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Oh yeah, as far as people on here not following up or responding to emails; you have to remember that there are people on here who are just posers! Thankfully that is the minority. However, there are also a lot of people on most lifestyle websites who are new to the lifestyle, and may be apprehensive or a little scared. They may seem flaky, but often it's just that they're unsure of themselves, and need a few experiences to get the hang of this.

Also, when people are new to swinging, particularly couples, there is a feeling out process that takes place over at least the first few months, where they have to experiment and find exactly what parameters they are comfortable with. Until they decide what those are, they may seem a litle wishy washy. It's nothing personal, they're just making sure that everything's OK between the two of them. Sometimes others get caught in the middle of that. It happens; shouldn't be a big deal, just move on.

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Redstake,

Post several clear pictures that show your appearance, facial and body. They don't have to be nude, but if you have several pics, the people looking at those pics have less doubt that you actually do look like the way you appear.

As much as people work the internet, the vast majority of good, lasting contacts are made in person. Find out what clubs and parties happen in your area that allow single males, and go attend a few. Don't go desperate! Just go with no expectations other than trying to meet some nice people. The sex will happen, it's secondary. Once you get in the lifestyle, you'll find that it's just as much, if not more, of a social activity than a sexual one.

When you do meet a couple:

Be VERY polite Be clean, well groomed, and well dressed Pay equal attention to both people Take "No thank you" gracefully, if that's what you get offered Being able and willing to dance helps tremendously Follow up - if you get a number or email, follow up the next day and say how much you enjoyed meeting them

Word of mouth is a wonderful thing. If you meet a couple, or several, and they enjoy themselves with you, they will probably invite you to functions, and introduce you to some of their friends. In all likelihood, that is the way you are going to meet the most people, not here on the internet.

Good luck!

Kane

Port Orange FL
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Redstake-

It is not hard to meet couples. We single males have an advantage over everyone else because the demand for single males who can deliver is greater than the demand for couples or single females. You must have the correct posture, however.

I quickly reviewed your profile and was immediately struck by how desperate you sound. That is not the correct posture. Remember, you are the stud-people come to you-you don't chase them. Take your time, read the posts of Triple Threat, ABSingleMan, WMison___, Rdy2playwu, me, and some other men, and you will learn the ropes.

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First of all. Change your picture. No want enjoys picture confusion. They don't like sitting there trying to guess Which guy you are in the picture that shows two.l Also sorry, but your single. Welcome to the over supplied club. There are just more single males than couples looking.

As to why people trade messages/ pictures and then stop responding.. well that's a long running question. People have answered that they don't have time to answer every email and others have stated that at the slightest insult (intentional or other) is reason to cut communications.

Your only hope is to work on your profile and pictures. Spend time in the forums. And be extremely polite and plenty of patience.

Lots of single guys fail on this site due to being rude and/or thinking they are special. Always remember you are in a vast crowd of guys looking and only your behavior and looks seperate you from them.

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