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TOPIC: Why don't bbws want to play with their own size
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"VA, if the reverse were true, with a thin person calling themselves a BBW for whatever reason (like having gained a few pounds, or trying to meet a perceived desire for the new play partner), would you wonder why they lied to you or would you see it as their personal journey?"

First, one would have to define at what point "HWP" ends and "BBW" begins...which as most people know is impossible to do, and depends on everything from region to culture to race to nationality to the mental state of the person attempting to make the impossible distinction.

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"no need for a 2x4 to prop up belly"

What a visual.... lol

OK seriously - pics. Get them. Take some nice ones. When the Mrs. was bigger we still had lots. She was beautiful when she was big, and she's beautiful now, just not so big.

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couple43some, thanks for explaining that bit about being HWP with a soft curvy belly. If you're really looking for someone similar to your physique, it might help you to specify in your profile the kind of woman you're looking for. As you could see in the discussion earlier, everyone has a different idea of what BBW or HWP actually mean, so I suggest avoiding those terms. Do thin women with flat bellies or much larger women than you turn you off? Then spelling that out would keep those women from contacting you (if they read your profile) and would let the ones you write to know that you truly are interested in them as they are.

I still think you will have more luck if you upload pictures of yourself on your profile. People do care about that here. Edit out your face if you are more comfortable that way for the public pics (like I have).

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Well we have had some men tell me I am not really a BBW because I carry my weight well. But also a few have told us that I would be a small BBW so really don't know how to describe myself other than soft curvy belly but no need for a 2x4 to prop up belly it kind of goes flat when I lay back. LOL And they also say that I am pretty or beautiful I know that I am not bad lookin, but not flawless like to play with someone else that has some belly too so that I am not uncomfy. We have met some nice people on here but lookin for just the right cpl or female to play with. But you all are very nice but it seems that all the real ppl are out of state.

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Well we have had some men tell me I am not really a BBW because I carry my weight well. But also a few have told us that I would be a small BBW so really don't know how to describe myself other than soft curvy belly but no need for a 2x4 to prop up belly it kind of goes flat when I lay back. LOL And they also say that I am pretty or beautiful I know that I am not bad lookin, but not flawless like to play with someone else that has some belly too so that I am not uncomfy. We have met some nice people on here but lookin for just the right cpl or female to play with.

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I have a problem with any lies too. There are all sorts of degrees of and euphemisms for fat, overweight, etc. Height/Weight Proportionate? No. When I see that on a profile and the pictures clearly show something different, I too, think the person is misrepresenting himself/herself. And okay, sometimes the profile itself is older than the pics, or sometimes the person has lost weight and is still describing herself/himself as large.

At any rate, it really does help to see pics and correct heights and weights and make our own judgment calls on them. I look like my pics. Now, that doesn't mean you're really going to see a side profile view of my belly. Not on here, and not on Facebook, and not in a photo album, etc. It's just not a flattering part of me. It's overweight part of me. Why would I put that in a pic? BUT, I don't think there is any doubt in anyone's mind that I am not "fit," or HWP, so I don't label myself as such.

Yes, I guess it's a person's "right" to label herself/himself as she/he wishes. But I'm with VA when it smacks or either self-delusion, or deception. Telling myself I'm a size 6 and 5'5" doesn't subtract pounds or add height. I think we all get hung up on labels.

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"VA, if the reverse were true, with a thin person calling themselves a BBW for whatever reason (like having gained a few pounds, or trying to meet a perceived desire for the new play partner), would you wonder why they lied to you or would you see it as their personal journey? "

Yes, I would. I have a big problem with that too.

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To couple43some531: It seems no one is really addressing your post. You said you are looking for a female who kind of looks like you. I admire your honesty and dedication! Have you tried the Advance search that this site has to offer? I have found it's very hepful. Best of luck to you!

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"If I meet someone who calls themselves HWP while being a BBW, when I meet them, I wonder why they lied to me."

VA, if the reverse were true, with a thin person calling themselves a BBW for whatever reason (like having gained a few pounds, or trying to meet a perceived desire for the new play partner), would you wonder why they lied to you or would you see it as their personal journey?

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"If it makes them feel better about themselves, more confident, sexier, more appealing, who cares what they call themselves?"

They are doing themselves a disservice. They are billing themselves as one thing while being another. If I meet someone who calls themselves HWP while being a BBW, when I meet them, I wonder why they lied to me. If they are honest about what they are, and own it with confidence, that is far more attractive to me than a person who is either self-delusional or dishonest.

As for their "right" - of course it's their right. They can say and think what they like. I'm just telling them what everyone else is thinking when they see it. It might seem a little mean, but I would hope they would be receptive to honesty.

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