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What it comes down to is really quite simple, my children are grown and gone. I no longer have an employer. If you have children, and you run your mouth too much you can have your children taken away. Do not underestimate the power of the school principals recommendation to child protective services. If you run your mouth too much, and you choose not to put out for your employer, you can almost certainly kiss your ass goodbye.

I can hardly believe what I'm reading.

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I remember the invincability of youth. What Sav said rings true. There are a lot of unexpected changes and turns in life's journey and I feel fortunate to have survived the high risk taking years and mistakes that went with it. Would'nt change a thing and own it all but also realize so much of what I thought I was sure about in my youth has evaporated. Playing it safe can be dull and uninvigorating but a little caution is sometimes wise.

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i'm retired and at an age where I don't care too much what people think but my wife has a very public job and would be affected negatively in her work. Thus we don't put face pics or tell our neighbors, co-workers, family etc. I would put my face pics on but it would out the wife. Being only known to our lifestyle friends is good enough. The shared secrecy even adds to the fun.

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"I tend to not care what people think of me in that regard. If you want to gossip about me, that says a lot about what kind of person you are. Karma. I'm not saying I'm going to run around broadcasting, but if the subject comes up, I'm not going to lie unless I have a damn good reason to."

No offense intended but you comments on the topic are really the first time I feel your opinion is a reflection of your youth. I don't think you realize the potential ramifications of the wrong person becoming aware of your lifestyle. Friends, even what appear to be great friendships don't always last forever. An ex friend is a potential powder keg of explosive information. I'm sure you've had at least one bad experience where someone you thought you could trust stabbed you in the back .Your job could be affected or something as silly as volunteering to be a Big Brother/ Big Sister. I was young and idealistic once too , I had the same attitude of not caring what others think but didn't comprehend the bigger picture or sometimes the consequences of my actions. I still have that attitude but that doesn't mean I need to put my lifestyle in your face tempting you to judge me. I am happy you are excited for this journey but I caution you to be careful who you tell what to and to think through the very worse case scenario of the wrong person finding out before you make any rash announcements and bare your soul.

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Friends is a very loose word contextually , I have "friends" I work with, parents of my children's friends or any of the 1,000 other way people use the word friend. If you feel so safe that you believe no one would dare cast judgment on you, gossip about you or ruin your relationships with family and work.....broadcast til your hearts content. At my age I realize that people, even friends don't always behave or react the way you'd expect them too. Even if you decide you can live without the "friend" who betrayed you be sure you can live with the backlash you will not longer be able to control. Once the words leave your mouth they can never be taken back, the damage can not be undone. I'd think long and hard about who I outed myself to you if I were you.

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"Several of you people are equating honesty with openness. When you do that you set yourself up for situational honesty. "

I agree with C&J it is none of anyone's business what I do sexually, not the neighbors, not my vanilla friends and certainly not my children. Any question from ANY relating to my personal life with get a role reversal with me asking the most outlandish , outrageously personal questions one could ever phantom. My children and I discuss sex and I share with them what I feel they need to know or answer general questions PERIOD. While I believe I am friends with all my grown children I am first and foremost their mother and as such I still decide what is their BUSINESS . In the case of swinging their is absolutely no benefit to them or me to delve into those details of my private life. I am also appalled by friends I know whose children knew at an early age ( 8 and 13) due to their complete lack of decorum as parents , their constant house parties , strangers ( boy toys and girl friends) being brought over and introduced as aunty and uncle and the fact they thoughtless leave shit all over their house. Once they confirmed what their daughter asked all pretense was put aside and now they are "so open and honest".........makes me want to throw up. Isn't cute to tell your daughter mommy has a date tonight how does she look?

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What's the last thing you want to hear when you are in the middle of a "Puppy Pile"? ....."Mom??!!??"

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An interesting thing happened on the way to the Forums. LOL

Yesterday I googled our profile name. Four times it linked to posts I had made on this site. One time linked to another site. Curt and Jane are our real names. That may have been a mistake initially but it’s too late to change now.

Several of you people are equating honesty with openness. When you do that you set yourself up for situational honesty. Let's put it this way, when your son-in-law asks if you're a member of a swing site. You suggest you must be honest and tell him everything. But when he asks if you use a black dildo with bumps all over it, what do you tell him then. It isn't a matter of whether or not honesty is the best policy, it's a matter of whether or not openness is the best policy. To not be open does not mean you are being dishonest.

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I have been in the lifestyle for 11 years, never had any of my four kids find out. I would say you need to learn to be discreet.

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cpl4cpls, Bravo! I guess the better you've raised your kids, the better your answer will tend to be.

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