"weight loss increases size which is a issue with many.I know its true.It won't increase girth though,just lenth "

Girth can be dramatically and permanently increased with a good quality vacuum pump and about 5 years time...

I think I heard this somewhere...yeah, that's it!

I recently got flamed badly when a poster here said something to the effect":

"We know we are both a little fluffy (yes, she used fluffy...) and we think that's ok, we don't like obese though"

I quoted their POSTED weights with the numbers from the BMI chart that showed they were both obese-not fluffy. I stated that one of the things we have wrong in this country is perception. So many of us think obese if 'fluffy'.

Eventually they removed their comments (?), so I removed mine. Not only are we under serious misconceptions about our self image, we are absolutely MILITANT in defending those self imposed myths...

IMHO

Recently we were looking at who was going to attend a party and out of 74 couples there were 5 that were what we consider HWP. We have had others become offended when we elect not to play because of their being overweight. One would think that being in this lifestyle would make people want to look as good as they possibly could.

weight loss increases size which is a issue with many.I know its true.It won't increase girth though,just lenth

everywhere,look for endurance cyclists! lol

They are out there, just hard to find unfortunately.

here lol

In this lifestyle we are all judge, so keeping yourself generally together should be on the program,
Because Guess what ,we are always taking off our cloths so we can't hide it.
You don't have to be a fitness queen, but a something something want hurt,

We don't judge, I am just saying, we all have something, no one is perfect.

the older we get the more we want to work out. i think a fit older couple says a lot about them. find it very appealing, sexy.

We have the same complaint. It is rare that we find many at all that are even close to being in shape but sometimes get lucky. We don't always expect people to be as tight as we are but proportionate as in not fat would be nice and closer to us would be better.