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TOPIC: BDSM_+_Swing_=_More_Fun
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I am one of those optimistic types who think bdsm and swing can go together very well. To that end, I have created a group and a newsletter and now a forum topic dedicated to this pursuit. I have written 9 newsletters so far. Mostly dedicated to beginners and novices. They are all called BDSM + Swing = More Fun. It seems impossible to find my newsletter. This website can be kinda clunky and I haven't figured out it's nuances. I don't know how to make it visible to you or how you can search for it. I don't know how this system works to promote it. So I am going to post excerpts here for discussion. The only way I know of for you to read the newsletter is for me to invite you. So I will invite people who post here. The newsletter will serve as a starting point for new discussions. From what I have seen there is a lively debate amongst some members. I like that. I would love to hear comment on the first 9 issues. Are they useful for newbies? You tell me.

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If any of you are in/near the Philadelphia area on the first Thursday's of the month (tonight) there is a BDSM/swing party at the Pleasure Garden Club! The event is called Pleasurecation. As the name implies, there is always an education theme for the night. Tonight is fire massage. It starts with an hour of education and then comes the play/exploration for the remainder of the evening. 9pm-2am. It's complete with an active dungeon master and plenty of opportunities to enlighten. Come out and play if you can!

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the two are very doable if everyone is positive and aware.We are in Lewes De.

Lewes DE
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We agree so much that the two cab exist. She loves to be dominated. She is also a strong woman. Her dom, was awesome, I was there and WE worked her over as i guided what only I knew were her triggers. We also ended up swapping wifes, doing a dp, and FUN happened. We are new and reaching out, especially since we are going on the cruise. Glad to see this, we tjink the two can and do go together.

Savannah GA
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hi thanks for the opportunity to have an open dialog about this subject. we r new to this site. we r a swing couple who r at the beginning of exploring the bdsm side of our relationship. we have also found a bit of a disconnect between the two. we have been told the two can't coexist. I don't see why. when in group or any other swing setting she leaves all decisions as to who. where when to me. this dynamic is very strong in her. any partner must be the dominant type. now there r varying degrees to this. we r accepting of those limits in others. she is willing to have fun with you as long as you take control. when we r alone we experiment in a much stronger way. swinging is an open minded setting. at least its supposed to be. we accept our partners being with others, being bisexual, how is this variant any different? we don't like others who are vanilla judging us for what we do. so how is it right to judge others for their kink? we would very much like an invite to the news letter. thanks

Johnston RI
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We have mixed the two very well. Everyone has their levels ...if they are interested. For those swingers who we meet that are not into it in any way shape or form, it never becomes a problem. We don't engage and we don't bring it up again. We have a great times either way.

For those that do enjoy a bit of BDSM play, oh wow what I time we have had.

When it comes down to it...it's preference. Just like anything Swing, no one goes past anyone else comfort levels.

Meeting with those that are curious, it's just common sense, safe and sane play with seeing what they may want to try and going at it slow and with safe words. Some may enjoy just some small lighter aspects of it and that's just fine too. Either way we all have fun sensual times.

Fort Myers FL
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This is pertinent to our interests.

Spring TX
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me and my girl who is a very loyal and dedicated sub / slave met on a BDSM site the only problem I can see here is that Domming somebody else's sub might hurt your subs feeling due to the dynamic in a DOM sub relationship.....most subs enjoy physical pain not many very few enjoy emotional pain. it's a very slippery slope in my opinion.

Bellingham WA
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"how do you punish a woman who's been your equal for 12 years?"

SomethingG,

You're misunderstanding the dynamic that goes on here.

What you are doing with your wife might be considered punishment or abuse in other contexts, but you are giving her things that she enjoys physically and/or mentally. This is not real punishment. People often refer to it as "punishment," using the quotation marks to indicate that it's not really that.

Some people into BDSM like to expand the role play by pretending that the sub has done something wrong and deserves the "punishment." That's fine. However, bad girls don't get "punishment." Only good girls get "punishment." Some subs will misbehave deliberately to get "punished," but that's what's called topping from the bottom and is an attempt to manipulate the dom into giving the sub what he/she wants. Good doms never "punish" subs who try to manipulate them.

Real punishment is an attempt to correct behavior. There could be a long debate over how effective punishment is in that regard -- as opposed to making the person who misbehaves better at not getting caught at it.

If you're really asking how you can give your sub all the pain she wants, that's a common problem that I can't really tell you how to solve. It's a fact that husband doms have trouble being as severe as their wife subs would like. Part of the solution is understanding that you're doing it because they enjoy it. Getting feedback after the session can help with that. But in my experience, that's not the whole solution.

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We are interested in the topic. We have dabbled in bdsm and experienced the friction (no pun) between it and swinging. An invite would be appreciated. D&D

Salt Lake City UT
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Agree with JustMe...BDSM is much deeper. There is a subset of swingers to which BDSM appeals, but it is clearly not the majority of swingers. So, you just need to find the right ones.

JustMe...as a side note...we were probably neighbors...grew up in Vineland.

Palm Coast FL
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