It's all about self motivation! I was a big guy and admittedly a Fatty McFat-Fat until recently. Initially it was poor diet choices and sedentary life that got me on the path to overweightdom then 20years of begging for any form of affection, closeness, flirtiness and heaven forbid, sex and I let myself go. No up side to being in better shape. (remember, your perception IS your reality)

After 6 months of my freedom I found Crossfit in March. (see thread in Fitness) It's changed my body, my attitude, my life and I recommend it highly or ANY form of fitness. DO IT!

I've had the best sex of my life since this June, mostly because I feel better about myself. I still have a long way to go, but this is my life now and I'm doing it for me! Best reason to get off your fat ass and do something is for yourself.

Others around you will benefit in spades, you'll be around longer, you'll be in a better mood, spend less money on medicine and doctors, be able to pay more attention, have more energy and give and get more lovin!

I'll never be a small guy, I have a big frame, but it's going to be rocking...real soon! Hope to share more too!

My hubby gets attention from women all the time, fat, skinny, in shape out of shape, good looking, uglies, and in between.

He is in fabulous shape. But he also carries himself with confidence. I've known him over a 1/4 century, and it's always been like that. He's a chick magnet.

I personally do not find overweight men attractive so I wont give them the chance.

But I'm sure other women are fine with everything that I am not.

If you think a member of a couple is unattractive, then don't play with them. Simple enough. No matter what you look like, someone is going to find you unattractive. So just deal with it. I doubt, from what I've seen, that SLS men are any more overweight than the general US population.

Hey I agree and totally relate!! I have "taken one for the team" way too often! I am NOT turned on by large "dicky-dos" (when your belly is bigger than your dick)! Both parties should be fit and look good. If the wife/partner has to help, then so be it. When I met my partner, I did a remake on him! New glasses (he can't wear contacts), new - younger clothes, he lost weight, etc. Fat men turn me off! Why do men think it's okay to be fat with a hot wife/partner?? And WHY do these hot partners put up with it?! Life is too short! I love my man, but I tell him constantly, "If I gotta look good, so do you!".

I would love for him to get some of the weight off. He would feel better about himself, have more energy and more stamina. But I can't do that for him, and I don't love him any less because he doesn't.

I wanted to touch on that, and of course, got side-tracked.

It is not my responsibility to make sure that my partner looks good. It's his, no ifs or buts about it. He works out for himself, he changes his clothes for him, he shaves and showers because he wants to be clean, he dresses nicely for himself. Same with me.

If the person doesn't want to take care of himself, there is no amount of help from others that will change that. It's just that simple.

"Now, I love him to pieces."

And all of his pieces too, I'm sure. :D I had hoped my generalization would cause some couples to think about how they could spur their spouses onto shaping up. Especially if it affecting play. But if your man has it good, then why change it?

"Wives play a part in how the husbands look as well. I hope wives in the LS take a step back and assess their husbands in a way others will - and vice versa. Your spouse looks great to you, make sure your spouse looks great to others as well."

Not always so. I cook healthy meals. When we go out, I order healthy... I've gotten to where I can't even eat pizza, it'll make me ill. But that doesn't keep my husband from going to McDonalds for lunch... or stopping to get a milkshake on the way home from work after a crappy day at the office. Now, I love him to pieces. He is the rock that keeps everything from falling apart. I don't care if no one else can see what I do. He has a girlfriend who also knows how special he is, she's a good friend of mine too, so it works.

I lost almost a hundred pounds by taking up fly fishing.

Really? Did you look at the paintings? There are some hips and guts on those babes. But I am sure some impostor with the same name painted those.