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I have found that "Athletic" build is all relative. In meeting people in the lifestyle, working out means masturbating to porn.

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It's a sad reflection of the overall state of things in our population - obesity is still rising, and is found everywhere in the country. Why should the lifestyle be exempt?"

Exactly. Despite the billions of dollars spent on exercise equipment, WW, JC and everything else....we are getting fatter by the day. Our children are now suffering with adult onset diabetes. And we have no one to blame but the one looking at us in the mirrors. I think the diet industry is full of shit. You do not have to eat diet specific foods in order to lose weight, I never have. You eat healthy foods in proper portions and at proper intervals. Its really not that hard a concept. Spending tons of money on ready made foods in my mind is not that helpful because you are not re-learning your relationship with food. This is why so many who have gastric bypass gain weight. They are not given the tools needed to be thin. Life is choices, we are the decisions we make. And when you choose to eat a plate that is 40 grams of fat...how do you think you will be healthy and feel good? I like feeling good.


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My ultimate fantasy is a 45 year-old woman, with the body of a 25 year-old. "

Okay, how about a 38 year old woman with the body of a 29 year old? LOL, I'm teasing you.


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Chimera we totally get where you're coming from. If somebody is clearly uncomfortable in their bodies, then it's pretty much guaranteed they won't be good playmates; likewise if they have made no effort to stay in shape and their bodies show it then we're likely not to be attracted enough to them for US to be good playmates.

I guess our main point is that as long as people aren't UN-attractive or uncomfortable in their bodies, then they don't need to be models of good health to be wonderful playmates.

We both hit the gym 3 to 6 times a week and have for most of our lives, but recently took a 3 year break when real life got so crazy that we weren't living healthily. We didn't feel sexy, we knew we were unhealthy relative to our norm, and we certainly didn't feel playful. Yet we were probably still in better shape than many of the people we know... three years later we're feeling pretty stupid to have let ourselves get hung up about our appearance so much that we missed out on truly enjoying 3 years of our (relative) youth.

We also had a period many years ago when we were at our peak physically when we just tried to get with the hottest couples we could. It was flattering to play with people we considered the hottest in the area, but it quickly became pretty unfulfilling when we started to find they were among the least passionate people we'd ever met. Once we refocused and worried more about personal connection and flirtiness than looks, we went back to having a great time.

Again, don't get us wrong - we have to be attracted, and physical appearnace, health, and comfort in your own skin are all important parts of that. But a lot of this thread seems to suggest that appearance is a touch more important than we've found it to be from our personal experience...


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We are gratified by the many good thoughts in response to this post; Catnip makes a good point, but don't misunderstand us: we are talking about fitness -- not sexual prowess or passion. Sure lots of people who are not in the best of shape (to put it mildly) can be hell on wheels in bed. It's just that for us, fitness and vitality are big turn-ons.....and we are turned off by those who are seriously overweight and out of shape.. We will probably never get to find out just what hot mamas and papas they are, because we will be turned off before we get that far.

That said, we feel truly sorry for those who because of medical or other legitmate reasons are in such poor shape --- but if the biggest problem is lack of motivation to exercise, or the willpower to push away from the table and/or adopt healthy food choices, we don't have much sympathy.

Mr. and Mrs. C.

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OK... it's hard not to agree with just about everything that's been said, but forums aren't fun if someone's not being the devil's advocate ;)

So a couple of counter-points:

(1) We've been with amazing athletic people who had no idea how to kiss or be sensual, and we've been with slightly chunky or stringy but PASSIONATE couples who were some of the very best experiences we've ever had. As long as you're not UNattracted to a couple, isn't the passionate/sensual part what matters most to a good experience?

(2) If we were 50 pounds heavier, we know we'd still be totally into eachother and still love sex. So would we not swing? Maybe not, but maybe we would. We'd probably look for people in our "league" - not unlike we do now, but the league would be different is all. We can't really find fault with the idea that larger people who love sex want to swing... we're just not going to be a fit.

Fun topic! Thoughts?


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Great subject Chimera. We also wonder why so many lifestylers are so overweight. You would not believe some of the hostile responses we have gotten because of our preference for hwp people. If a guy can only see his cock by using a mirror that is not "in shape". Likewise, if a female is 5-5 tall and outweighs my husband that does not fall into the category of "a few extra pounds". Like another poster mentioned, it is simple, you consume more calories than you burn results in getting fat.

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We have gone to some lifestyle parties and clubs where most of the couples were badly over weight.

Like stated here is the last post, we would think that people in the lifetyle would want to make themselve's as fit as is reasonably possible in order to attract other good looking people.

The other morning, I was checking SLS for emails and a couple we had not met who lives about 25 miles from us initiated an IM chat. I opened their profile and saw that they weigh as much as Mr & Mrs JackMichelle; times two!!!

I wish they had read our profile, we clearly state what we are looking for.

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We are here! And it's not just the wife that's in shape. We agree with the post and have the same opinions. One would think that those that share their naked bodies with others would be in better shape than average but it ain't so!

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i think it is also important to lick the icing.....

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