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User Details are only visible to members.	<Did you not add words?> I did and I stand corrected on this point. I should have said that the impression I got was that she said (fill in the blank). I apologize for my lack of clarity but NOT for illustrating how it could have been interpreted. >Key phrase " but that's how it came across to me. " Exactly... MY opinion on how to interpret it. Just as YOU have YOUR opinion. What else is there? <are you sure you have not taken this personal? lol... I am very sure that I'm not taking it personally. If you read one of my earlier responses you'll see that I've had exactly ONE negative response because of my weight. >I agree that us "BBW/BHM" do tend to hear some negativity involving our role in the swingers realm. But YOU have based one sentence(added your own twist) into something that is clearly not anything other than a compliment in more or words (Doesnt matter you look great to us) BECAUSE bbw's/bhm do hear negativity all the time, it's important that things NOT be open to misinterpretation. >So are you saying that A couple as such as central can not find a couple who may be a bit "BBW/BHM" attractive? I have never said anything like that, nor will I. Why are you trying to broaden this in to other issues? >You can read all you want into my text or centrals, but since you were not theyre to know what she was thinking, you were not there to see facial expressions I find it odd that you consider yourself so INTUNED to waht people type on here! You're obviously NOT understanding the issue I've raised at all. My comments then and now are to point out that her statement COULD be interpreted in ways she did not intend. Without knowing her... without seeing her, ALL you have are the words and how they are put together. I'm sure that all of us have sent or received an email that left us saying "I wonder what they mean by that?" The question comes up because you can't see the person who wrote it. >Also,When people feel the need to stick up and defend a group of people over nothing done wronged? It doesnt make you a hero, it makes you a presumptious ASS! So, every time the aclu, the jdl, madd or any group calls on a politician to clarify what they said (even if the politician intended no harm), then those groups are acting the role of the presumptuous ass? The politicians will be happy to hear that.
Columbia MD			Username hidden (1270 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	LOL. L o fucking L. I'm immature, heh? Seems im not the only one. EXPO, you gave us youre fucking measurements and asked what we think, do you constitute a bbw, that WAS youre question. No where did you say 'why do we put labels on ourselves?' You are asking us to label you. Youre ridiculous. Also, you started this topic just for those who have met you, know your fat percentage, how much you can bench, what? I cant say anything because you don't like me is all not because I dont know how you carry yourself.
Wheatland CA			Username hidden (1123 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I typed one response and quickly deleted it, but I will say this.... I see nothing wrong with what Central posted, and YES..... I(Mrs. Things) am fluffy around my edges. Call me whatever you want . Give me any silly label. My tummy is my badge of honor for bringing life into this world. My hips are great for my grand-daughter to ride upon while I hold her, my breasts are plump pillows for her head. If you are all into interpretting other's posts, then here is my interpretation of Central's post. It said to me that she is fine the way she looks regardless of whatever her size. To me it said don't worry about a "label", it's only a name. Guess I need to stop reading the Forums again. This doesn't seem to be about trying to make lifestyle connections anymore, just bashing, name calling, and nitpicking.
Honolulu HI			Username hidden (1488 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	>Don't you just love how others misinterpret this stuff? Everybody interprets everything they read, hear and feel through their own experiences. >Orwell, go back and re-read Central's post. Orwell, you added the word NO to his statement when you quoted him, so you are the guilty one. I added that to turn it in to a conversational illustration. I've gone back and reread it with and without the "no" and I don't see a difference in the meaning. But since YOU misinterpretted what I meant, it pretty much confirms what I've been saying... that HOW you say something matters, not just what you say. No one can correctly interpret everything that another person says.
Columbia MD			Username hidden (1270 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	>Orwell, we don't care how it comes across to you! Thanks for making my point.... YOU know what you mean, but not everyone else may interpret your words the way you intend. And you'll notice that another poster also agreed that your comment could be misinterpreted. All I have said, and will continue to say, is that HOW you say something is as important as WHAT you say.
Columbia MD			Username hidden (1270 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	>I really feel you are now an ANGRY victim of so called "Im BHM/BBW, everyone picks on me" Therefore you refuese to take anything at face value only becasue you feel everyone who may not be "BHM/BBW" is out to make your feelings hurt! Now who is making ASSumptions? My wife and I have had an open relationship for more than 20 years and have been swinging (parties and such) for about a decade. In that time, I've been turned down once because of my weight. She's been turned down once as well. Hardly fits your melodramatic assumption, does it? My comments come from years of watching posts and replies on usenet. Even in groups that were designed to favor bbw's, you saw messages like "FINALLY someone posts a pretty woman" implying that all the other posts were not or "can someone post some pretty SSBBW's, not those light bbw's." Both comments were intended to compliment a certain woman/body type, but both ended up hurting the feelings of those that DIDN'T fit that body type because of the way they were phrased. Over the years I've seen at least a dozen lovely women stop posting because of such comments.
Columbia MD			Username hidden (1270 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Orwell, we don't care how it comes across to you! Hopefully Expo understands what we said!! This is exactly why we have reduced our participation in these forums. Get a life!!!
Center Valley PA			Username hidden (8502 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	>That's where the typed word has its drawbacks. >You could read that statement both ways: Thank you... exactly the point I was trying to make. When posting to forums where it will be read by lots of people who don't know you, you have to be very precise about what and how you say things.
Columbia MD			Username hidden (1270 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	>All she stated was that She looked good so do not sweat it! Exactly... you look great, so don't sweat the concern that you might look like a bbw. Intentional or not, that is how that statement came across. This has come up several times before... comments made to or about a person not being clearly expressed. I've seen several times where very obviously non-bbw/bhm members have made statements that COULD be interpreted as inconsiderate or even insulting. Is it intenional and with malice? I hope not. Is it careless use of language? Maybe. Is it not realizing that how you say things is as important as what you say? Yes, probably. Picture it this way.... if expo had stood up in a theatre and said "Do I look like a bbw?" and central had said "no, you look good... don't sweat it," how do you tihink the bbw sitting next to central would feel? Probably pretty damn annoyed because the implication was that SHE (as a bbw) did NOT look good. While that was hopefully NOT how it was intended, it's certainly a reasonable interpretation, ESPECIALLY to people who have gone through years and years of "you would be so pretty IF you lost weight.
Columbia MD			Username hidden (1270 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	>Expo, you look good to us so don't sweat it! Centralbucks.... You said that expo looks good and shouldn't worry because she DOESN'T look like a bbw. The logical extension of that statement is that any woman who DOES look like a bbw doesn't look good and should be concerned. Hopefully that wasn't your intention, but that's how it came across to me.
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