Help
FORUMS › General Discussions › BDSM › Protocol Etiquette
TOPIC: Protocol__Etiquette
Created by: SUBSparadise The original post for this thread was deleted.
1 
1 to 4 of 4
User Details are only visible to members.
A protocol is formalized agreed upon way of interacting. Usually a protocol is written, but whether oral or written, a protocol is immediately verifiable by experience. It is a code of behavior, a precedence, and procedure for interaction.

In D/s relationships protocol is set by the D, most often in consultation with the s. Protocol defines what is expected both ways, and lets the s know they are in obedience. A written household protocol provides consistency.

San Luis Obispo CA
Username hidden
(305 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Thanks Kat, Both for the compliment and summing up my thoughts so succinctly. My girl always says that once I get started with my mouth it just won't stop...

Round Rock TX
Username hidden
(30 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Protocol in the BDSM world would refer mostly to the rules of engagement for the scenario. For instance, at a party it is typically required by the host that there is no blood play for instance. Another protocol might be that if you are playing in certian areas that you are open to observation and play for others.

Etiquette on the other hand would be more rules for communication. For instance, no one should ever address a submissive directly without gaining the pemission of their master. It is also common etiquette to ask or gain permission of a D to play with their s in a fashion that has not been expressly granted to that point (i.e. it is not ok for you to bend a sub over and have sex with her if her Dom only told her to blow you.)

Round Rock TX
Username hidden
(30 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
most of my understanding of protocol involves communicating with people of different cultures, where you want to adapt in order not to offend. The etiquette of that would pertain more to things like handshakes, personal space, etc.

In swinging, protocol dictates that "the woman is in charge" (which I don't always subscribe to that), so the etiquette involved here pertains to not offending the woman.

Personally, protocol in swinging with strangers, for me, means that if you are a single male, you have to have a rapport with my husband as well as with me. Etiquette would be to effectively include him in conversation, plans, etc., and NOT just hover around me when he goes to get a drink or steps out for a smoke, and then avoid us when he returns. That has happened on two occasions, and when I was not interested in one of the cases, the man said I was racist instead of asking why I was not interested in him. Which is also why he looked rather surprised later to find me in the middle of about 4 attractive black men who knew the proper etiquette to match the desired protocol. They complimented me in front of my husband and got the "go ahead" from him.

It's a vague line, but I understand what you're getting across here. Thanks for this well thought out post.

San Antonio TX
Username hidden
(7602 posts)
1 
1 to 4 of 4
TOPIC: Protocol Etiquette
This site does not contain sexually explicit images as defined in 18 U.S.C. 2256.
Accordingly, neither this site nor the contents contained herein are covered by the record-keeping provisions of 18 USC 2257(a)-(c).
Disclaimer: This website contains adult material. You must be over 18 to enter or 21 where applicable by law.
All Members are over 18 years of age.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy
 
Copyright © 1998-2016 DashBoardHosting, LLC. All Rights Reserved.