Swinging and BDSM: Swingers Discussion 1544131011

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User Details are only visible to members.	And then we have to get those people to understand that its OK for people in that type of relationship with the husband being the sub, and the Wife the Domme. Same type of discrimination there.
Weston FL			Username hidden (47 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Our circle of friends that enjoy both continues to grow. Once people understand that bdsm and swinging aren't all or none activities it makes it easier to take as much or as little of each one and combine them into something that works for them.
Center Valley PA			Username hidden (8530 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It's funny we have friends on both sides of the coin, but none that do both. We started a swingers 'n kink group in the swing club we managed and did manage to get about 20 couples attending regularly. Many of whom saw quite a few of the things they were already doing in the bedroom were some of those very same things, us BDSM folk do. I think many of the problems are lack of education, especially from the swingers to the BDSMers. We heard many of times from vanilla swingers that BDSM was just a license to beat your partner, we tried to explain it and let them know it was not just about whips and chains, but many still didn't get it, or wouldn't even take the time to try and open their minds to something new. My Master/hubby is great at fire play, and he did demos at our club quite often. Was amazed at how many swingers actually tried it/ bottomed for it, once they saw him do some with me and asked me a million questions. There were even some who would come in on a Saturday night and ask him if he would pull the fire kit out. So sometimes I think unless people get a good understanding that it's not all about terrible pain and can be a lot of fun, they are afraid of it. They have to be willing though to have an open mind and at least hear what else is out there even if they never try it.
Hammond IN			Username hidden (441 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We are a married couple who are also Master/slave (not Master/doormat..lol). We are also swingers (quality not quantity). We have found that if we are upfront with people and explain to them that even though we are D/s they do not have to be, most are simply curious and ask us questions. Sure, there are those that have said, "You're not beating my wife!" to which we (He) has replied, "Whew! Glad we got that cleared up". (This couple are some of our best friends now..lol..and nope, never beat her once!) All kidding aside though, each "kink" has it's own group of people who are closed minded. Some who are only into spanking think S/M is nasty and some who enjoy B/D think spanking is horrid. It is human nature to be judgemental about something and some people are that way about these things. Swingers, D/s couples, M/s couples, Spankers.....most are just fun loving, NORMAL people who are simply looking for friends to hang out with and enjoy. Spydercpl (the she half :)
Poinciana FL			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	For us the draw is the props and the physical, psychology pleasure they provide, We don't live a d/s lifestyle in our daily lives,we actually are both A type personalities but after 25yrs of swinging, and having done everything you could think of, we have grown board with just having sex with other people.Along with the fact that the "props" have added so much pleasure to our personal sex life that we want to share that with others. So in the last couple of years we started trying to add the "props" as a way to spice things up. But like others,We are finding it hard to find others who are up to that type of play.
Dallas TX			Username hidden (2225 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	are swingers closed minded.....if its not something they like ,pretty much.and you know I don't bs.....BS
Kingston TN			Username hidden (1990 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	No looking down on anybody here. On behalf of us, WELCOME.
Weston FL			Username hidden (47 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	New to this site, but a lot of things in this thread ring true for us. We are a full time Master/slave couple. Slave L has been collard 247/365 for almost 5 years and for us its certainly not a game. That said however, we still do all things vanilla couples do, and if you saw us out for dinner, apart perhaps from Slave's collar, and the hight of her heels there is nothing to separate us from millions of other couples. However, of all the negative comments we've had about our chosen lifestyle, the most consistent come either from Swingers who seem to think we are freaks or from some BDSM types who seem to think we have "betrayed the cause" by swinging (or indeed some cases simple by actually fucking) I have to say, that for all their liberal credentials a lot of swingers seem to be completely freaked by anything which is not sex, I know this is a sweeping statement but a lot of swingers can't seem to get past the sex to the sexual. Also one of the other things I have noticed is the impact of booze, by and large the BDSM players tend not to mix Booze and play (let's face it if you sticking needles in someone you need to be 100% sober) however in our experiences a lot of swingers events are fuelled by booze. Invariably these leads to a very different atmosphere Master G
Havering United Kingdom			Username hidden (12 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	That could of course happen, but as you meet that couple several times and they get more comfortable with the lighter things you explain that you like more of it. Introduce it a little at a time and they may be more receptive in the long run and all will learn to enjoy. Of course, if you plan on it being a one time thing then this wont work very well.
Davenport FL			Username hidden (51 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"We find that by rewording it they are more open to it." That's certainly a useful tool, but also, I think, a double-edged sword. There will be some who will hear that "you like to have your bottom swatted" and with think, "OK, a couple of swats on the bottom wouldn't be bad." They assume that's all you want during the play. When you want to do a serious spanking, even if it's with your own partner, they'll be horrified. Or they'll think they've done their duty giving your sub partner a couple of swats and will want to move on to the more fun, vanilla sex part. If you're happy with the two swats and then just want to trade partners and swing, that won't be a problem. But if you were expecting the BDSM and sex to blend into one wonderful experience, you might be really disappointed and frustrated.
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