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TOPIC: Fat discrimination
Created by: bihighpointcouple
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I have been looking at a lot of members profiles here on SLS. I see this a lot, "NO FATTYS" I wounder how long SLS would allow some one to say No blacks No whites No Mexicans No Jews, or to discriminate against any other group? Why is discrimination ok as long as it is against a fat person?

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I have definitely had my battle with weight at my age it's a constant eat the right things do the right workout but I do it. I have little patience with excuses. Fuck that is a really serious statement for me lol

Charlie

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A previous poster said they choose not to be with someone (sexually) that reminds them of their own battle with weight. Perhaps someone else can't bring themselves to be with someone because of an ex, or bad experience, even if they are a romance novel cover model. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that! Chemistry and attraction matters. If a certain body type turns someone off, there is nothing wrong with stating that, but the more tactful you can be about it the better.

But it is important to know that how your profile is worded affects how (or if)people respond. There are profiles I have seen that the pics look great, but the profile has about 3 sentences. Not much to go on, and not enough info for me to really be willing to contact them, but it's their choice how they present themselves here. Our profile is a work in progress, and we change things as we learn more. But we don't expect everyone to love it :)

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I want to go on the record that I would never discriminate against anybody. I feel that every person on our life's journey that we meet can bring a positive change to our personality. My little Witchy Woman cast a spell on my heart 42 years ago. That doesn't mean I want to fuck everybody regardless what the common belief is that men will fuck anybody . That does not mean I'm a bigot it simply means I prefer to be with little girls. I have been with a few plus size girls and it is awkward. I want my cock to get hard naturally not having to force it and I can force it but like I said it's a forced situation. So I have been with my last plus size chick

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Hot wife made a good point. I think people need to be tactful in their word choices. You are a beautiful person and obviously secure in this lifestyle since you've been a long term member. I think those comments such as you mentioned are uncalled for but it would be difficult to monitor everything being typed. Just know, it looks bad from the readers perspective and those people who wrote that may get passed up due to their lacking word choices.

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That picture has a bit of gravity help and shes put on about 8 lbs since then. Shes not fat, BUT we often hang with a crowd thats very young and hard bodied. We are the out of shape ones there, and shes too fat for some of them. Its all relative. Years ago we were actually fat fat, and we know how that goes too.

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@ Happy if your fat girl I'll kiss a fat ladies ass. From what I can see I'd put you in the hot zone. Hell there ain't any of us perfect to everyone else so I wouldn't lose any sleep over it . Believe it or not I'm not even perfect lmfao

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There is a huge difference between a preference and discrimination. I have done the battle with weight, having topped out at 270 pounds over 5 years ago. I PREFER not to play with people who remind me of that battle. It doesn't mean that I don't have friends who are overweight, who I will have lunch with, talk with, go places with, etc. When I PREFER not to play with someone who is overweight, it is a preference. When I choose a playmate, part of it is chemistry, sex appeal, and being with someone that turns me on. Not being turned on by someone who is overweight is not a matter of discriminating against them. It is being honest as a person in the lifestyle about what turns me on. There are plenty of people in the lifestyle that are not turned on by body-builders, by people with red hair, by men whose dicks are too large, too small, too wide, etc. I think the majority of people are trying very carefully to let others know what they are looking for in a playmate... that is the purpose of the profile. I'm not a bi-girl and don't play with girls. That doesn't mean I don't have girlfriends. It just means that I don't like to have sex with them. I don't play with young men who are young enough to be my sons. It doesn't mean I don't like them, or that I wouldn't have lunch with them or speak with them. It just means I won't have sex with them. At some point, we have to recognize the purpose of the profiles. There are people that don't find me sexy.. That doesn't mean they are discriminating against brunettes or straight women. It just means they don't want to have sex with me.

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Yes, its subjective, but less not sugar coat it. It means no fatties by the writers subjective opinion. There are people who consider us fat, there are people who consider us too thin. If we get rejected for being to fat in their eyes, its because to them, we were fatties.

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HWP does not mean no fatties. HWP varies per the individual.

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When people say HWP they mean no fatties, but then again I've seen some rather odd descriptions of HWP based on the photos of said couples.

Calling anything like this discrimination is rather silly though. We've been rejected on looks a good number of times, and it doesn't matter why. Personally I'd rather know ahead of time to not mail a couple if they were not going to be interested in us.

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