Anyone else get annoyed by this: Swingers Discussion 1767101021

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User Details are only visible to members.	Granted we're just a couple of "Cavones" who don't respond to every email, but we like to think, at least to our friends, we're a funtastic lay. We don't IM, we barely email, and rate internet correspondence very low on our priority, no response just means no thank you. It seems that we have come down, especially with the name calling, to Oil wrestling being the only method to a final determination on the issue of rude vs not rude in the no-response issue. This can be a contest of FF FFF FFFF or MFM or MFMF (however all consideration must be given, even in the slippery venue, to avoid male contact as much as humanly possible). As to the SLS email system and the open vs non-opened - its a ridiculuous system. We really don't care, nor should we, who sees we opened or didn't open an email or if there's a work around to reading without opening. Email at its core should just focus on providing quality email management - especially in a dating site like this where you maintain relationships over a long period of time. I think we can all agree that the SLS email system is so broken as to almost be useless.
Oklahoma City OK			Username hidden (214 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	sava we agree that is a very annoying trait of this email system...you would think it would be a no brainer....it really should be like gmail or yahoo mail the mail should remain in your inbox unless you delete it. we often make notes on profiles such as we have talked or how possiable we think play might be with a cple etc etc
New Hyde Park NY			Username hidden (31 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I generally don't like to get off on tangents in threads myself, but it happens sometimes. It's no big deal and it isn't taken personally... About the pubic hair. Most, if not all of the people in this lifestyle prefer shaved. They might be ok with trimmed, but it needs to be really tight and short. If our preference keeps 99 percent of the people here from wanting to play with us, I think it's fine to "do as the Romans do" on such a simple thing. Now, we realize since we're mostly watchers and are only ok with light soft swap, we're limiting ourselves to potential playmates on about the same level as we are by having natural pubic hair, but those things aren't as easily changed or compromised. We won't budge on our boundaries, but using a razor for a night is totally fine. Interesting story about pubic hair. When I was 14 or so, that age when any young boy sees everything in the world as a sexual object and masturbates about 9 times a day, when all of his thoughts are consumed with sexual drive, I was at a swimming pool with several of my guy friends. This girl we knew came over to talk. She was older and had developed breasts and hips and we thought she was pretty attractive. Wearing her bathing suit we all noticed her bush was super huge and thick, it was coming out everywhere. We'd never seen a girl with hair actually coming out of her bathing suit. Now, as the horny boys we all were, you'd think we'd be overwhelmed with urges and desires while she was making her sexual maturity so plain to see. Truth was, not a single one of us was turned on or remotely interested in her at that point. That much hair was just gross. While we prefer ours natural, if we go to the beach or pool or something like that, of course my wife trims up. It only makes sense that in "the lifestyle" you'll probably have to do the same.
Memphis TN			Username hidden (61 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We don't technically OPEN our mail as when you do so it moves off the main page into a different category which means one or the other of us will have to look through several folders to make sure we didn't miss something. I agree that this might make it difficult for others to SEE we've read mail but until they correct how you view mail , send mail etc. that how it will remain. Frankly I'd prefer that the email stay on the main page unless I have deleted it. We're not "sneaking" just simplifying how we handle it. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4025 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	NIC, FWIW i agree as well. this sneaking in to check the email is bullshit. they should definately do away with that feature and force people to grow the fuck up. and besides, what would you say, maybe 5% of the people on sls haven't figured it out themselves or at least been told by someone else how to do it? who do they really think they're fooling? as far as i'm concerned, it's insulting. much worse than reading and not responding. it's like saying, "not only are we not interested, but we want to make sure you understand just how uninterested we are." of course you read it, you're just a jackass. LOL (insert smiley face here!)
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You are 100% correct Mrs. Sav, be who you are or you will find yourself chasing after someone else's ideal "you". And let's not forget, the reason they give may just be a convenient excuse. Telling you they preferred less pubic hair may have been easier than coming out and saying they weren't attracted to you. For you to then offer to shave or trim sounds, well a bit desperate. The best advice I can give is what others have already stated, don't take the lack of response personally and if they do reply with a no, leave it alone. No need to ask why, just move on the the next person or couple who just may say yes.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11415 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"Most recently someone told us we had too much pubic hair for their tastes. We can trim up and shave for a playdate if need be, we just like it natural for each other." If you like it "nature for each other" why oh why would you change that to fit someone else s agenda? We are a what you see what you get couple, I'm not going to change or adapt myself to accommodate someone elses preference.The world is a big place , accept people as they are or move along and in turn be true to yourself. Successful Swinging isn't about making yourself fit someones ideal it is about finding the right blend to create the ideal. Celebrate who you are , stand firm in your beliefs and preferences and enjoy what the lifestyle offers. If you keep trying to fit into what everyone else wants eventually you'll lose sight of what YOU want. YOU are 100% perfect to some people and more importantly perfect for each other......don't sell yourself short by trying to be something you're not. There is nothing more sexy than confidence and the conviction to stand behind your own preferences. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4025 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"Hhhmmmm...... I was excited to see 30 replies since the one I put up last night. I thought to myself "that must be a ton of input on the theme". Funny how you can be so wrong sometimes. " Actually Doc, at any given time there are 3-4 threads scattered around the forums that discuss this theme. Some feel it has been beaten to death. If some of us got off on tangents, I apologize. It's nothing personal.
San Quentin CA			Username hidden (8604 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well, that's a different issue altogether and I probably shouldn't have tacked that onto my last reply. Might as well adress it though... I can understand people not wanting to come right out and tell us they thought we were disgusting looking or something like that, but those are people that actually took the time to give us a simple "no" in the first place. At least they let us know we reached them and they weren't interested. If they don't write back to elaborate as to why they said "no", it's no big deal. When they do though, it's pretty helpful for us. Most recently someone told us we had too much pubic hair for their tastes. We can trim up and shave for a playdate if need be, we just like it natural for each other. We let them know and they were more receptive, and we added that we're willing to trim or shave for playdates to our profile. Quick and simple communication... effective and polite.
Memphis TN			Username hidden (61 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Doc , with all due respect that is exactly why many people do not send a reply at all . No one wants to tell you they find you or your spouse unattractive if that is the case, none wants to explain their reasons. The simple fact is they said No and that could be for 100 reasons you will never understand and maybe they don't understand themselves. I hate those emails asking me to explain WHY? Why do I prefer Pistachio Ice cream over Strawberry ? For whatever reason , it is their reason and really has nothing to do with you or what you should work on or change. My personal opinion is it is bad policy to ask why? someone said no and only helps to perpetuate the lack of responses when there is no interest. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4025 post)

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