Maybe this is why bdsm and swinging seems at odds: Swingers Discussion 2006661021

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TOPIC: Maybe this is why bdsm and swinging seems at odds

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User Details are only visible to members.	Pixie and Dixie I'm curious who is the author of your post. The male or femaile? Are you both this way or just one of you? Are you a switch, depending on circumstances? When you are topping are you a dominant at that point and conversely, when you are bottoming, are you a submissive at that point? I'm just trying to understand your point.
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User Details are only visible to members.	PixieNdixie, So perfectly stated! Bravo!
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12216 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	sirandp wrote: "... discourage artificial assignments and expectations of one's sexuality." Agreed. Avoid labels. Be sex positive. It's less important to belong to any one particular camp than it is to be the best you can be for her (or making it possible for her to be the best she can be for herself).
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User Details are only visible to members.	I'm not a dominant, but I can top. Do it well, too. I'm not a sub, but I love to submit. Delicious. There are lots of folks just looking for a scene, not a lifestyle.
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User Details are only visible to members.	In my experience, Dominance and submission (in the context of D/s relationships) is kind of like sexual orientation. It's rarely either/or. Someone can have a Dominant personality in general, but that doesn't lock them into a prescribed role in the bedroom... though it can. I guess there can be a Kinsey Scale to D/s, with people moving in and out and along that scale as their interests and proclivities evolve. Perhaps the most important thing is to celebrate anyone's genuine exploration of their sexuality, and to discourage artificial assignments and expectations of one's sexuality. The hardest part is to start with the self. Once a person is brutally honest with oneself, then he or she can best participate in a healthy sexual relationship. Easier said than done, sometimes... alas.
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User Details are only visible to members.	"Are you going to block me again now?" Called that one.... Are you always this predictable? How gauche...
East Fishkill NY			Username hidden (2772 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	LOL Gina! I adore you!
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User Details are only visible to members.	Until I read Sed's response a few posts down, I thought Ghost was talking to himself. Again.
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User Details are only visible to members.	"p.s. You need to get out of the habit of making assumptions about others, you've accused me of many, many untrue things [drinking, suction boss etc....] while I watched and have not responded in kind. Think about that for a moment." You know I missed this at first but I got a good chuckle when I read it... I've never 'accused' you of drinking (other than perhaps in banter?) the suction boss moniker was bestowed on you for your OWN comments that you have small teeth and no gag reflex. You have to admit it was a genius moniker and it pissed you off SO much that you had me suspended every time I used it. Ignored me? Hardly sister.... As I said though, you are very entertaining.
East Fishkill NY			Username hidden (2772 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Very funny Sed I find it hilarious that when I respond in a conversational manner you run away from your comments made previously, ignore them or try to 're-twist' those comments in favor of whatever rhetoric of convenience comes to mind for you. Most times you simply insist that you are right and everyone else is wrong, never once answering the questions I raise or even responding to the comments. Woe be to anyone who then endeavors to dissect your comments in detail, taking what you said in each case and responding, you then accuse them of all the ridiculous things you just accused me of or more. Or you call them names as you did this poster. Of course the one thing you NEVER do is triangulate some other forum member into the conversation to make that 'other' person seem even more 'wrong' or 'stupid'. Honest discourse? Hardly, but you sound oh so impressive as you melt down darling :-) You my dear Sed are the queen of deflection and everyone here knows it. Hell, you inspire entire flame wars with your ill conceived invective, then lash out at those respondents as somehow misinformed, lying or just dumb. Doubt me? Read this thread (if you don't have it deleted because you dislike the turn it has taken) from top to bottom and you could highlight every questionable behavior I just outlined... And you accuse me of 'dishonest discourse'? At least your are entertaining....sort of like Fox News; Not what they claim, not very good at what they claim, but at least they are entertaining. Are you going to block me again now?
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