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User Details are only visible to members.	Sweettart, you make a valid point that hits home in that in most cases, when I've played the submissive, I have indeed still been in charge. Topping from the bottom is the phrase that was used. It's rare for me to let go of my non-submissive (demanding alpha) traits. If a man can't correctly use (or spell) the words dominant, dominants, and dominance, well.... right away I could never submit. Bad breath? Forget about it. There's a rare combination of sexual attraction and intelligence and not being a prick that seems so hard to find in a playmate for me.
Newark DE			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Wow it's a regular handywoman fest tonight! Another nail! That's exactly how I felt in past encounters with a true dominant... There was no choice as to if I was going to submit, I was. And it's THAT feeling that I'd like to have again. I'm lucky that Mr. Favorite is supportive in this even tho it's not his cuppa, now it's just becoming a question of how. Thanks!
Newark DE			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Favorite, i don't think as a dominant female you will every really be able to experance full submission, you may be able to experance acts that resemble submission, but it will only be because you gave permission. Not true at all :). When I'm dominated successfully, I have no other choice but to submit, I'm just not a submissive :)
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12717 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Pervy, you hit the nail on the head. Mr Favorite doesn't WANT to be dominant in the bedroom but is willing to help me fulfill my desire for this type of play. That being said, we're at a loss as to how to make it feel "real", and not so much like a scene from a bad porno. He's come a long way from the "bdsm means hitting someone" days when we first met but I don't think his developing a sexually dominant personality is in the cards. I can't remember who posted the suggestion, but I think attending a munch or 101 type class might be our next step. Or at least be a helpful venue in which to find someone to join us in the scenario I desire.
Newark DE			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Favorite, i don't think as a dominant female you will every really be able to experance full submission, you may be able to experance acts that resemble submission, but it will only be because you gave permission. My wife is like that, because of many of the sexuall acts she enjoys people think she is a sub, but thst couldn't be farther from the truth, she is allways in control and calls all the shots,and if someone trys to do something she does not what done are tries to go all alph on her she will put them in their place real quick.
Dallas TX			Username hidden (2225 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	FC - There are many ways to approach BDSM... you don't necessarily have to jump straight into an intense scene. You can start out with something as simple as having him tie your hands together over your head, or making him direct you while you masturbate... anything that has him exert control, no matter how slight, is good. You can always crank up the intensity when you feel the need, but it's very difficult to recover from starting out with too much intensity. If you're the more dominant partner in the day to day life, you could always try something akin to "You're the boss in the bedroom, I'm the boss everywhere else". Chances are, though... if, as you've mentioned, he has a demanding job where he's always in charge, his lack of interest might be more about not wanting to be in control "when i'm relaxing"... that's going to be difficult to overcome.
Modesto CA			Username hidden (133 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Favorite... First is to talk to hubby about it. If he does not want to or cannot help you explore the next step would be to see if he is ok with you exploring your submissive desires with someone else. He can certainly be there, maybe he does not want to be. How much he is involved is up to the two of you to decide. This is where being swingers help because many are used to having other people involved.
San Jose CA			Username hidden (39 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I was hoping to actually read someones reply about how they were able to act on their submissive desires within a relationship that didn't have that dynamic already in place. As the very dominant female half, I relate to what the OP is saying in that when someone is the alpha in a relationship that functions quite will in that regard, it's incredibly hard to even imagine submitting to the less alpha partner. Mr. Favorite is a wonderful partner who exhibits dominant qualities in his life and job every day but doesn't care to be sexually dominant. While I would like to play the submissive, it just doesn't feel right to either one of us. Even the domiest dom in domland won't be able to teach him that. I totally agree with whoever ( actually I think it was BOTH parties) said that that personality trait can't be taught when it comes to sexual dominance. You either have it or you don't. Hoping someone else will chime in with how they successfully managed to satisfy their desires as well as keep their partner involved, cuckolding isn't for either one of us.
Newark DE			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Seduction Apparently you do not read my posts very carefully. Here is what I said early on in this thread "I did not say that you can create dominance where dominance does not exist. But simply because one has dominant DNA does not create an ability to be a good or successful dominant." I don't see where you get to be the judge of the quality of anyone else's dominance and submission. To each his own. If one feels they are a dominant then they have a lot to learn about how to express their dominance effectively and safely. One is not born with this ability.
Green Bay WI			Username hidden (109 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	This will be my last post on the subject, out of respect for the OP's request: Jason, you can say anything that you'd like, you can invent and imagine any fuzzy bubbalee that make you feel all gooey and warm on the inside. You are either dominant, or you are not. Dominant is not a trait, it's a personality, it's how a person carries themselves, thinks, interacts, decides, every single day. A dominant does not have a switch that can be turned off or on. It's either there, or it isn't. Dominance, does not equate to beating people, it does not equal to barking orders, or a set of steps that you memorized and are now carrying out like a good little pupil. It's simply not. I can teach you to throw a mean single tail, I can teach you to bullwhip, I can teach you to cut, I can teach you needles, I can teach you breath play, I can teach you ritualistic invisibility, I can teach you any physical aspect of scening in the BDSM arena. I can not teach you dominance. ANYONE that claims that they can is simply ignorant. You can call me judgmental, you can refer to me as someone that is not fun to play with (as if I'd even entertain the thought of playing with you), you can call me anything you'd like if that's what brings you comfort. Reality though is entirely different, and no dominant worth his hide would ever attempt to change this fact. Good day. .the-estate.co m/
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12717 post)

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