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TOPIC: What up with all the overweight men
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OK maybe it is just me and this is a bit of a vent, what's up with all the over weight men? You know the ones, they're paired with the most amazingly attractive and fit women...And of course when it comes to the idea of swapping, well as the female side of the equation here, it feels unfair. It is unattractive and a bit of a turn off too. I am not against a few extra pounds, really am not! We all struggle with weight myself included, but I work at staying HWP at the gym (guys take note please-hint hint)...Guys when your size produces huges shadows that intimidate me to the point I feel the need to run for cover and safety, while your gorgeous wife is fit and pretty and wanting to play with my husband whom all seem clueless to your huge self, well somehow it feels like a turn off. And I admit I tried but I am not turned on by XXL men.

And sure these men are all wonderfully nice, etc...but sexually it's a turn off to me. And worse part is I don't know how to say this as i don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But we just returned from a week at a FL. l/s resort and this seemed to be the norm and honestly was surprised! Seems disproportionate that my husband gets another fit and beautiful women to play with while i am suppose to be turned onby Mr. XXL? A smothering thought...lol...

So guys please hit the gym some, I am not asking for a body builder just HWP or hey if you carry a few extra pounds it's ok! Truly it is! But obesity is a turn off and there is a difference between a few pounds and carrying around an entire extra person.

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Today we went to the gym and worked out for a hour and a half then went Contra dancing for three hours and came home and fucked.

Contra dancing is easy really fun and can be as high energy as you want. IF you want some really fun exercise or want to get your other half dancing this is the way to do it. Fun fun fun.

Great way to stay in shape.

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@ncalcouple. You are right a bout the working out and the older you get the more important it is

Charlie

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My wife works out and stays fit because she loves the attention and second for health reasons.

We have a completely open marriage so she can do what she likes with the attention. She loves being shown off when she is dressed in a sexy dress at the Opera..yes she loves the dance..she goes with one of her men who is " puffed up like a peacock" with her on her arm. And i dont have to suffer through the opera..lol

i work out with weights because i love to free dive in the ocean and hunt fish and that takes physical strength and endurance. And women love my body when i have muscle..when i stopped lifting for a while the women just treated me like any other man.

At swing parties and resorts like Hedo everyone likes our bodies...its nice having women smiling at my naked me, but she tries to keep those women smiling at me not her...she loves the men so much that we have a day when she is the single woman...what fun she has....

The day she cant get looks at the beach in her string bikini is the day she hit 120 years of age.

We also eat right ..high vege and fruit low fat diet..nothing fried all meats are BBQed or broiled with all the fat trimmed off. Low fat frozen yogurt and so on..makes it easy to keep the weight off and eat the amounts of food we want.

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@Sexus you are right obout the bbws calling little girls sticks. If they would be honest most of them dream of being a perfect siz. 4 or 5

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Being overweight as said in here does suck. There are though chicks with the same problem . I've been married for forty years to a little muscular girl so I am ruins for life in being with anyone who isn't.

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SexusnTexas: never say only! 18 pounds is huge and as stated it's part of a journey. Always reminds me when I drag my friends out running a 5K or MudRun and they apologize for being so slow. I remind them that they are out there putting one foot in front of the other while most others are asleep in bed and not doing anything. Celebrate each success and learn from each failure. Overall you're headed in positive direction so my hats off to you and everyone else trying. I return you to your regular SLS programming!


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Anyone can email me w questions and I'll do my best to answer. You have the right idea, its all about the journey. Keep going the right direction and focus on your goal. No one has the straight up willpower to loose a lot of weight., thats a terrible myth. You have to want it every day and find another reward system besides food. Being overweight takes so much from you and it is hard to appreciate wo living it.


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Anyone can email me w questions and I'll do my best to answer. You have the right idea, its all about the journey. Keep going the right direction and focus on your goal. No one has the straight up willpower to loose a lot of weight., thats a terrible myth. You have to want it every day and find another reward system besides food. Being overweight takes so much from you and it is hard to appreciate wo living it.


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I imagine swinging itself isn't too politically correct, so no matter.

TooMuch, you can help me anytime. I totally trust and respect the ones who have been there and know what it's like. I've only lost about 18 pounds since September, BUT I ALREADY notice less stress on my knees, feet, ability to do more, etc. A1C is better and I could drop a med. So yes, despite the aesthetics of losing weight, the better feeling is worth it.

So yes, I will come in here from time to time when I feel like giving up or that it doesn't matter, or just when I hit a slow spot, etc, and read some of your success stories and how much better you feel, and keep working at it.

It's NOT so that I can attract more people sexually. I already have the best sex with my husband. And we are doing this together. We have no problems in the area of swinging, and attract a wide variety (no pun intended) of others. The ones who are so defensive about it all are not attractive, no matter how they look at either end of the spectrum, complaining and excuses and whining are never attractive.

Either lose or don't. Either take care of yourself or don't. I have my stupid moments of rebellion where I eat wrong and "just don't care" (I actually do care, all the time, I'm just fooling myself when I have that attitude) but I now have many more days of making better choices. For me, it's a slow go, but it's still progressing, I'm still doing more and eating less, and kick it up a few notches along the way.

Right now, I'm discouraged. So reading these posts are helpful. It means I can keep trying. (I'm discouraged b/c I fell and hurt my arm a couple months ago and can't do what I was doing, but going to PT and taking care of the injury). For me, it's also changing a whole lifetime of bad (unhealthy) choices for myself.

So, anytime I read where people are bitching about "fit" people not wanting to have sex with fat people, it's just something I find unattractive. There are attractive people of all shapes and sizes, and it's not a "war" between the two. My point is that if you don't like being made fun of because you are heavy, then don't retaliate by making fun of people who are thin. Is petty and unappealing. And it's usually b/c you don't like yourself, no matter how much you tell yourself otherwise.

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Is this a complaint about someone not using a politically correct sentence in describing his/her preference or is this a broader complaint about fit couples refusing to hook up with everyone else who isn't fit?

I'm confused.

For example: Politically correct: we will only have sex with people we consider attractive Gray area: we will only have sex with people who are fit like us Not politically correct: we will not have sex with fat people

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