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User Details are only visible to members.	I think one of the challenges of blending swinging with bdsm is that bdsm is so expansive. The variety of activities, toys and mind fucks can be over whelming. I love the diversity of the pan sexual community, but for a new person it can be scary and disturbing. A new person does not know what to expect and they may have stereotypes that are misleading. It's also true that a lot of dominant men are idiots. So put those two together and not much good will come of it. Good bdsm play with others takes time and negotiation. You should know what kind of play to expect before ever beginning. A dom who cannot respect the limits and needs of the submissive is not a dom worthy of respect. If swingers want to explore bdsm with others then they need to learn the art of negotiation. It's not something the swinger community usually does. But it is critical in bdsm play.
Green Bay WI			Username hidden (83 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I wanted to cross post this from another thread... In addition to all of the work that a Dominant puts into a 'scene', some, like myself was Mentored doing even more. For instance, I make all of the leather that will ever touch MrsMuir's body. It takes more time and certainly more effort, but it is so valuable to ME as it allows me to contemplate all aspects of it as I make it. Will this rub, or cut her in heavy use. Will it be the exact right size? Will she be able to wear it for long periods without any ill effects? I put the same care into my floggers and paddles. NEVER has an impact tool touched her skin before it I knew on my own skin, how it would feel to her. I also choose her dress for parties and 'lifestyle' (how I dislike that word) events. The preparations involved in Nawa-do (the way of the rope) are even more extensive. The list is nearly endless. And I would not have it ANY other way.
East Fishkill NY			Username hidden (2772 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mr. Ghost ~~ My favorite part :) kat
Morgantown PA			Username hidden (2965 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	PAFunCouple ~~ Thank you so much :) twofreaky ~~ I'm not sure what you mean when you say you're not sure if you're into it yet, and what happens if you "only want to be the dom one?" Is this the male or female posting? It doesn't matter if you're male or female - you need to go with what is in your nature. What comes natural. Please understand, though, many people are neither Dom nor sub (or switch). For now, read, Google and explore. Part of the fun is the journey. You may find that yes, you are a Dom/Domme! Or, you may find you simply enjoy rough sex now and then or doing scenarios. Either way, it's all good. Your play is your play. I just think it's great that you're exploring :) kat
Morgantown PA			Username hidden (2965 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And of course, the time alone with our pets AFTER the [event. party, performance, et al] is the best of all. What we 'work for' so to speak.....
East Fishkill NY			Username hidden (2772 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	question, is it a problem when only one partner is interested, i am not into as of yet but searching for some answers, i need a coach, and is it as fun if i only want to be the dom one, i know little but need to know more of the rules,.
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User Details are only visible to members.	wow STARRY NIGHTS HAVE TO SAY VERY HOTT PROFILE AND YOUR BODS ARE HOTT ALSO
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User Details are only visible to members.	BDSM play should always be negotiated when playing with someone new. Any good dom wants and needs to know the submissives limits. I would make sure we are all on the same page before ever going forward. If there is any nervousness then her top dom should watch and be prepared to step in if needed. The new dom should be briefed before play of any concerns. If the new dom can't or won't understand the importance of these things then playing should not be an option. Bdsm is about control and submission. It is not about unlimited pain or any other non consensual acts. The submissive has the right to set limits and the dom has the obligation to play within those limits and the top dom has the right of ultimate control. The new dom only plays with the consent and oversight of top dom. Playing with others is great fun, but there needs to be trust and confidence. If the other players do not inspire confidence, then either the mix is wrong or the limits have not been negotiated sufficiently. Have the new dom start slowly and work up with the submissive. The objective should be that all have a good time and that the scene end well. Find people to play with that have this understanding and you can go a long way. Good luck.
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User Details are only visible to members.	"I have not ever asked her but my guess is she would not be able to trust another master to play with her and not hurt her." Bob, this is interesting to say. After 21 years of kink you need to have another Dom have her (just my opinion). It's necessary for her development as a sub. As for the "hurting her" you need to have a conversation before hand, with the D, to map out the parameters. I was just having this conversation with Kat because this is where we are in our development. She needs to learn how to please another D. This is for my development also.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Check out my group and newsletter. BDSM + Swing = More Fun. We started with bdsm and I know that there are a lot of closet bdsm urges out there. Bdsm is a perfect fit with swinging when you can find the right people. This a new group and might be a good fit. Please add your comments, suggestions and questions. We are here, we just have to find and teach and play with each other. My newsletter is designed to make sure we are all on the same page as to how we play. It needs always to be safe, sane and consensual. (SSC). That way everybody has fun in a safe way. Good luck and best wishes.
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