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TOPIC: Why So Few Nice Single Men
Created by: satwo
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We have belonged to several lifestyle clubs and it seems there are so few polite well dressed sober single men that ever come out. Many times there are husbands there that have wives that are hot for strange cock and the singlemen that are there sit at the bar and only get drunker. Also it seems they expect the lady to come to them and ask them to daance or talk to them. We were at a lifestyle club last weekend and of the three men there, One was drunk when he got there and another was covered from hear to toe with tatoos and looked like he had not cleaned up in months and the other guy was dressed in cutoffs and sandles. The women at our table were talking about how they dress up sexy and pretty and in comes guys thst look like hell. It seems that most singlemen are lookng for a lady but from their actions and looks it is not hard to see why they are alone. My Wife always looks super and she loves to dance, But few men wear nice colone and show her respect after they are half drunk. We had several years ago gone to an upscale culb and wife and I were sitting on a couch watching others dance when I noticed a man about our age watching us. My wife was showing a lot of leg and I turned and spoke to him and he sit on the other side of my wife. He ask her to dance and they were talking when I noticed his hand on her knee. With him being repsectful and polite He asked me if we would like to go to the party room. His luck was very good that night as my wife fucked him for over two hours and enjoyed ever minute of it. Men should consider that couples come to clubs for fun and when the right single man shows up things can get great for him and the couple. Stay sober and use your head.

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Ever the optimist, the silver lining in this is that if your numbers hold water BlueBuzzy, there are only 25% of us out there, trying to do the right thing. To me, this business of reprehensibe beavior is a double-edged sword. While I dispise the fact that others won't grow up and act more mature than their knuckle dragging ancestors and I find notes like yours below embarrassing to all SM, I'll admit, at 25%, I like the odds.

Looking on the bright side, when couples like yourselves do find a quality SM, I'll bet its cause for a temporary celebration. I enjoy being the third wheel in those scenarios.

BT

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@Yondude and @Letstryst… What I think you fail to recognize is the degree and manor in which SMs have become tainted. Let me ask you a question. How many times have you gone to an event, club, etc. and been stalked by a MF/SF? I mean seriously stalked? Read the various posts here on SLS. The GENERAL assumption is that if you attend a club/event with SMs, expect bad behavior (unwanted touching, strangers blowing their loads on you while engaged, etc.) How many times have you been to an event and while you’re going at it, a random SF/MF masturbates until she squirts on you out of the blue? Yet if you read the post across the platforms you will see, if there are SMs in attendance at a club/event, the general consensus is that one should ‘expect’ that type of behavior. I get it, that’s not how you operate. But, you’re the exception. Accept it! Attend one event with SMs welcome and don’t try to get lucky, but rather just observe your SM compatriots. I think you’d be appalled. Probably about 25% of SMs on SLS (and other like sites) are flakes, 25% are cheaters, 25% are solid guys and 25% have no social interaction beyond Minecraft, the weekly dungeon raid on World of Warcraft and an occasional SLS email/chat. And it can be bad… and I mean REALLY bad. The wife and I were at a singles welcome party recently… LOOKING for a SM to rock her world! Yet, she was ready to leave after less than an hour. There were these two guys that every 10 minutes or so would come over and just leer at her for 2-3 minutes… they didn’t smile, didn’t laugh, didn’t talk, didn’t acknowledge us at all other than to just stare at her… and we were in literally on a couch in a corner of the room, so there wasn’t anything else they could have been looking at. When we left, one of them even followed us out of the party. Walking through the lobby, we stopped at the front desk and I turned to the guy and politely asked “Can I help you?” He got a look of terror and literally sprinted back into the party. We have played with SMs and will continue to do so, so I understand that there are good ones. But, what you both seem to either be ignorant of, or chose to ignore, is just how downright SCARY a significant number of SMs actually are! Many people (both couples and SF) simply choose to NOT expose themselves to these folks, and if you look at it objectively, I think that you’d see that while it may make your plight more difficult, there is nothing wrong with people choosing to play it safe.

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I apologize for taking this so far off track. There has just been a lot in this respect to bellyache about lately.

Jerks are jerks. Male, female, couple, what have you.

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I think we agree that it is very lopsided - women have to be outright violent or generating multiple complaints before throwing them out is even considered.

A single female was talking to me at a party once and Mrs VA walked up and put her hand on my shoulder. The bitch smacked Mrs VA's hand and told her "shoo". The Mrs was so astonished she just stomped away. I never in my life got so close to smacking a woman, but we all know what the outcome would have been if I did.

As it turns out, our complaint about her to the host was not the first of this type, or the last. She continued to be invited to events in spite of her caught with drugs, starting fights, it being found out she was a married cheater and basically being the worst kind of attendee one can conceive of.

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PG, wow i'd be having words with the club's management.

B_T, you were gentlemanly even in the face of that--wow.

i can't fathom that kind of behaviour.

then again, i wait for people to show an overt interest and/or make the first move.

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NJNY, I think I've mentioned being hipchecked ala Johnny Bucyk (Bruins-circa '70's) off of a barstool for not "picking up" a woman's, I was looking at you vibe. In my astonishment, all I could muster as I picked myself off of the floor was an, I'll pass, thanks.

BT

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its even uneven when the unwanted female attention is on another female. While the club we used to go to would not hesitate to throw out a SM for touching when it wasn't wanted, somehow I can be thrown against the wall by two women with hands all over my breasts and in my g-string and its no big deal.

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Most if not all said females were under the influence, yes. Most were older too.

Chesapeake VA
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Va, welcome unfortunately to the world of the SM.

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VA, yes it's definitely an uneven situation. all i can say is wow, were the females (i won't call them ladies) in question under the influence of liquid or chemically enhanced...ubernerve? owch.

and BT this is why i tend to avoid clubs. i go with a SF i know and her BF when i do venture out.

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