Maybe this is why bdsm and swinging seems at odds: Swingers Discussion 2006661071

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TOPIC: Maybe this is why bdsm and swinging seems at odds

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User Details are only visible to members.	Jason685 -- I think your slave summed it up well. Also swinging a lot of times is about drinking. Alcohol places a large part in swinging to loosen people up so that they lose control. However with BDSM if someone loses control people could end up in the hospital, scarred mentally or physically for life or dead. I think a lot of swingers also have misinformation about bdsm. They don't understand that hair pulling, securing hands or legs, ass slapping, demeaning sexual talk, hot wax.. are all peaks into BDSM play. Also another thing that will keep the two groups apart in "most areas" is the view of people. In bdsm you have Tops/scene tops that they are happy to find any bottom that they can play with it does not matter about their sex, shape, size or race. Where in swinging people are mostly looking for what they are attracted to. If the package isn't appealing they aren't interested in even having a conversation.. The hunt must go on. In the Richmond area it is dam difficult to locate HWP, attractive people that enjoy both worlds. One more difference is the mental aspect. The bdsm mental aspect of submitting to someone can be very over whelming and intoxicating. This can be very difficult to share that ...plus the sex with someone. It makes it easier to share one or the other, but more difficult to share both at the same time.
Charles City VA			Username hidden (22 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My slave came up with a fairly succinct reason. BDSM is about trust. Swinging is about thrust. I thought that said it pretty well.
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User Details are only visible to members.	In my opinion, to this day the best BDSM 'groups' are underground and do not advertise anywhere. You find out about them if you happen to meet someone involved that likes what you bring (read that usually as experience AND exceptional attitude) and invites you to visit with them. At some point you may be invited to the core group as well. In this, the community hasn't changed all that much since the 70's. These are just small groups of friends for the most part that have more trust between them than a swinging group normally would and keep their raks very close, even family-like. This takes time and a certain grace as in any social situation but the rewards, though slow to accrue, are well worth it. In today's instant gratification society this is a natural filter for these groups to the bullshitters and bad attitudes, and tends to simply reject them by exclusion. Those in that social group often have better places to share their kink/knowledge/playtime and thus even if you DO meet them in the same places/websites/clubs/etc as swingers, you may not know they are interested in bdsm beyond simple bedroom play. Also, due to the higher drama rates in the swing community vs the bdsm community, outing oneself as into serious 'play' pass-times can be a multi-edged tool. It can be fun to talk with newbies and offer grounded opinions, but it can also attract a difficult element of drama, forum queens, One Twue Way (TM) proselytizers and frustration of having to function in unmoderated spaces where trolls are allowed, nay encouraged, to begin flame wars over the most minute ideological differences. So, what's left for sites such as SLS, aff or alt in my opinion are the fringes. The newbies. The misfits and outcasts...and of course the slummers...lol. I freely admit to being every one of those at some point... Which one are you?
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