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TOPIC: Wife chatting with the other guy after the playtime
Created by: thrust6969
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We met a guy and have played 3 times with him. He is 20 years younger than the wife. We agreed that she would not contact him between meetings, then i checked her phone and found text messages to him. She made lame excuses about she thought i meant sexy text messages not just messages hoping he was OK? I feel bad as she has lied to me and that is something we should not be doing if we are swingers. Do other wives keep in contact with there swing partners between play dates?

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Part 2: Of course, it's ideal when communication is so good that when one partner begins to feel something akin to what happened here, they open that issue to examine it together rather than 'hiding' or failing to acknowledge the changes. That's when it becomes cheating, because usually the one acting out knows, but can't face acknowledging it to the other partner. Peace and Blessings. Each one of us has our own path to trod, but it's a great blessing when we find another to travel the road together.

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You know, most are calling it cheating, but it's really a call to both in the original relationship to recognize that something is changing -- and on the other side the relationship may not be what it was before. You can't really keep a relationship alive if one has mentally moved to another place in their life and the other still assumes that what was known still exists. That's where the real work begins, to identify if the existing relationship can expand to include what may be nascent or unfulfilled needs being expressed by the behavior, whether it's a momentary reliving of old feelings reawakened, or whether the differences are so great that each needs to acknowledge that individual fulfillment may require separate paths. Good luck, because it requires honesty and a strength of character to look for the answer to those questions in the eyes of your partner and be willing to recognize the 'other' that has a life of his/her own to choose.

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it depends on how comfortable you two are ... I know rules are set in place to make all parties safe but we've found that rules get broken and then we discuss those ... Women enjoy the sexy chat , especially with new toy it happens ... She hid it from you since she knew the rules and she didn't want to get caught ... my wife had a boy toy talking sexy with her and they started doing things when i wasn't around I walked on her with his cock having been freshly buried in her ass ... yes it was a shock , ( i probably should've seen it coming ) but we talked it out and we were fine and still together and still swinging ... occasionally she even lets me get with another woman

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Ha....... I dedicate that tagging of fresh meat in the memory of NaN...... where ever he is out there is real time world.

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As I said, I'm open to suggestions. However, I am kind of a rule-follower and get nervous in situations where getting caught is a possibility... Now, the pics I have waiting for approval tell a different story!

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Well, I was referring to the public flirting but I'm open to suggestions....

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Oh my...

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It is just not same when you can't do it public!

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I miss NAN :(

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Looking , NAN would be proud of you :)

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