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TOPIC: BDSM + Swing = More Fun
Created by: Jason685
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I am one of those optimistic types who think bdsm and swing can go together very well. To that end, I have created a group and a newsletter and now a forum topic dedicated to this pursuit. I have written 9 newsletters so far. Mostly dedicated to beginners and novices. They are all called BDSM + Swing = More Fun. It seems impossible to find my newsletter. This website can be kinda clunky and I haven't figured out it's nuances. I don't know how to make it visible to you or how you can search for it. I don't know how this system works to promote it. So I am going to post excerpts here for discussion. The only way I know of for you to read the newsletter is for me to invite you. So I will invite people who post here. The newsletter will serve as a starting point for new discussions. From what I have seen there is a lively debate amongst some members. I like that. I would love to hear comment on the first 9 issues. Are they useful for newbies? You tell me.

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Willbmore,

Here are some books you or your friend might read to start:

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism

The Loving Dominant

Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex

Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely

The Master's Manual

The New Bottoming Book

These are not necessarily going to be in your local library!

ST

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How does one get started in this style. I mean how do find out you like it in the beginning. Do you wake up one morning and say I am going to let someone tie me up and beat me to see if it will make me cum? I have a friend that I am wondering if that would be something they would like but I don't have knowledge or experience to help or even talk intelligent about it.

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I just don't cum in this particular thread often enough.....but I get all tingly each time I do. I might need to go read that blog ummmm

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What could be more erotic than exploring different ways of exciting your partner? Labels are so restrictive - why does everyone have to fit into a neat little category? Many people find different aspects of BDSM to be exciting and an interesting addition to sexual play. I am often surprised at how many people of both genders respond when they encounter a woman dressed in sexy leather. It's not a bad thing.

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Wife and I are into the more sensual side of D/s. Found dominantsoul's blog on wordpress to really resonate with us.

No affiliation at all, but found it to be very interesting.

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In my opinion, BDSM connects strongly three ways.

The process is truly mental, physical along with a pain aspect. It becomes truly special when all three converge and your Dom allows you to orgasm.

It's so different than plain sex. The process can go for hours, with stops and then a flurry of activity, while you are suspended in a highly sexually aroused state. If you haven't tried it, find a trusting Dom to send you on a wild journey.

People's who haven't experienced BDSM are most likely to focus on the pain aspect and dark tones of the process and overlook it as a sexual outlet.


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Would love an invite. BDSM is something I have always wanted to experiment with, but finding a partner whom I can fully trust has been difficult.

Omaha NE
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Just another column on my spreadsheet dontchaknow

Youngstown OH
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@ Nic

written as someone who knows how to "look" for those special moments (any moment) that allows for punishment (how wonderfully wicked).

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Welcome to the forum icing....

I tend to think couples who start out as swingers then transition into a D/s relationship have a much greater chance of success than those who come from a BDSM background and then start swinging.

The BDSMers tend to be about structure and control and swinging adds another element that is still very foreign to them, the idea of sharing their partner with others. Swingers have that part sorted out and now are adding another dimension to the relationship by the sub giving control to her Dom.

It's good that you have a contract but if this is the sub writing, your Dom may have to punish you for laughing it off. ;^D

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