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TOPIC: Are kids effecting your sex life, or have they in the past

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User Details are only visible to members.	DnJ- I don't know how old your kiddos are but we call the years until our kids were preschoolers "the dark years." I missed sex and intimacy but the idea of one more person needing something from me at the end of a long day of our kids needing me in a very physical way was just too much for me. Looking back now, we were both pretty miserable and neither one of us felt that the other understood our feelings or needs. It was absolutely wonderful to make it through to the other side and we comment regularly on how thankful we are that those times are past. Good luck to you.
Cincinnati OH			Username hidden (3366 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	the only time our TV in the bedroom is on, is if I'm watching a dvd while folding wash on the bed. Its not even hooked to the dish. On occasion we will pop in a disc of homemade porn of me with a SM. No computers in the bedroom, just my phone in case of emergencys with the family. Neither of us are TV watchers really but we do get sucked in by the forums we are on. But I get cranky if I don't have sex often! So we decided just like we schedule other things we would schedule computer/tv off us on time. PG
Louisville KY			Username hidden (14163 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We try very hard to tear ourselves away from anything electronic by 9 p.m. so that we can be together, awake usually, for that hour or so before falling asleep. Being empty nesters without childcare responsibilities makes this easy, but there was a time when we were not creating this reconnection opportunity for each other. It's a matter of determining what is most important in the moment. Sometimes there really is something on-line that needs to have attention paid to it, but usually there is nothing that can't be handled just as effectively the next day. Being with my husband both physically and mentally is top priority during the hour of "our" time.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7067 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yup, the computer! very bad. Worse the TV. My husband doesn't wind down until about 9:30 and usually starts getting sidetracked then, by the computer in his office. I'm usually on mine in our bedroom. I've often emailed him saying 'hon, are you at least watching porn?' he writes me back, 'Nope, watching fishing video's'. oh Lord. lol. we usually hear each other laughing since the rooms are close. I'm often tired or into something on tv if he comes to bed after 11. Been saying I'm going to remove our bedroom tv for about 20 years now. ....thinking I might not ever do it.
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User Details are only visible to members.	for us it wasn't as much the kids as the computers. Our kids are in bed by 8:30. So we now go to bed at 10 (although some nights I've just come home from dancing for several hours) 10-11 is "our" time when he is home during the week. Most nights that time includes sex, even on nights where we were too tired. That time whether it is spent fucking or not is more important to us then tv or computer. We get up at 6am I run two business both of which are physical, plus have to dance several hours a day coming up with new acts. We also get to go out together often. We are blessed that my mom isn't far away and will usually watch the girls for us so we can go out as late as we want or stay out overnight at a hotel. PG
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User Details are only visible to members.	KD, good point! I forgot to mention date night. We were encouraged to do that, too, and even though we didn't manage to have a date night every week, "forcing" ourselves to get a babysitter and head out for adult fun was well worth the effort.
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User Details are only visible to members.	oh Lord... you're not kidding. My kids are older ...and out of the house! ... and yet they still have a way of popping in at the most unfortunate times!!! We need to move further away I think... You are certainly not alone. This is why 'they' say to schedule it in and make date nights. I always found that easier said then done, but when you do do that, it seems to re-ignite a little of the fun and you may be 'less tired' another time or two during the week. Even if you don't go out, make a date night at home. Just lock that damn door! ....and there's always mornings. ;)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	D n J, I've been where you are now, and it is exhausting. When we were too tired for sex because of the work we had done during the day, we made sure to at least verbalize our desire to have sex with each other. It allowed for reconnecting in an emotional way even if the body wasn't capable of performing, and sometimes led to a very welcome quicky before falling asleep. Even if we didn't have full intercourse, holding each other closely as we relaxed together in bed was extremely important. In a small way it re-established our bond to each other as committed lovers and partners in life.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7067 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	D n J, you realize that the kids are most important. Even when you wish you were in bed and having fun, or going out, you are still most concerned with their well being. You will never regret these priorities. You will, however, very likely appreciate the empty nest situation when it comes along.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome to parenthood
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