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Created by: JonMeg2112 Original Starting post for this thread:
We are planning to attend a local M&G in the area very soon but we are pretty nervous about it. We have played with a few SM before but now looking to seriously find a fun couple. We are not into another "notch" in the headboard and we will definitely need to get to know a couple a little bit before playing. We're just wondering what the protocol is in a party type atmosphere. For instance.... A couple introduces themselves to us and we immediately know we aren't attracted to them (we really aren't too picky). What happens next? We certainly aren't against making friends with other couples. We are very friendly and open to talking to anyone but we also don't want to give the wrong impression to a couple. Does engaging them in conversation for awhile give off the wrong impression? When does the time come to let someone know they aren't your "type" and how do you go about doing that? We really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or have the regulars where we go think "They aren't serious or they are too picky". We just know what we like and what we don't like and neither of us will ever take one for the team so-to-speak. I have read other threads on this but I guess we were wanting some more advice for a couple who is going into a party setting for the very first time. Thanks!!

Created by: JonMeg2112
Original Starting post for this thread:

We are planning to attend a local M&G in the area very soon but we are pretty nervous about it.  We have played with a few SM before but now looking to seriously find a fun couple.  We are not into another "notch" in the headboard and we will definitely need to get to know a couple a little bit before playing.  We're just wondering what the protocol is in a party type atmosphere.  For instance....

A couple introduces themselves to us and we immediately know we aren't attracted to them (we really aren't too picky).  What happens next?  We certainly aren't against making friends with other couples.  We are very friendly and open to talking to anyone but we also don't want to give the wrong impression to a couple.  Does engaging them in conversation for awhile give off the wrong impression?  When does the time come to let someone know they aren't your "type" and how do you go about doing that?  We really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or have the regulars where we go think "They aren't serious or they are too picky".  We just know what we like and what we don't like and neither of us will ever take one for the team so-to-speak.  

I have read other threads on this but I guess we were wanting some more advice for a couple who is going into a party setting for the very first time.  Thanks!!

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User Details are only visible to members.	I've always found acting like an adult rather than a teenager in these situations works best.
Avondale LA			Username hidden (4496 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	great advice here! ;)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Like RDY said there is no need to explain. Personally i think not showing interest sexually in a couple is a huge signal. Believe it or not in a sexually charged atmosphere like a club people pick up on body and eye signals very well. If your not interested conversation can be pleasant but people will know if you intend to play or are attracted to them just by watching your body language. Iv seen this enough at the clubs(as i love to people watch) that you can almost pick who will be playing and who will not. Im always pleasant with everyone but if i have no attraction i dont encourage others even when they make moves or suggestions toward us. eventually they get the hint and move on or just continue talking till they find a nice way of moving on looking for other possible playmates.
Delta PA			Username hidden (124 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	c&pWe're just wondering what the protocol is in a party type atmosphere. I'd say there isn't a set protocol is this setting. Just go with the flow and be sure to ask if the female is a squirter or not. ~smile~ honesty is the best policy.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (2136 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We are planning to attend a local M&G in the area very soon but we are pretty nervous about it. We have played with a few SM before but now looking to seriously find a fun couple. We are not into another "notch" in the headboard and we will definitely need to get to know a couple a little bit before playing. We're just wondering what the protocol is in a party type atmosphere. For instance.... A couple introduces themselves to us and we immediately know we aren't attracted to them (we really aren't too picky). What happens next? We certainly aren't against making friends with other couples. We are very friendly and open to talking to anyone but we also don't want to give the wrong impression to a couple. Does engaging them in conversation for awhile give off the wrong impression? When does the time come to let someone know they aren't your "type" and how do you go about doing that? We really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or have the regulars where we go think "They aren't serious or they are too picky". We just know what we like and what we don't like and neither of us will ever take one for the team so-to-speak. I have read other threads on this but I guess we were wanting some more advice for a couple who is going into a party setting for the very first time. Thanks!!
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