Why So Few Nice Single Men: Swingers Discussion 2152771042

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User Details are only visible to members.	Not to pile on but... I was out last night with a SF I met on SLS and I had planned a surprise extra guy for her. I had emailed and texted with the guy and based on his pics, he was handsome and fit and the clincher was he told me he had communicated with her on her single profile and that there was mutual interest to meet but it hadn't happened yet. Perfect, right? So we are at the bar and I tell her we have a "friend" joining us. She loves those kinds of surprises so she starts getting nervous and excited and I tell her is she isn't interested, just excuse yourself to the bathroom and I'll take care of it. The guy walks in and if it wasn't for the fact that I knew he was coming, we would not have known it was him. 10+ years older and 20+ lbs heavier. I look at her and whisper, "No way" and she nods. He sits down and we chat a bit and she plays it cool, being polite and mentions that she remembers talking to him but I know she has zero interest. Pretty soon, she excuses herself and the first thing I ask the guy is, "How old are your pictures?". He hangs his head and says "Ten years". I said you know this isn't going to happen, right? He leaves and to make matters worse, when she comes back from the restroom she tells me she had talked to him but told him she wasn't interested. So he lied with his pics AND in telling me there was mutual interest between him and her. Once again, it's guys like that that make it easy for average guys like me.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We're primarily interested in single men and have the same problem. This is going to sound bad but our experience is that by far MOST single men are clueless when it comes to swinging. With very few exceptions. Most live this as an online fantasy and go from sex gods to scared shy boys as soon as we say, "lets meet" We have 2 clubs in our area. One is expensive for couples, very expensive for single guys and also very restrictive in how single guys can participate. They cannot approach couples, interact with them etc unless invited. There is a dress code and this club is overall a fun place. We went and for the first time my wife played with 2 single guys who she was into. I like to watch and stay pretty invisible. I love watching her play like im not there so I dont "chaperone" Well the whole time she played with these 2 guys, I spent dealing with guys who did not take a polite "no thanks" from her. It was unbelievable that so many people did not know the first basic rule of "ASK PERMISSION AND IF SHE SAYS NO, DONT TOUCH" That was complete BS. Instead of watching my wife have a hot time, I had to play security. She couldnt enjoy herself fully because she had to keep checking to see where hands were coming from. That right there will turn off couples to single guys. We wont even go anymore to the other club in our area. They have no dresscode, its cheap for single guys to get in, cheap for couples, and single guys have free roam and access. You would think that would be perfect since we want single guys. Not when its nothing but guys wearing xxx sports jerseys, hats sideways, and dressing and acting like they just came from the ghetto. This club lets anybody come in and honestly its just not appealing. I wish the other club had more single guys but I can see why they dont. And I dont think I would want them to change their policy either. If I were single, I would not go and pay $100 to get a wristband and sit on a barstool, not allowed on the dance floor or to leave the bar just hoping some couple comes over and picks me. But I blame the guys. They get treated like second class "swingers" because that is how they conduct themselves. Again....Not all...So if it doesnt apply to you, great. But im not dreaming this up.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	ilriver, Well duh..... You couldn't have stated it better with 10000 words. HOWEVER, if there had been some greasy old smelly washed out blond with boobs, they would have had a good time anyway. At least twice a week there is a filthy, scuzzy 50+ year old homeless broad sits in the parking lot, outside my office. She sits there for an hour or so, and damned if pretty soon she isn't joined by some equally filthy guy. I'm not sure but I think that meets the broad definition of lifestyle. Everyone is a move up for someone. Curt
Pasadena CA			Username hidden (175 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Satwo we can certainly relate to your post. Near us is an adult bookstore with an arcade area in the back. Videos are shown in private booths large enough to accomadate several people. We stop in occasionally to play a little. Last week we were approached by at least a half dozen males that obviously had no clue as to hygiene. Three were dressed in sweats which in my opinion are thicker pajamas. Several were unshaven with greasy looking hair. One had breath that could have knocked Godzilla over. Had there been one halfway decent looking clean guy there he would have had a helluva good time.
Ottawa IL			Username hidden (63 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It never ceases to amaze me how some single guys complain about rejection and truly believe it has nothing to do with THEM. It's age bias or prejudice or location. News flash. It's YOU. More specifically, your attitude. If you have become so bitter and angry, save yourself the humiliation and just go "use" some whores.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	No matter who you are, what you look like, what your age is,what your preferences or kinks are, what your couple/single status is, ....... There are people within the life style that will enjoy being with you. However, you gotta kiss a lot of frogs. Simply as I can state it the delightful lifestyle is a lot of work. The only experiences that come easily and often are the undesirable ones. Some lifestylers are angry hurtful. Some posters are angry and hurtful. I've been having fun with "google translate" non sinas bastardi tere te deorsum Try it, you'll like it Curt
Pasadena CA			Username hidden (175 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well now that I've eaten myself into a semi comatose euphoric phatness I can jiggle my cellulite with the best of em! Bring it!
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12285 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Everyone gets rejected, there's not a person alive that hasn't had that happen. Just curious sinbach, do you get rejected by couples in your own age range? Ones that say they're interested in meeting respectful single men your age? Or do you perv profiles and feel rejected by people who live 1000 miles away and are two decades younger? LOTS of single men do well in the lifestyle, perhaps you should check yourself and your expectations. To sum it up: Your attitude towards women seems to be one that we should all drop everything to service you and that we're no better than paid whores. That puts you squarely on most couples reject list from the beginning. Seds, please accept my condolences on your pre-rejection. If it weren't for this damn cellulite I'd offer myself as a free bonus makeup round. Ack, now I feel rejected!!! ;) ;)
Newark DE			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sinbach is always bitching. Yet the old man, out of no where wrote us a rejection letter. Rejecting not just me but hubby too. Since then, hubby slit his wrists with a butter knife. And me? Out of the depression that I'm feeling as a result of being rejected by this man, I'm eating myself to death! There is just no reason to live anymore.
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12285 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have no idea what you're talking about fella. I'm a SM and I think I'm doing fine in the lifestyle.
Hunt Valley MD			Username hidden (3556 post)

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