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Greetings, !E here ...

T-minus 6 days till our 1st Club Play Party. I was so excited when I signed up last month but as each day draws to a close and we get another day closer to the event ... I get more & more nervous.

We've done one on one M&G's, one on one couple swaps and I just did not have so many questions, did not have this level of nervousness. It was I who brought us into the L/s, it's I who read/reply/initiate emails, and I who sets up the where/when of our M&G's, which generally happen after 2-4 weeks of emails/texts/calls. You'd think meeting an individual would be more nerve wracking than walking into a room full of people, no?

As I write this, I have just realized that to date, I have been 'in control' and I guess that I'm afraid that I will not have that control in a group setting. I have decided to come to the SLS groups to ask some advice about some concerns that are normally in my control.

1.) In the past when setting up one on ones we've all read each others profiles, and seen each others pictures, which eliminates alot of possible awkwardness .. in the bed room, for example: My profile states, A specific age range, it also states that couples must be 'shaved' and that penis' must be circumcised, oh and that we aren't into interracial. Can you tell me If you're sitting at the bar with a couple, is it ok to bring these topics up?

2.) Our experience on sls, to date has only included same room swaps, pre-arranged with only one other couple. I'm curious in a 'party situation' where there are multiple couples, are people mingling as singles? how does it work when say we're talking to a couple & my husband likes the other wife but I do not like the other husband? Is it proper for him to ask her to go upstairs and leave me at the bar? Or am I expected to go upstairs as well and just sit and converse with the husband?

3.) When is enough, enough? Basically, I guess I'm asking If I did like someone enough to go upstairs with, but he can't get hard, or can't cum -or- what ever he's doing or not doing isn't stimulating me into cumming, How and when is a good time to raise a white flag?

I guess that it for now, I guess if I'm lucky enough to get some answers those answers might spark some other questions and I'll just ask later.

Thanks for reading and especially thanks ... for any advice that might help alleviate some of my nervousness.

Sussex NJ
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