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I'm not a dominant, but I can top. Do it well, too.

I'm not a sub, but I *love* to submit. Delicious.

There are lots of folks just looking for a scene, not a lifestyle.

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In my experience, Dominance and submission (in the context of D/s relationships) is kind of like sexual orientation. It's rarely either/or. Someone can have a Dominant personality in general, but that doesn't lock them into a prescribed role in the bedroom... though it can. I guess there can be a Kinsey Scale to D/s, with people moving in and out and along that scale as their interests and proclivities evolve.

Perhaps the most important thing is to celebrate anyone's genuine exploration of their sexuality, and to discourage artificial assignments and expectations of one's sexuality. The hardest part is to start with the self. Once a person is brutally honest with oneself, then he or she can best participate in a healthy sexual relationship.

Easier said than done, sometimes... alas.

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"Are you going to block me again now?"

Called that one.... Are you always this predictable? How gauche...

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LOL Gina! I adore you!

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Until I read Sed's response a few posts down, I thought Ghost was talking to himself. Again.

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"p.s. You need to get out of the habit of making assumptions about others, you've accused me of many, many untrue things [drinking, *suction boss* etc....] while I watched and have not responded in kind. Think about that for a moment."

You know I missed this at first but I got a good chuckle when I read it...

I've never 'accused' you of drinking (other than perhaps in banter?) the *suction boss* moniker was bestowed on you for your OWN comments that you have small teeth and no gag reflex. You have to admit it was a genius moniker and it pissed you off SO much that you had me suspended every time I used it. Ignored me? Hardly sister....

As I said though, you are very entertaining.

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Very funny Sed

I find it hilarious that when I respond in a conversational manner you run away from your comments made previously, ignore them or try to 're-twist' those comments in favor of whatever rhetoric of convenience comes to mind for you. Most times you simply insist that you are right and everyone else is wrong, never once answering the questions I raise or even responding to the comments.

Woe be to anyone who then endeavors to dissect your comments in detail, taking what you said in each case and responding, you then accuse them of all the ridiculous things you just accused me of or more. Or you call them names as you did this poster. Of course the one thing you NEVER do is triangulate some other forum member into the conversation to make that 'other' person seem even more 'wrong' or 'stupid'.

Honest discourse? Hardly, but you sound oh so impressive as you melt down darling :-)

You my dear Sed are the queen of deflection and everyone here knows it. Hell, you inspire entire flame wars with your ill conceived invective, then lash out at those respondents as somehow misinformed, lying or just dumb. Doubt me? Read this thread (if you don't have it deleted because you dislike the turn it has taken) from top to bottom and you could highlight every questionable behavior I just outlined...

And you accuse me of 'dishonest discourse'?

At least your are entertaining....sort of like Fox News; Not what they claim, not very good at what they claim, but at least they are entertaining.

Are you going to block me again now?

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I don't know if I should be honored or concerned, with so many posts all directed at me from the same person. Being the great mood that I'm in right now, I'll go with honored.

Ghost, you seem to be under the impression that if you copy and paste snipets, and then assign your interpretation to them, somehow my words will suddenly change.

They wont, this is a forum, most people don't have reading challenges and can read whole posts to understand the thread. You've done this to other people in the forums, which turned most of them away from responding to you. The tactic is a dishonest one, it's an attempt to twist the words of others in an attempt to advance your agenda. I do not engage in such a low level discourse, it's just a waste of time and leads to no where other than those who are accustomed to such debate pronouncing themselves the victorious winners of the debate. Reality is quite different though, when people with healthy reading abilities read the entire exchange.

You have yourself a great weekend, I certainly will.

p.s. You need to get out of the habit of making assumptions about others, you've accused me of many, many untrue things [drinking, *suction boss* etc....] while I watched and have not responded in kind. Think about that for a moment.

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“Being whipped, blindfolded, tied, gagged (insert your favorite SM activity) is mere play if there is no bending of the will. There is zero submission, zero dominance in such exchanges. That kind of interaction is for the purpose of arousal, consider it foreplay that sometimes leads to sex.”

Again, your opinion presented as fact. Oh, and when someone disagrees with you simply attack them for being stupid or not listening. Are we beginning to hear the chorus yet? One Twue Way (TM)! MY way! --------------------

“I am a dominant, as is my spouse. Husband though, is by far more dominant than I am, and has been bending my will for over 25 years. I am not a submissive, I am not a bottom, I am dominated.”

And you are also one of the rarest and least likely of BDSM relationships that has any chance of longevity. You should be proud of this instead of forcefully insisting that everyone else cleave to your norms. Sadly, I doubt you can see your own behavior anymore than you can see your elbow without a mirror… -------------------------------

“I am being submissive when husband successfully dominates me. But I am not a submissive. "

"I still can't get over that bullshit that circulates in the BDSM circles, that submission is a gift! please! keep that gift, it's conditional :).”

Ahh, so when someone disagrees you slander them. Then perform a little transference and claim they are emotional and slandering you. Clever but transparent. ----------------------------

“When was the last time you opened up a dictionary? if not recently, please do yourself a favor and look up the meaning of the word submissive. "

"In my experience, people who shout that others shouldn't judge are probably the most judgmental of all. Everybody judges, some of us are just more honest about it. “

These two, placed next to each other, speak for themselves. Do you ever actually read what you write before you post it? -----------------

I’m getting bored with this now…maybe more later.. ;)

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“Dominant is what you are, a personality, you either have it or you don't. You can not switch it on and off.”

You do love to beat on semantics and word meanings don’t you? Yes Sed, ‘Dominant’ is what you are. You can also ‘display dominance’, ‘dominate a person’, have a dominant personality and be in a ‘dominant position’ all without ‘being a Dominant’. I happen to agree with you, but I also know some pretty convincing switches… But again you state it as fact leaving no one an inch to disagree., and when and if someone DOES challenge you, you point to this 'definition' as a way to shut down any debate. See anything dysfunctional here?

“It has nothing to do with with general BDSM and everything to do with dominance and submission, which is where the thread has meandered to. “

I think you are attempting to dominate the conversation, but then that's your MO now isn't it? ---------------------------------

“It has nothing to do with Master or slaves or any labels, and everything with logic.”

Your logic. My logic says differently. Why is yours better, because you said so? ---------------------------------------

“We're talking about dominance and submission. Not a scene, not playing.”

To some they are one and the same. Who set you in place to make the rules and definitions? Another cobble in this long path of One Twue Way (TM) statements…

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