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TOPIC: awkward moments in the beginning
Created by: newark_couple
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We are set up for our first 3some (MFM) next week and we are so excited. We would like to get comments and suggestions how to get through the awkward moments in the beginning and how to start. We are new and kind of shy at first (all 3 of us). Your comments and experiences are greatly appreciated.

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With a new couple it is important that the male 1/2 of the couple try to help move things along. (Unless the woman is very comfortable and aggressive). With most new couples it's the male 1/2 the can understand and better read to make sure his partner is comfortable with the 3rd player. The last thing a single guy wants is to be overly aggressive and ruin the situation.

One good game for 1st timers (and doesn't get old either) is the blind fold. Have the woman blind folded and start off with massages and foreplay.

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Option #1 Copious amounts of alcohol. Throw in a porn dvd after serving the second drink and have her sit on the couch between the two males and enjoy. Before the first scene is over hands will probably been rubbing thighs. Foreplay to commence shortly afterwards.

Option #2 Sit her between the two of you facing him and give her a massage. Now and again reach around and fondle the breasts. Untie/Unbutton the top of the blouse to expose said breasts (and in our case ask if he as ever seen/touched pierced nipples). Foreplay to commence shortly afterwards.

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While we have never done the threesome event...Simbaxxx's advice works for us with couples. My husband and I enjoy each other so much we want to begin with us. It's very excting to be in the presence of another couple who loves the eroticism of their own partner.....then the speed and heat picks up and including the other (s) becomes inviting........

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Ours was easy....we had planned out a full body, hot oil massage for her. Couldn't be any hotter! 2 naked men tending to her head to toe. We started out with her laying on her stomach and rubbed in the oil not missing one single inch of her body with 4 strong hands. She absolutelymelted by the time we told her to turn over. Talk about sensory overload! Then we finished with the front completely first for a few minutes before we started sucking her nipples and rubbing a little deeper. That was all she wrote! Game on............... ps..the oil that gets hot as you blow on it, atleast it taste good.

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As a single male I rather enjoy the awkward moments. My first MFM I was with a young couple who I met at their place. After some drinks and small flirting we all went into the hot tub flirted some more. We came back and played strip poker. I made sure I lost a couple of hands and was fully naked when she was down to her thong. Well after that we all had fun, but the anticipation leading up to it was great.

I always like to relax a little bit before hand and have some good conversation with the couple before we jump into bed. Subsequent times after that I would show up and start fooling around right away but the first time I always enjoy getting to know a couple first.

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Play now, talk later.................... LoL! It's the best way in my book. That's how I met my fav couple. I think us two fems were undressing each other within five minutes. Made for a very HOT first encounter, and an everlasting friendship no matter where we end up later down the line.

RaveN ( :~

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Maybe it's a result of having done this a few times but I rather enjoy the awkward moments when it's just us & the other m. His reluctance to touch her or kiss her makes me hot knowing that all it takes is a word from either one of us to get him going. Soooo we let him use his own kind of approach first. We're not laughing or making fun of him just watching things unfold. I might be unusual but those awkward moments seem hot to us!

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Yup... its the fail proof tactic. So many people take the approach of how to start things with the other couple.. how do I approach the other woman ..how do I approach the other man.... when all that is needed is your own spouse to start playing with you right there in front of them. Why do people forget about their open invitiation with their spouses? No one ignores two people fondling each other....and to ask them to join you is the perfect opportunity to get things started without having to "approach them" for sex. I don't know how many times we have been at a house party and people are just yacking away and no one seems to be heading towards sex (which why we are there) so in the middle of conversation about someone's latest car purchase (yawn) my husband will come up behind me and lift my shirt uo and just start playing with them..... kinda hard for the other guy to keep talking about his new car at that point...heheheheeheeheh.

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This is an easy one and it works every time for us. A few minutes in to the conversation ( and I do mean less than 10 mins) my husband comes over to me and starts fondling my breasts and may pull one out or just lift my shirt to expose them.... and then he looks over at the female (we generally play with couples with bi fems) and says "You want to help me play with these?" Well... then that gives me free clearance to also play with her breasts since she is touching mine.... and the door is open and the clothes start coming off.... and with two women naked that generally gives license for the males to make their approaches too unless we have verbally stated just let us girls play alone first.... but we generally don't do that much but allow all four involved at the same time.

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OK, I'll try to give you some serious help.

First, be sure to have her dress in something sexy and enticing. It doesn't have to be see-through or showing everything she's got, but it should show enough to be interesting and, perhaps more importantly, to make HER feel sexy!

After an introductory drink and chitchat, on the pretext of refilling drinks have everyone move to the kitchen (where doesn't matter, it's to get everyone close together and standing up.) Then YOU start kissing the back of her neck and fondling her, and ask him if he'd like to "help out" with this. With the two of you fondling her and kissing any exposed area, it shouldn't take long to get her naked (do this kind of slowly, don't just rip everything off) and both of you hard. Ask her if she ever held an erect penis in each hand simultaneously, and if she'd like to.

Then find a soft horizontal surface! :-))

Jim

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