Anyone else get annoyed by this: Swingers Discussion 1767101071

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User Details are only visible to members.	Love ??? Can't we just have a cheap meaningless affair ??????? Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4094 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	That's why ya love me JK.... ;-D
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Shameless NIC. Absolutely shameless. :)
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mark it on the calendar! JK and Mrs. Sav agree!! Let's all get together for a group fuck, errrr, I mean hug to celebrate!! ;-D
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	mrs sav, as is "usually" the case, we're on the same page. ;-) RDY probably thinks i'm picking on her, but i just honestly thought the irony of her comment was funny.
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	JK, "legitimate email" email from those who have clearly read your profile and based on what you say you are looking for, honestly believe, whether right or wrong, that they may be a good match. " I always do return a legitmate email as I beleive most people here do. Some slip through the cracks though I am sure when 2 people are opening an accounts email and Mr Sav will almost never send or return an email as we have agreed it works best for US if I handle those things. The only emails he does return are to random single men who have gone so far in their crudeness that my ignoring them isn't acceptable to him (a very rare occassion).........trust me getting an email from Mr Sav isn't a good thing. lol Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4094 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	As a single male I don't "expect" anything from a couple. That said, if I write a polite respectful email that clearly shows I read their profile and feel I might be a good fit, I appreciate it if they respond, even with a "no thanks".
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	RDY, wonder why you were feeling "guilt"? probably because of the pressure of the social norm. LOL
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	simply saying it's an opinion. many here agree, many here disagree. doesn't make one side wrong or the other side right. i will say this much, i've never had to deal with the awkwardness of meeting someone at a party and realizing we blew off their email. i'm sure we'll get several responses from members saying they feel no sense of awkwardness over this, but really, i think that goes without saying if you see nothing wrong with ignoring "legitimate" emails in the first place. "legitimate email" email from those who have clearly read your profile and based on what you say you are looking for, honestly believe, whether right or wrong, that they may be a good match. i promised myself i would never get into this debate again. this sucks.
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	TY Sav! JK4, Not silly, I agree courtesy is beautiful and we don't have enough in our society, peace on earth, fewer guns, and much more sex. Say Amen, and let's get to some good fucking. And personally, we practice courtesy to a fault in our daily lives. However, that really wasn't the crux of my point - courtesy isn't relevant to the topic, it's a false premise based on social norms in other environments. You can look at the email system (or any of the other possible connectors) on a social networking site as either passive or active. In a passive system a sender requests a connection and the recipient is not required by force or by social norms to respond. In an active system the recipient is coerced or forced to respond (either by the computer system which may penalize or reward or by social norms of the site). I believe, thankfully, by design dating sites are passive systems - a response-neutral system, otherwise it's an active response-biased system. I can go into the pros and cons of each type of system, but Facebook is an active response-biased system which has many built in coercions both as a social norm and by system design, but most dating sites are designed differently to take the pressure of recipients to create a less pressurized and airier environment. If you think SLS is a dating site then you might fall on our side of the debate, if you view it as a FB type site then you could have a social norm argument for the other side. We see it as a dating site with a particular emphasis on discretion and privacy. Further, we're not talking about a social environment like an office, but a social networking environment more akin to a bar. Everyone can agree a bar has different social norms than an office, and a dating site has different social norms than both an office or a bar. SLS is at its core dating site, and, as with the mentioned bar eye contact example, I see an eye contact event as identical to an email event - the recipient can ignore it, respond positively, or respond negatively, with 100% of the action to be decided by the recipient and not the sender with NO social stigma attached if the receiver chooses not to advance the social contact. And neither should the sender feel rejected or slighted. Maybe other people have other reasons, but we like there being no pressure to constantly explain or reject, we'd rather not participate than say "no thank you" dozens of times a week. So we want a passive system where like minded people with the right timing can find many ways to connect.
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