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Well, actually i was thinking aboutanother thread. The one about kids judging parents in the lifestyle. But added it here, in general terms. Must bemore careful. My apologies.

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You're past the point of starting over.

You wrote "Is it more "morally correct" to bullshit folks to be loved? or Tell the hard truth and be hated? "

This already tells us what you think. If we see something nice, it's bullshit. If we see something worthy of being hated, it's the truth.

I'm not sure how stupid you think we all are.

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Easy folks. Just stop. Y'all are making us feel that we are not part of the family here. Do I haveto delete that post and start over?

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Good! it should.

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Va. Why do you all feel that i was going to write something nasty? Sed, that hurts.

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Why is he even here?

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Why don't you just write what you're going to write and post it, rather than let everyone know you plan to write something nasty in advance?

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Fat discrimination. What a great topic. Gonna write a long one on this one, folks. Oh man. Will have to think about it though. This is the question I pose: Is it more "morally correct" to bullshit folks to be loved? or Tell the hard truth and be hated?

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well said SnT.

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There IS a difference between preference and discrimination. No one need defend or justify or feel "bad" about their preferences. Preferences are just that. You should never fake attraction. If fat doesn't turn you on, it doesn't turn you on. If you can't get past weight to the person underneath, that is your own perogative and preference. Where discrimination comes in is when you treat people with contempt, disdain, or bullying or try to oppress people you have a prejudice against. I have a problem with ignorant and proud of it people. They may never quite know I don't like them though. But others can easily see it just in a look or a sarcastic comment.

As for the issue of people telling me I'm fat. I know I'm fat. I don't need it snickered at me. And you can't really compare it to shortness, baldness, skin color, etc., b/c there is actually something I CAN do about it if I so choose. No, it won't change overnight, but if it bothers ME enough, then I will change it. It won't be because it bothers someone else on a swing site.

The problems occur when people don't simply just move on to someone they are compatible with or to whom they are attracted, but feel it's their duty to point it out and make fun. "Oh I would NEVER be attracted to someone fat like you!" Well, okay. I have not personally heard that from anyone. What I find fun is when someone who states they are not attracted at all to overweight people somehow find me quite attractive and sexy. One guy in particular later thanked me for changing his whole attitude about what constitutes sexuality and attractiveness. That was a fun thing and he became a close friend and swing partner. I wasn't trying to change anything or anyone's mine either. I was just "me."

Mr VA, that's how I knew your wife, when she was overweight. She was sexy as hell then, and I'm sure even that much more so now. The weight isn't always the indicator.

Gina

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