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the only time our TV in the bedroom is on, is if I'm watching a dvd while folding wash on the bed. Its not even hooked to the dish. On occasion we will pop in a disc of homemade porn of me with a SM. No computers in the bedroom, just my phone in case of emergencys with the family.

Neither of us are TV watchers really but we do get sucked in by the forums we are on. But I get cranky if I don't have sex often! So we decided just like we schedule other things we would schedule computer/tv off us on time.

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We try very hard to tear ourselves away from anything electronic by 9 p.m. so that we can be together, awake usually, for that hour or so before falling asleep. Being empty nesters without childcare responsibilities makes this easy, but there was a time when we were not creating this reconnection opportunity for each other.

It's a matter of determining what is most important in the moment. Sometimes there really is something on-line that needs to have attention paid to it, but usually there is nothing that can't be handled just as effectively the next day. Being with my husband both physically and mentally is top priority during the hour of "our" time.

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for us it wasn't as much the kids as the computers. Our kids are in bed by 8:30. So we now go to bed at 10 (although some nights I've just come home from dancing for several hours) 10-11 is "our" time when he is home during the week. Most nights that time includes sex, even on nights where we were too tired. That time whether it is spent fucking or not is more important to us then tv or computer. We get up at 6am I run two business both of which are physical, plus have to dance several hours a day coming up with new acts.

We also get to go out together often. We are blessed that my mom isn't far away and will usually watch the girls for us so we can go out as late as we want or stay out overnight at a hotel.

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KD, good point! I forgot to mention date night. We were encouraged to do that, too, and even though we didn't manage to have a date night every week, "forcing" ourselves to get a babysitter and head out for adult fun was well worth the effort.

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D n J, I've been where you are now, and it is exhausting. When we were too tired for sex because of the work we had done during the day, we made sure to at least verbalize our desire to have sex with each other. It allowed for reconnecting in an emotional way even if the body wasn't capable of performing, and sometimes led to a very welcome quicky before falling asleep. Even if we didn't have full intercourse, holding each other closely as we relaxed together in bed was extremely important. In a small way it re-established our bond to each other as committed lovers and partners in life.

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D n J, you realize that the kids are most important. Even when you wish you were in bed and having fun, or going out, you are still most concerned with their well being. You will never regret these priorities. You will, however, very likely appreciate the empty nest situation when it comes along.

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Welcome to parenthood

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We get up early and work long hours. By the time everything is done for the day and we get the kids down to sleep, we're good for about an hour of mental alertness. Sometimes it's less than that. Even if the idea of sex sounds like a good one as we have our clothes on, by the time we get them off we realize how tired we are and just end up going to bed to get some sleep.

Before kids, even when work seemed to demand as much from us as it does now, we still had a few hours after we got home that belonged to us, and it was so much easier to have sex if we wanted to. What used to be every other day, or sometimes every day, has dwindled down to once a weekend, maybe twice if we get lucky with time.

Who else is having the same problem, or had the same problem, and how do you or did you survive?

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