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the sad thing is, people want to feel good. It is how we feel good that is important I think. Especially women, our society "teaches" us in a way to be competitive with each other. With females, it never stops. We have to be the best mom, the best fuck, the thinnest, richest, best cock sucker, its ridiculous. And for some...and I'm talking women in general both BBW and HWP...it makes them feel better about themselves to tear someone down. It basically is the bully on the playground, usually they are miserable on the inside. For me, I have enough issues with being comfie in MY skin, I can't worry about your skin haha. Society wise though, it is true...society is cruel to the overweight woman. I was 24W until 2006...trust me, I know it first hand.


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@lost_jl: I agree completely, and I bet we all do: mean people suck! To change the subject only slightly, I think civility is a darn good thing, and anyone who purposely speaks or writes in such a way to hurt another's feelings is only making any tension that exists worse. I know, it's not a particularly bold stance to take, but if it's so universally agreed upon, you have to wonder why it's not also universally acted upon?

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but perhaps some defensiveness can be forgiven? I think probably for every "skinny bitch" or "she needs some meat on her ribs" comment you hear, there are 100 much more hurtful comments directed towards the hefty. And I don't think even the most anti-thin person would be utterly revolted by the idea of having sex with the petite."

I do agree, our society can be absolutely cruel against the overweight. I have been overweight and I know all about it first hand. However...heavy people...well, SOME heavy people is more accurate to say of course...in my experience...almost delight in being mean just as much as some thin people do. I have had women say some cruel ass shit in front of me because of their own issues with themself...and the fact that it hurt my feelings seemed to almost make them feel better. Thin people do have feelings, that needs to be remembered. And because our jeans have a lower number...it does not mean our lives are full of roses. I do not, however, feel that because heavy people can be treated bad that their misbehavior should be forgiven...because they are treated "more" badly. Nothing EVER, in my opinion, justifies being a mean and malicious person.


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We have been in this lifestyle for 10 years now and have made a lot of friends both with extra weight and thin. We are not worried as much with the body of our friends but their personalities. I we can't laugh and carry on a conversation then what's the fun? Of course the sex is fun but it's not wham bam thank you mam. We enjoy being able to have our friends in the lifestyle meet our families and vanilla friends without the worry of them being discreet. Guess what we are trying to say is "DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER."

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Bravo BDH~

Well said!

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I have been skinny and I have been fat. While skinny, I can't count the times I was asked if I had a eating disorder. I never got asked if I had some eating disorder while fat.

While skinny, people were always making jokes about how I would blow away or being skinny as a rail, etc. When fat, no one ever made comments about my weight, to my face anyway.

When fat, I remember being around other fat people and how they would bad mouth the skinny people, who turned them down. They were down right vicious. While skinny, I have heard people saying mean things about fat people but not to the extent I have heard it from fat people.

Being fat definitely opened my eyes to a lot of things.

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At the end of it all there is discrimination on both sides of the weight fence, and people are allowed to be discriminating.

I enjoy the thin women as it increases the number of unique positions I can try and they are less likely to be paranoid about riding.

I like the thick women for certain other positions as more cushion for the pushin can be very helpful when your a bony bastard like me.

I like hips, tits and ass; be they large or small.

I've never seen a beautiful set of eyes or luscious smile that was too fat or too thin.

Those who discriminate against one end or the other simply because a women is on one end or the other, is missing out on a hell of alot of fun.

Aim for the healthy median (for your health obviously)

Be who you are, and most importantly, be happy in who you are

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i have to agree with @someday. someone who is skinny isn't going to get the same hurtful assumptions and at the frequency larger people get. i don't look at skinny people and say, oh they must be anorexic, however everyone automatically assumes i'm lazy or have health problems because of my size. i work out everyday, am as strong as an ox, and probably healthier than a lot of skinny people. i can't help my size and frame, i'm just a big guy. hell i was 13lbs 11oz when i was born.

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@Fleurtygirl, I think maybe we more fleshy folk are defensive in that way -- "if you don't like it, move along" -- because we have so often encountered outright loathing, personally, and more influentially, culturally.

Just think, we have our own genre of comedy: the time-honored fat joke. And how many times have we seen a movie character in a scene like the blind date turns out to be, HORRORS!, fat!?

***We are very often portrayed as not just non-sexual, but anti-sexual.***

The presumption is that audiences can't even comprehend wanting to fuck a fat chick. They are practically nauseated by the very concept. (This doesn't seem as common with fat men but I won't go down that road). For fat women who like sex, as you might imagine, this news doesn't go down well. Who wants to be thought of as repulsive? We can learn to let a lot roll off our backs, but perhaps some defensiveness can be forgiven?

I think probably for every "skinny bitch" or "she needs some meat on her ribs" comment you hear, there are 100 much more hurtful comments directed towards the hefty. And I don't think even the most anti-thin person would be utterly revolted by the idea of having sex with the petite.

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Matt, you were in charge of rounding up the under-30 hotties. :)

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