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User Details are only visible to members.	kind, I think basically, all four people are not going to be equally attractive, so in a way, someone does end up with a less attractive partner than the other. It does not make it any less fun, it's just a fact. Taking one for the team is playing with someone you definitely don't want to play with, just to make someone else happy. We learned early on, not to play with someone we just do not want to play with, whether it is their looks, or if they are a jerk, or just have a crappy personality.
Quakertown PA			Username hidden (1831 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	i understand what you're saying about physical attraction... just wasnt clear on what the 'shorter stick' meant to you... compromising a little -or- being with someone that you're concerned about not being able to perform with (as you described) ...are you playing with people 'you' really don't want to be playing with? ....or perhaps you were originally saying that sometimes you just wish you and your playmate were the hottest of the four... ? ...which would just be plain ol" hot for you... i'm just not sure... and did not think you were shallow btw...
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I didnt mean to come across as shallow as it sounded. Yes, personality matters. A lot of factors matter. I was trying to make the point that for me anyway, personality wont overcome physical attractiveness. In a relationship, thats a different story. Personality, and other factors carry a lot more weight. If someone isnt into large people. Or a different race, or whatever theyre not into. I dont think for the purposes of swinging that should be held against them. For example. My wife gained a lot of weight when we first got married. At least 100 pounds. I didnt love her any less. I never thought about leaving her. I didnt care for her any less and It didnt change any of my feelings. But I did have issues performing sexually. It was a strain on our relationship because I didnt want to upset her, I wanted to be able to perform but my body didnt cooperate with what my mind wanted. That was real tough to overcome. There was no way to hide it. There was no way to say "no its not you" Since I know that I cant physically perform for someone Im in love with and want to be with on every level. I wouldnt put myself into a situation where I couldnt perform with someone that I just wanted a sexual relationship with.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	""But the other female would end up with me. Or sometimes the other way around and if you are talking purely sexual turn-ons may not be an upgrade from what they currently have. So somebody somewhere ends up with "the shorter stick" "" just wondering... doesn't a person's personality, the kind of sex you might have with this type person (or any other thing that makes a playdate fun for you) ...count much? for me personally, the above trump hotness, and if a person didnt have ANY thing to offer me, ...i would have to pass ...and my husband would have to respect it. with that said... i also understand the concept of compromise that happens in the lifestyle.... ....do you mean 'the shorter stick' means a compromise? or did you really wish you werent there? ...it's also sorta sounding like ...only hot people get the good sex... which btw, i completely and respectfully disagree... :)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	One thing about this game. Never take anything personally. While I dont think im unattractive at all. We have been "turned down" by couples after we meet because while my wife, in my opinion, is a knockout.....Im a pretty average guy. Attractive, a nice guy, good in the sack, but Im not an underwear model with a 10 inch tool. Sometimes with couples, the other man IS above average. Gym body. Big pecker. And overall really nice to look at...lol So we end up in a situation to be very blunt. My wife would end up with a hottie. The other man would end up with a hottie (my wife) But the other female would end up with me. Or sometimes the other way around and if you are talking purely sexual turn-ons may not be an upgrade from what they currently have. So somebody somewhere ends up with "the shorter stick" We've had in the past couples that email after a g-rated meet and say "We are really into HER....HIM....Not so much" That can hurt to hear if you let it get to you. It can make you not want to do this anymore. But then you get others who email and say...."You BOTH are HOT! Cant wait to play" And in our opinion BOTH of them are HOT. And that makes it worth it!
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I agree with you Gina G...that was an awesome analogy. To me...I just would feel awful if I found out that a man fucked me ONLY because his wife and Jay had chemistry, or that he just wanted to pop one off. I would be just devastated.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23612 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Joey, great post. You explained and compared that preference very well, and using the bald thing as an example will help others to realize it's not about you as a person, it's very much just about preference. Thanks for that. It makes sense. G.
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (5991 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	By the way. I just took a look at your pics. Looking at you....BBW doesn't come to mind. I dont know what the rule is to label yourself that. But I sure dont see you as a bigger woman.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Youre right. There are people on this site who dont like BBW There are people who dont like hispanic, black, what, bi, straight, fat, skinny, bald, hairy.........You name it I wouldnt go so far as call it discrimination. Discrimination would be disqualifying someone from something that they could do just as well as someone else of a different skin color, weight, nationality, whatever. Its preferences. I have a friend that LOVES big women. I mean BIG women. He could jerk off all day to a naked 350lb woman and never get enough. Me. There is no way I could get an erection let alone perform in that case. So if I opened a profile and it was a 350 lb woman. I too would pass. I would be friends with a big woman. I would hang out with a big woman. But I couldnt physically perform to have sex with a big woman. Why would I put myself in that position to meet someone I dont find attractive? I shave my head because if I let my hair grow in I look like george from seinfeld. Which being my age especially sucks. Some women find a lack of hair unattractive. Ive seen in profiles, "no bald men" Ive also seen profiles where thats shown as a turn on. My point is. Dont concern yourself over people who are not matches. I dont want to have sex with someone who doesnt find me attractive or worse, finds me unattractive. Id much rather have sex with someone who is attracted to me. Im not attractive to every woman. But I am to enough that I have my share of fun. Just keep at it.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It's kind of an old topic...probably nobody watching it any longer, but I agree with vabeach...so little information STILL on your profile. You don't say much about yourselves or what you're looking for. What is it that you mean by "like-minded" if you don't say what's on your mind? The photos you have up look good...we'd probably message you if you lived within reach...but we normally look for people who give us something to go on other than pics. Still...if you ever travel through Virginia...let us know...we may be interested if we knew more...
Richmond VA			Username hidden (533 post)

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