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TOPIC: Can a Submissive Woman Also Be a Feminist?
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Or can a feminist woman be sexually submissive? This is a big issue for some. Does feminism preclude being sexually submissive OR should feminism give all women the right to choose their sexual preferences? Many are conflicted and confused on this point. Here is an interesting article on this topic. Here is one quote: "Submissive kinky women are far from the shrinking violets that BDSM's critics have characterized them as being and in many cases, they are women who know exactly what they want in a relationship." This article includes quotes from some of the top women in BDSM and sexual freedom. It is very well articulated. I think you may learn something.

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I find that a lot of swingers are confused or conflicted about bdsm because it seems so contrary to what we are being taught about how to treat others. It seems so un-PC. Understanding and accepting our bdsm urges give us the freedom to explore and enjoy whatever is our particular desire. This article and others that I will be recommending can give you insight and perhaps the courage to step out and explore your fantasies.

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Interesting question and it goes back to the beginnings of the Women's Movement. There were two main camps that butted heads with each other. One said women must be free of sex and being seen as sexual was demeaning (seeing it as a masculine demand imposed upon women) . The other camp said women must be free to have the sex as they wished, whenever and whoever they wished on equal footing with the perceived sexual freedom of men. The two that most exemplified this were Gloria Steinem and Betty Frenen who frequently butted heads over this.

In the latter view, women are free to be sexual as much as they want and in any ways they want. Being dominatrix or submissive are equally valid from a feminist point of view because you are free to choose as you like. So there is nothing inconsistent with submissive and feminist (just don't let Gloria Steinem know, lol).

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I was telling Ms.Cougar about his thread last night. and she said how much she enjoys being held down by a strong man with arms above head(I do it to her all the time) but I realized last night just exactly how much she loves it. She doesn't even want to be able to move her arms. She loves that powerless feeling when a nice cock is in her pussy. One thing though when she says let go it's best to let go lol. trust me I have wrestled with her enough

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Feminism should be the right of a woman to be what she wants to be, right?

A woman who realizes that her sexual desires are to be submissive would be feminist if she embraced and expressed her desires confidently. Just as a woman who wants to be a housewife can be a housewife while supporting the right for another woman to be a CEO if that is what she wanted.

A better question might be: Why do some seem to think that a woman who wants to be submissive or wants to be the stereotypical "kept" woman is unable to be a feminist?

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To answer the OP yes if by feminist you mean an emotionally stable,assertive take no shit kinda chick . My girl was my business manager for years and still is. If I was short handed on a pour she'd put on her boots and get right in the thick of the operation. Then that night she'd put on her silk boxers and a skimpy top and cuddle next to me on the couch and seduce me and as tired as I was she was always successful . Once in the bedroom she has always wanted to to be held tight, kissed deep and fucked slow,hard and deep(well as deep as I can go lol) but she also likes the feeling of a strong man that is passionate that will hold her down and make her feel as if he is taking something from her but the truth of the matter is she is taking something from him. So yeah a feminist can be very submissive

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I'm one of those women... I'm in charge of the kids; I'm in charge of the house; I'm in charge of dinner; I'm in charge of the Booster organization, etc. so when it comes to sex I just want a man to be in charge!

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I understand the "spirit" of Lost's comment, I was just clarifying.

DD, I've heard that for years, and even though some judge the behavior odd, it seems many find it very rewarding and even therapeutic. I say as long as no one is being harmed (that doesn't want to be), get your D/s on and work it. LOL.

Feminism is like so many other things we deal with in these few days we have on the big blue marble. Some feel you're not a REAL feminist unless you're out marching in parades or just generally trying to break the balls of every guy you know. We fully support women's rights and equality on every level and in every facet of life, but my wife loves a guy who takes the lead in the bedroom. It's one of the reasons we clicked from the beginning and have been together for so long.

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Personally I think people have many facets so sure. Why not?


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I don't have any experience with this, but I have heard that people often take on very different roles in the bedroom and often extremely powerful men often develop a kink to be dominated in the bedroom. After being in charge of people all day and making decisions, it can be a relief to be told exactly what to do. Perhaps the same holds true with female submissives.

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that sounds as if you're saying it's either be a feminist or be a door mat. pretty sure there's a lot of room between those two.

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Ummm yes we can. Because I am attracted to men that take control and are in the lead does NOT mean that I am a doormat to be walked all over. The submissive is in control of the situation, and if a sub ever feels like she has no safe word or input, she may want to look at their D/s relationship. I love being submissive to my husband and lovers in the bedroom. I crave it. However, if he does anything that I am uncomfortable with or do not like...I will voice my opinion.


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