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My wife and I now push the sexual envelope quite often. We love each other very much, we communicte very well and often, and share our desires and fantasies without fear of judgment. I always hear people asking, myself included, how do you get your spouse into it? how do you approach the subject of (insert subject here), with your wife/husband? maybe its exhibitionism, swinging, bondage, whatever....it can be hard to discuss if it is new. I know now that when my wife and I talked about what we desired, we would answer as we thought we should, not as we really felt. Maybe we didn't even know we were doing it. Certain "kinks"were always ok for us like, exhibitionism and voyeurism. But there were also things we never even thought of discussing. Not that we avoided subjects, just that some subjects rarely come up and if they did, the stock, mainstream answer was given and accepted without a second thought. That changed about ten years ago. This is how we explore now. 10 years ago, I gave my wife an aniversary present that has proved for us to be a great way to explore her fantasies. Some of the things that we enjoy now I would never have guessed she would desire them. A friend of mine from Long Island told me about the no judgement personal gift catalog. It is only available by word of mouth. you give it to your lover and they choose what personal "gifts" (AKA sexual acts!), you would love to provide to them for their satisfaction. At first her selctions were mild but as soon as she realized I was really ok with providing any gift in the catalog, no matter what it was, she was off to the races! Some highly erotic stuff! she went through half of her "money" before she really felt that I wouldn't freak and comfortable enough to choose something new and a bit kinky. It's been wild ever since. It as led us into very different pleasures, (all legal), and this site as well. We hope this site will satisfy another of her choices.;-) (if you want to hear more, email me. It's the exhibitionist in me I guess!) how about you? how do you explore?

Created by: ionized1
Original Starting post for this thread:

My wife and I now push the sexual envelope quite often. We love each other very much, we communicte very well and often,  and share our desires and fantasies without fear of judgment. I always hear people asking, myself included, how do you get your spouse into it? how do you approach the subject of (insert subject here), with your wife/husband? maybe its exhibitionism, swinging, bondage, whatever....it can be hard to discuss if it is new. I know now that when my wife and I talked about what we desired, we would answer as we thought we should, not as we really felt. Maybe we didn't even know we were doing it.  Certain "kinks"were always ok for us like, exhibitionism and voyeurism. But there were also things we never even thought of discussing. Not that we avoided subjects, just that some subjects rarely come up and if they did, the stock, mainstream answer was given and accepted without a second thought. 

That changed about ten years ago. This is how we explore now. 10 years ago, I gave my wife an aniversary present that has proved for us to be a great way to explore her fantasies. Some of the things that we enjoy now I would never have guessed she would desire them. A friend of mine from Long Island told me about the no judgement personal gift catalog. It is only available by word of mouth. you give it to your lover and they choose what personal "gifts" (AKA sexual acts!), you would love to provide to them for their satisfaction. At first her selctions were mild but as soon as she realized I was really ok with providing any gift in the catalog, no matter what it was, she was off to the races! Some highly erotic stuff! she went through half of her "money" before she really felt that I wouldn't freak and comfortable enough to choose something new and a bit kinky.  It's been wild ever since. It as led us into very different pleasures, (all legal), and this site as well. We hope this site will satisfy another of her choices.;-)

(if you want to hear more, email me. It's the exhibitionist in me I guess!)

how about you? how do you explore?

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User Details are only visible to members.	you're right muffjoy, it's all about communication. Whether it's the catalog, movies, truth or dare, whatever opens up the lines.
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User Details are only visible to members.	The way my husband and explore new ideas is to talk about it first. I have found out so much about him. At first, he said that he did not fantasize. I know enough about the male to know that that was just his way of saying, "hey, i might be too kinky for u". So i would tell him some of my more tame ones. I found just how interested in the "wild" side he is, just be getting an interesting non-mainstream adult video from my ex. After watching that, we have been off an running since then. When I get bored with sex, I tell him that I would like to try..... and he tells me hunt for it. One way to bring up the subject of something that u are not too sure your partner would enjoy would be got to a site that caters to your need, show it to your partner and get the body language reaction. Never go by what the mouth says. It lies. The body language does not.
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User Details are only visible to members.	sorry....I forgot to give you the link. wildbaycompaniesdotcom/SecretPage.htm
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User Details are only visible to members.	it is fun. you have to type the address directly into the web browser. They do not advertise the site, so a search bar like google or IE search will turn up nothing. you have to type it directly into the browser. If that does not work, email me with your outside email and I well send you a working link. The catalog is filled with "gifts" that your lover can choose from that you will provide for them.The idea is to encourage your lover to explore and try things they may not have tried before. For the "been there done it al"l type, it allows your lover to fill their particular desire at the time they choose. The catalog givers mission is to completely satisfy their lover, no matter what they choose. the giver customizes the catalog eliminating anything that repulses them and leaves in anything they feel they can give to their lover, even if it is not their thing and even if they think it is not their lover's thing. they may be surprised, (That is how my wife and I ended up here) When your lover looks through the catalog, they know what ever is in there you are cool with, so they can choose anything the desire at any time, without judgement or fear of your reaction,as long as they have enough "money" to pay for the gift. The very experienced crowd will simply get pleasured as they want it when they want it. (my kind of gift!)The gifts range from mild and sexy like a bubble bath for two, to erotic like leg and hand restraints or threesomes, or public sex, etc. A tip book explains it much better than i can and help sets it up ..... We've used diferent versions now for over ten years. This last one I ordered was personalized and for the first time I let them use a couple of my pics in the general catalog also, (none of my wife though, just me).
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User Details are only visible to members.	The "no judgement personal gift catalog" sounds interesting. Tell us more. I tried to Google it and nothing comes up.
Henderson NV			Username hidden (405 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My wife and I now push the sexual envelope quite often. We love each other very much, we communicte very well and often, and share our desires and fantasies without fear of judgment. I always hear people asking, myself included, how do you get your spouse into it? how do you approach the subject of (insert subject here), with your wife/husband? maybe its exhibitionism, swinging, bondage, whatever....it can be hard to discuss if it is new. I know now that when my wife and I talked about what we desired, we would answer as we thought we should, not as we really felt. Maybe we didn't even know we were doing it. Certain "kinks"were always ok for us like, exhibitionism and voyeurism. But there were also things we never even thought of discussing. Not that we avoided subjects, just that some subjects rarely come up and if they did, the stock, mainstream answer was given and accepted without a second thought. That changed about ten years ago. This is how we explore now. 10 years ago, I gave my wife an aniversary present that has proved for us to be a great way to explore her fantasies. Some of the things that we enjoy now I would never have guessed she would desire them. A friend of mine from Long Island told me about the no judgement personal gift catalog. It is only available by word of mouth. you give it to your lover and they choose what personal "gifts" (AKA sexual acts!), you would love to provide to them for their satisfaction. At first her selctions were mild but as soon as she realized I was really ok with providing any gift in the catalog, no matter what it was, she was off to the races! Some highly erotic stuff! she went through half of her "money" before she really felt that I wouldn't freak and comfortable enough to choose something new and a bit kinky. It's been wild ever since. It as led us into very different pleasures, (all legal), and this site as well. We hope this site will satisfy another of her choices.;-) (if you want to hear more, email me. It's the exhibitionist in me I guess!) how about you? how do you explore?
Toms River NJ			Username hidden (22 post)

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