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TOPIC: Fat discrimination
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"You can look and judge for yourself, but, that’s not being open minded to me. That’s not preference. That’s someone judging me to be inferior due to my looks or size before they even get to know me….and that’s prejudice."

No, that's someone deciding that they are not sexually interested based on appearances alone. Everyone is completely within their right to do that at any time and owes nobody an apology for doing so.

At the other end of the spectrum, I don't know Scarlett Johansson at all, and I'd probably still want to fuck her even if she shrieked Nazi slogans at me with a voice like Fran Drescher. I don't need to know her to know I want to fuck her.

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This topic is very interesting to me because I see it come up over and over again. It seems that for every person who claims that they have been discriminated against because of weight/size, there are five others who claim that it is an issue of preference or attraction. This got me thinking about the difference between preference and prejudice. I found a statement about this that struck me. The statement read: “A preference is your subconscious dictating who you are attracted to (i.e. you might be naturally more attracted to White people, but wouldn't rule out dating Black people if one caught your eye) whereas a prejudice is when you make a conscious decision NOT to date someone of a particular race due to hateful reasons (i.e. a superiority complex etc.)”. Interesting. In our experience, we’ve either contacted members or have had members who have contacted us that appear to be intested in talking and getting to know us better….until they see our pictures. Now, it could be that we’re hideously ugly. We’ve never been told that, however, we have been told that we’re too fat. And that’s if we get any response at all. Most don’t even bother to respond. It’s very discouraging because I would never think of putting something in my profile like “no stick figures allowed” or “baby needs back….not hip bones!” I prefer to get to know someone because I know that attraction lies mostly in the mind and I might find a person’s mind incredibly attractive while their physical person may not be as much so for me. But, what really gripes me is when someone says that they are “open minded” and then completely refuses to even talk to me because of my weight. Again…it could be because I’m hideously ugly. You can look and judge for yourself, but, that’s not being open minded to me. That’s not preference. That’s someone judging me to be inferior due to my looks or size before they even get to know me….and that’s prejudice. Some people say hateful things here and some people are incredibly rude and prejudiced. I intend to try to keep positive and hope that we will see the trend turn towards more people being as “open minded” as they claim.

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Wow thank you so much Gina :)

*smoulders you with a look*

Winter Garden FL
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Mrs. VA is one of the sexiest women I've ever met, at any size. Mr VA ain't too shabby either! Most of their attraction comes from their attitude, confidence and intelligent, and a smoldering look.

G.

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Welcome to the forums, helikes.

If you think this site only caters to "hwp proportial" people, you've got to hang around a lot longer.

You also need to realize that being on the heavier side does not preclude you from having fun with those who are not. When Mrs. VA was ~200 lb we landed a porn star and her husband.

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Right now, I'm 5'9" and 200 lbs. Not too long ago, I was 230 lbs. I plan on getting down to 170-180 lbs. at some point. I will never discriminate against someone based on their body type and don't care much for people who do.

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We get along with all varieties of people. Regardless of shape and size. There is beauty in everyone, you just have to be open to reading the book. The ugliest people I have ever met, have always been the most physically attractive, until they open their mouths.

What it comes down to, if the larger populations, us BHMs and BBWs are not your preference, so be it, that is a prefrerence and understandable. Everyone has a preference or type. But, to be deliberately ugly, hurtful and cruel to others is just plain wrong. Only the most insecure, IMO, resort to that kiond of behavior.

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I get along with folks of all shapes and sizes. In fact, body size is very low on my list of criteria for the people I choose to meet. Personality, intelligence, and sense of humor all rate much, much higher. You may be the most physically gifted person in the world, but it won't help a bit if you're a raging asshole.

So the lesson is: Don't be an asshole. It's that simple.

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I agree. We are not mKen and Barbie and we dont want to meet them. We are real people I wish there was a swinger site for real people not just HWP

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Those were thoughtful and heart felt replies. Thank you for sharing.

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