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since getting into this lifestyle my hubby n i have been opening alot of doors , communication is the best , honesty too, we discuss everything , from what we want to what we dont want , now were looking to act on our fantasies , hey u only life once have fun but be safe an no pressure

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We had the same basic scenario. It was four years before she actually did anything about it.

Now, we're having a ball.

Take it easy, go at *her* speed.

Shadyside PA
 
 
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I am right there with you. I get a yes during sex, but only a "maybe" afterwords. I know she would love to fuck another man in front of me as she has mentioned someone that specifically made her pussy wet, but I suspect there are other issues holding her back (being a mother and a teacher).

Hang in there.

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Hello FiftiesCouple,

Your question is a good one, "am I trying to force my desires on to her when she would not enjoy it?" The answer is simple. No, it is okay for you to have fantasies, even if she doesn't share them. It's great that you discuss your fantasies with her. This is very healthy for your relationship. She should discuss her fantasies with you as well. Working together to help each other fulfill their fantasies is even better, even if you don't share the same fantasy. It can also be fun, as well as a win/win situation for both of you. If she has fantasies which you can't fulfill alone and she tells you about them, such as, bi-curiosity, sex with younger men, groupsex, and etc., then this lifestyle will help you to fulfill these fantasies for her. BTW, it's not necessary for you to share all her fantasies, just that you help her fulfill them. Of course, the same applies to her as well. This may take a lot of frank conversation and may not be easy for either of you to disclose inner desires that have never seen the light of day, but in the end you will have a better understanding of each other's desires for sexual fulfillment. I have one question for you. What if she had the same fantasy as yours? What if she disclosed a fantasy to you that she would enjoy seeing you with another man? How would you react? How would you help her to fulfill this fantasy, even though you may not share it? Good Luck!!! I hope this lifestyle helps you realize fantasies that you never even knew you had.

Hansel & Gretel

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I personally think you've taken the right steps. You've opened the door, now you just gotta wait for her to walk through. If she does great- if she doesn't then there isn't much you can do.

The best advice has been given- be patient and if she comes around, welcome!

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Applying any pressure will only cause her to resist. If and when she is ready, she will let you know.

I used to fantasize about my wife being with another man, or us swinging with another couple, when we were in bed making love. She never responded either, but one day she surprised me and said "either do something about it or shut up!"

So I set up a meeting with a couple from a swingers' site, and that's how we got started. Luckily, my wife really liked the guy right from the start. I suspect it might not have been so easy if she thought the first guy we met was a creep.

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