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That's the point: you are very honest in your preferences and obese is a proper term for being...obese. It's much better than saying No Fatties. But for them to call you muscle head, and your wife "cancer patient..." omg...that's very cruel. Maybe it is because at this moment, a very close friend is getting most of her leg removed b/c she has a sarcoma...but that sort of terminology/name-calling is just as wrong as calling someone who is overweight a "pig." Or any name calling.

Why can't people just be mature?

And thanks for that compliment...I write whatever, however it comes out. I have no discretion when it comes to writing. What it is, is what it is! :)

Gina

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There is a point of stating your preference, but to say "NO FATTYS" is going above and beyond what is necessary. We, as a couple, have our personal body weight and height preferences, but we use class when we express our tastes.

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Honey, I get the same thing. I laugh it off. They aren't telling me anything that I don't already know. Hell, if they saw my penis it would just give them something else to critique! If I get angry, than I just let them get the best of me. Its not worth it!. It just lets me know that they aren't the couple for us. I can live with that.

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...well, whatever your preferences are...there just simply are never excuses for outright cruelty. Now, I have had my moments when provoked, won't lie. But nothing like what has been described here, maliciously intending to cut someone like that. That is just inexcuseable.


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azk...that color of blue is amazing against your skin tone!


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I appreciate when people put thier preferences. I do have to say they are really missing out.. but if they dont like a heavy set hottie...move on. If they say no "fatties".. it is a real clue in to thier personality! Shallow people need not apply.

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Speaking as a member of the over 200# female club, I can sure attest to the nasty way some people behave concerning weight. A specific med about 11 yrs ago put on 80# virtually overnight and I just can't seem to do anything to change that fact. It was a big adjustment for me as a former professional athletic instructor.

However, in the lifestyle I have found people to be very size accepting, but we are absolutely upfront about me being a big girl. Sexy is an attitude and being positive takes it exponentially from there. I'm comfortable in my own skin and I don't want to play with anyone who is critical of me for any reason... I value who I am too much to compromise.

Other people's biases are their burden to work around, not mine.

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I've also seen your question before, and being fat myself, it's hard to accept and realize the real answer to that discrimination is that being fat is something people can change about themselves. We aren't born that way. Being black, Jewish, Mexican, etc. is something that is unchangeable.

Being discriminated against is still hard to take. And the best of people do not put others down for any reason, whether it's for something you can change, or something you cannot.

Gina

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Wow. I just read your profile, and almost every sentence starts with a negative. Defensive, negative (no this, no that, if you are not, we are not, etc). While you don't have to be syrupy sweet (that would just be fake), i think if you want to come across as accessible, attractive, fun, energetic, confident people in the swing world, you might want to rethink and rewrite.

Instead of being so defensive about yourselves, why not just write: we are big. Period. without the disclaimer. And the run ons that just sound angry. Unless that's what you're looking for in return? If so, let it stand as it is.

Don't worry so much about the "assholes" and what people think. What matters is what YOU think of yourselves, and in your profile, you don't sound as if you think much of yourselves. So, if you don't, why should anyone else?

Change some negatives to positive statements and see what happens. I like your picture in the vest/bustier and blue skirt. You will also run into less of an interest b/c you're in a poly relationship and it's a more narrow field for partners. Hang in there. Believe in yourself. Put across your belief in your profile. Good luck.

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there is no point to naming things...rise above that. There is karma in this world, and if you like yourself then that's all that matters, and your confidence and any positivity will help you in your search for partners.

There actually are indeed profiles that say "whites only" or "we only play within our race, weight limits, age brackets..." and so on. We even came across a swing club while looking online that stated "whites only." We couldn't believe it...until we considered the source and it was in Mississippi. Some things never change.

So, my "advice" is to ignore those who state things like that, don't let it get to you, and seek out those who fit your own desires in swinging. Try not to dwell on the negatives (easier said than done, I know), and enjoy yourselves.

This is a good place to gripe about anything. Then try to let it go and just have fun.

Gina

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