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Created by: uallenvyme Original Starting post for this thread:
Well im trying to get a hotwife, In a nut shell we are both military and over the last 7 years of marriage my wife has had 3 affairs. In the past they created a lot of drama. Well in time i have learned that i enjoy the idea of her fucking around but now she says she wants nothing to do with it cause she doesnt belive me. Is there any way that i can get her to trust that i want her to find some fuck buddys. Ive always heard once a cheater always a cheater and im praying thats true. She doesnt get mad when i tell her to fuck around just says no its not worth it. So in a nut shell do u think there is any hope of her ever fucking around again? thanks

Created by: uallenvyme
Original Starting post for this thread:

Well im trying to get a hotwife, In a nut shell we are both military and over the last 7 years of marriage my wife has had 3 affairs. In the past they created a lot of drama. Well in time i have learned that i enjoy the idea of her fucking around but now she says she wants nothing to do with it cause she doesnt belive me. Is there any way that i can get her to trust that i want her to find some fuck buddys. Ive always heard once a cheater always a cheater and im praying thats true. She doesnt get mad when i tell her to fuck around just says no its not worth it. So in a nut shell do u think there is any hope of her ever fucking around again? thanks

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User Details are only visible to members.	She enjoyed the secretive aspect that renders it "cheating." Without the feeling of doing something forbidden, dangerous, naughty, maybe sinful, she isn't going to enjoy the activity. Find someone who can participate as a couple in whatever it is you want to enjoy. Alternately, pretend you forgive her and trust her to never cheat again. You can secretly enjoy the side benefits of a happy, dripping recreant woman. The suggestion of inviting an attractive friend over for a party is a good idea as a test of her ability to take a step in the open. If she can't do it then either let her have her dirty little secret or get a better girl. BC
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User Details are only visible to members.	Sorry to say but your relationship sounds troubled and could end badly if you desire her to cheat on you. Hope things work out for you.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I don't envy you.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Aaaah I honestly don't know what to say. She has had 3 affairs and has changed her ways. Thats a great thing because without trust a marriage is just 2 roommates. Trust IS a marriage and without it you may as well get the lawyers. I think the crux of the matter is she has not forgiven herself for what she has done. It sounds like you have forgiven her but until she forgives herself and accepts your forgiveness and trust its just not going to work. At this point even if she were to fuck another man I doubt she would enjoy it because all she would be thinking about is whether or not you are really okay with things, do you really trust her, etc. etc. Swinging will make you or break you and thats the truth. I would take things very slowly. You telling her day after day just doesn't cut it, we believe what we see. So I would start out like we all start out pretty much. Go to clubs/meet and greets/parties just to chill out and immerse yourselves in the atmosphere. Just relax. The more you push her towards it the more she will resist. She has to do this in her own time. Eventually with your love and with you showing her that she has earned your trust again she will begin to embrace things again. And also know that swinging is not for everyone. She very well may never reach a place where she is comfortable here, and thats okay as well. Shell
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User Details are only visible to members.	Well im trying to get a hotwife, In a nut shell we are both military and over the last 7 years of marriage my wife has had 3 affairs. In the past they created a lot of drama. Well in time i have learned that i enjoy the idea of her fucking around but now she says she wants nothing to do with it cause she doesnt belive me. Is there any way that i can get her to trust that i want her to find some fuck buddys. Ive always heard once a cheater always a cheater and im praying thats true. She doesnt get mad when i tell her to fuck around just says no its not worth it. So in a nut shell do u think there is any hope of her ever fucking around again? thanks
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