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TOPIC: Can someone PLEASE help us Stepping out!

Created by: mrmrschrysler Original Starting post for this thread:
First and foremost, We are Excited to be here!!!!! My Honey buns and I are "Out of the Closet" so to speak.. We are officially Out and advertising.. lol. So first of all we are Experienced in the world of Swinging, we've Been with several friend(couples) and several single male and female friends and friends of friends... But we've never stepped out into the wide wonderful world of swinging to experience some new friends, that is until now. So this poses my question.. What is the best way for us to start? we've never attended parties or clubs, we REALLY REALLY want to but are nervous, fear of the unknown.. naive to the scene and don't really know where to go.. Also we've met a few couples on the site, swapped pics, IM'd, Texted and talked with them.(sometimes for days with really flirty connections). But are having trouble actually connecting with "for REAL" people.. One Couple totally blew us off(our super flirty texters.. that we made plans with.. they blew us off..rude!), Met one couple that we communicated with for quite some time that we are now pretty sure was just a single male portraying a couple.. and have run into the lets just meet and fuk people too... Ugh! What the heck are we doing wrong?? Are there not any Actual REAL, FUN, down to earth non barbie and ken (as we are not) People out there..? Gosh Im beginning to think that we are just not what people are looking for.. Will some of you look at our profile and help us out. Tell us your opinions.. suggestions..We are completely open minded to your suggestions and appreciate each and EVERY one of them.. We Just want to find our Friends with benefits.. Beside the obvious things ( age, boundaries and virginism) what are our holdups ???

Created by: mrmrschrysler
Original Starting post for this thread:

First and foremost, We are Excited to be here!!!!! 
My Honey buns and I are "Out of the Closet" so to speak.. We are officially Out and advertising.. lol.
So first of all we are Experienced in the world of Swinging, we've Been with several friend(couples) and several single male and female friends and friends of friends... But we've never stepped out into the wide wonderful world of swinging to experience some new friends, that is until now.  
So this poses my question.. What is the best way for us to start? we've never attended parties or clubs, we REALLY REALLY want to but are nervous, fear of the unknown.. naive to the scene and don't really know where to go.. 
Also we've met a few couples on the site, swapped pics, IM'd, Texted and talked with them.(sometimes for days with really flirty connections). But are having trouble actually connecting with "for REAL" people.. One Couple totally blew us off(our super flirty texters.. that we made plans with.. they blew us off..rude!), Met one couple that we communicated with for quite some time that we are now pretty sure was just a single male portraying a couple.. and have run into the lets just meet and fu*k people too... Ugh*! 
What the heck are we doing wrong?? Are there not any Actual REAL, FUN, down to earth non barbie and ken (as we are not) People out there..? Gosh Im beginning to think that we are just not what people are looking for.. Will some of you look at our profile and help us out. Tell us your opinions.. suggestions..We are completely open minded to your suggestions and appreciate each and EVERY one of them.. We Just want to find our Friends with benefits..  Beside the obvious things ( age, boundaries and virginism) what are our holdups ???

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User Details are only visible to members.	johnpaul, this original post is from a while ago, they may have figured it all by now. :)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mr and Mrs.... if you're still here, how's things going for you? ;)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	First, Welcome to the forums Sweetpea... :) I don't have much advice but I am wondering why you feel it is difficult to interact here in the forums if this is only your 2nd post. (which could be inaccurate, but probably not by much) There are some mean spirited people here, as well as everywhere else in life, but have you tried? There are so many helpful people here, If you're looking around I don't know why you're not seeing that too. We have found the same in clubs as well as M&G's. Some don't seem nice and some do. We just try to approach (or be approachable) to the friendlier people. I really can't say what you might be doing wrong.... are you appearing approachable? As far as your profile goes, it is very very very vague. If you're not getting any responses, that could be why. You also are seeking couples, but say here you have no intentions of playing with a male. That would not be appealing to most couples ...and finding 'females only' (which is what your profile should be stating) is very hard to find. If you 'really' want advice, It would be best for you start a thread asking for help in the Better Profiles group so the OP can have this thread back. I am sure you can meet helpful people there ...and you can just ignore anyone being mean like the rest of the nice people have to..... :-0 ...just my opinion. Wishing you much luck and hope you can figure things out here :) Lady k
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm glad I decided to read some of the posts in the forum, my husband and I are finding it very difficult to meet people or even interact with people in this forum as well. We are both 38 years old and no strangers to the internet but have been finding a lot of mean spirited people or maybe we are just misunderstood, I can't put my finger on why we are having such a hard time just meeting people. I think we are going to try parties again, the problem is, I don't "play" with men so sometimes I find myself really bored at parties, maybe it's just the parties that we have attended. Someone please give me some advice, I'm glad I only paid for the 3 months I don't think I will renew. :(
Sacramento CA			Username hidden (2 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	i would suggest meet + greets or clubs to meet people. this way you can meet and talk with people face to face and see if you like them or get to know them better. there will always be rude people who stand you up or cancel on you for whatever reason. it happens to everyone. just move on, and be glad you didnt go any further with such rude people.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1413 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm sorry, but I think your profile is too long. Or maybe not seperated enough into paragraphs... i could be wrong, but I stopped reading in the middle... just sayin... Good luck tho, you sound like a nice couple!
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Paging Dr Nic... -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thank you Guys !! SOOO much we appreciate any and all help as we are new and kinda stumbling along so far.. I talked to a "Senior Swinger" last night for awhile and she was VERY helpful.. she directed me to Be more specific to our wants and desires and don't hold back on the things we are NOT looking for.. It was helpful I think initially we made the mistake of wanting to please the readers and i know now that being more "ourselves" is what we actually needed to do. Like our Senior swinger said last night " if they like your profile and its as close to you as your going to get, then they will like and respect you" and I think we are totally Satisfied with it now. I know that we have a rule that some think is out and out ridiculous.. but to us, for now.. its us. and if they cant except that, then they are NOT for us :) all in all I appreciate ALL your help and words of advice!! It is beginning to feel like what we had hoped.. Where we are all part of something wonderful and great!! thanks again! :) Mr & Mrs!!!
Defiance OH			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We made the mistake of over thinking this whole thing when we got started. When a couple contacted us we would fall into the "endless communication trap"; emails upon emails, requests for more pics, texts, chat and email on yahoo, etc. Now when we are contacted, we have a very simple system; it's either "no thanks", or, "we like your pics and profile too, let's meet at xyz restaurant at 7pm on Saturday" (kind of an oversimplification, but you get the idea). Obviously, a complete profile with decent pics is very important for this to work. This system seems to weed out all of the fakes and wannabe's and we have had no problems meeting some wonderful couples.
Virginia Beach VA			Username hidden (268 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Chryslers, welcome aboard. I can't see your profile since it's blocked to males, but if you go to the better profiles section and post a request, you should get some great feedback. In my opinion the best way to get out there might be to find one "mentor" couple who would steer you toward the right club or party. Ask around in your local forum. Or just pick out a club or party that looks good, and go to it. I feel sure someone would show you the ropes. Good luck.
San Quentin CA			Username hidden (8604 post)

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