over 200. There is no middle ground. If the female is a hot 110 pound knockout, her husband is a 250 pound blimp. Hardly anyone puts photos of the man in the profile. If there are photos of the man, they are poorly executed closeups of his penis. All penises fall into one of three categories: 1) Too small 2) Too ugly/weird looking 3) Large, well shaped and generally nice looking 98 percent of all penises fall into one of the first two categories. Every woman is shaved. Everyone is looking for people who shave. People hardly respond to tell you they're not interested. There seems to be a high correlation between people on this site and leather wearing motorcycle riders. Only the smallest portion of the profiles here have more than one sentence in each area of the profile. If you have more than one sentence in each area of your profile, people say "it's too long". Everyone is a "full swap" couple.

Created by: Doc_n_Janine
Original Starting post for this thread:

From observation, it seems that:

All couples are looking for a single, bi/bi-curious female, or a couple that has a bi/bi-curious female.

All females in a couple are bi/bi-curious.

All the men in a couple are "absolutely, 100% straight".

These same men will talk about how they want to suck dick when you start sending emails back and forth.

If the female is attractive, it is a strong indicator the man won't be.

The female weighs from 105-130 pounds, even when it is obvious from her photos she weighs more.  If she admits she weighs more, she's over 200.  There is no middle ground.

If the female is a hot 110 pound knockout, her husband is a 250 pound blimp.

Hardly anyone puts photos of the man in the profile.

If there are photos of the man, they are poorly executed closeups of his penis.

All penises fall into one of three categories:  1) Too small  2) Too ugly/weird looking  3) Large, well shaped and generally nice looking

98 percent of all penises fall into one of the first two categories.

Every woman is shaved.

Everyone is looking for people who shave.

People hardly respond to tell you they're not interested.

There seems to be a high correlation between people on this site and leather wearing motorcycle riders.

Only the smallest portion of the profiles here have more than one sentence in each area of the profile.

If you have more than one sentence in each area of your profile, people say "it's too long".

Everyone is a "full swap" couple.

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User Details are only visible to members.	with us.......we are the norm of society, and this site. we are almost too scary to even think about. as you can see-we enjoy a great set of boobies but god help you if you see our faces. that is why they are not posted. the privacy thing is just an excuse for us.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1610 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've got to first base a couple times too.
North Highlands CA			Username hidden (3965 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thanks Sexus, LOL... As a former standup commedian I can't help but poke fun of an easy target even myself! And yes, I love movies, books and all sorts of topics. I keep getting told I am a great date, and I think that a lot of women are more into what is between a man's ears than they are what is below the neck or above the hairline, LOL.... But it seems men are a tad more shallow than women. Awhile back, one of my friends saw me with an extremely attractive woman and commented, "Now thats who you should be dating, not that dog I saw you with last." I pointed out that I dated the young hottie for the same reason I dated the "dog" (who I found appealing and not a dog at all). Because they were fun to talk to and spend time with. Ironicaly he is hung up on the redhead I was dating last fall and winter. Physically,yeah, she's a perfect ten. Perfect body, gigantic natural breasts, long, shapely legs, etc... But I never had such a frustrating, annoying dating experience in my life. He's welcome to her.She bled me dry financially. Lovely is as lovely does my grandpa used to say. While we are venting, why not bring up people looking for a fight on internet forums? Doesn't matter if its a swingin' forum, an archery forum or outdoors forums there are always people who spoil for conflict where none is wanted or needed. And when they get the worst of it, they seldom are bright enough to give up. On a different web site there was a posting about how to spot fakes, flakes and phonies. Its almost identical to the thread here on the topic and the purpose of the thread was helpfu advice to newcomers in the indicators that the person you are planning on meeting up with may be wasting your time..... Immediatly somebody took great umbrage at it, going on and on about how it was an insult to her (it wasn't -it was about fakes and how to spot them using standard indicators) yatta, yatta, yatta. And the kicker was a comment about how I must have been bitter to post such a thing. I noted that since August, I had went out with five women I met here. I certed two, got certed by one, made out with all five, had an "intimate encounter" with two, and dated two for extended periods of time. In that same time, I got stood up once and got ditched once by a single female and a couple. At one point, I was seeing about five OTHER women at the same time, (including two ex girlfriends) which was exhausting. I'd rather date or play with only one person at a time for a given time. Them's not bad odds for any single guy, as I constantly see singles and couples who are talking about calling it quits and honestly they tend to be younger than me and better looking than me. Obviously I am a bitter, bitter man, LOL... LOL... All along I just thought I was the merry master of misrule. ... PS, for those who have not been as successful as they wish, my secret is this. I work at it. I have read self help books such as "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne and "How to Seduce Your Woman" by Sydney Steele and I have done the exercises which seem goofy at first, but they worked. And when I got no replies, I just contacted more people in a respectful and humourous manner. Many of the women I have met and gone out with on this site and other sites tell me that what hooked 'em was my aproach. Where they were used to getting two or three sentance messages from single guys, I wrote them longer, respectful and humourous letters. I enjoy swinging and I enjoy swingers. We are a minority subculture and if we don't try to get along with each other, who else will?
Logan WV			Username hidden (1022 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Even photos don't guarantee anything. We met one couple for dinner and it turns out they were at least 20 years older than when their pictures were taken. Another woman has a photo of herself that is not only 20 years younger but she weighed at least 50 pounds less when the photo was taken. If we ever meet a couple at a restaurant again who looks so different from their posted photos, we will simply tell them we don't care to meet people who are dishonest and leave. Jim
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Carrie I agree, as it's the same for us, but was also similar in VA, where I am the one emailing and corresponding, and he'll nod if it's a go. Ha. Or I'll click "friend" on the profiles that interest me and we'll go through those together (as it's hard to find them again when there are similar screen names). I also pretty much "know what he likes," but he will definitely check out the site in the early mornings before work and will also mention to me someone he's chatted with, or an interesting, attractive profile he's seen too. He rarely emails though. Taranis...stop it! I am of your self-deprecating mindset, but really, you do have an intensity, especially in your eyes, that many women find attractive. Maybe to husbands you would look "non-threatening," but there's more to you than a balding, aging, heavy man as you so state. :) Or maybe again, the hubands figure they could always talk movies with you if it doesn't go well with their wives. Ha. Gina
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (6056 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I get contacted by husbands a lot and I have a theory about that. LOL... For one thing, I am rather homely. Middle age, balding, wrinkled. Definitely not HWP. LOL... I think that the husbands look at my pictures and think "This would be a safe guy to have fuck my wife. There is no way she's gonna fall in love with him and leave me for that." Considering how many couples I have had back off or flake out, or just go away after some emails, I am figuring that some of the times the wives have looked at my profile and told those husbands, "Well, you like him that much, you fuck him." LOL....
Logan WV			Username hidden (1022 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It must depend on where you are located also. Here, women tend to do the leg work. I am contacted by the female of the couple a lot more than I am the male. Hubby doesn't even come on this site. I just show him the pics and ask him if he is interested. I usually know the answer, as I know what he likes, but I still ask. Carrie
Corpus Christi TX			Username hidden (16528 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Don't forget the people who swear up and down they are 'for real" and two days after they stood you up, come forward with some lame excuse as to why they didn't just call on the day of the meeting and tell you to go away, LOL....
Logan WV			Username hidden (1022 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Another interesting topic along with good replies. I'll add our perspective: In a humorous way, a lot of your observations are correct. Men go out of their way to say the're straight, it's acceptable for women to be bi-curious whether they are or not, men's photos are a small minority, and x-rate photography is best left to the professionals. But you are a unique couple just like the rest of us here and shouldn't really care about statistics and averages. There ARE very exciting and "real" people here who are a good match for what you want and you for them. People aren't here because of their writing skills or their ability with a camera. When you get to meet them, you'll know instantly if they have that special "something" that makes all the previous conversations bear fruit. We aren't models (well some here might be) and who can really figure out why someone you think is unattractive is perfect for us (or vice versa). Ain't life grand?! We haven't found the amount of untruthfullness you describe in your thread. Maybe it's because we just expect people to be generous about their own qualities in order to put their best foot forward. Maybe we have a "glass full" attitude instead of a "glass empty" one. Who knows. And your observation about one half of the couple being much much better than the other half might be true only because it's difficult to have four people, with all those permutations, to have the same high regards for everyone else. But it's not impossible, and there are still many exciting possibilities when people get to respect and like each other despite not thinking they're "perfect". Lastly, people's profiles are just a mean's to an end; a way to get invited to that sexual dance. They will learn quickly what works for them or forever wonder why no one is knocking on their door. The people who are successful here are not necessarily good looking, possess special sexual talents, or have the same interests as everyone else. But they do have a good sense of who they are, what they want, and they can stand the test of time on this site. And I can't wait until I get my first motorcycle!
Southington CT			Username hidden (325 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I was being silly, but no...it means that sometimes people can actually put their ugly heads onto pretty bodies... No one needs to consider having sex with anyone he deems "ugly." But we have met people in clubs in person that are great that we would not have looked at twice here online. Got to talking, laughing, and how they presented themselves in person was better than their profiles (we looked at the profiles later, after they gave us their screen names.). Seems strange, but true. Good luck. And lighten up a bit...no one is out to get you.
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (6056 post)

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