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"We prefer not to mingle or have guys buy her dinner. She likes to fuck. "

I'd say that is enormously different than a "date" . If you don't like the opinion of others or can't handle being disagreed with I'd suggest you not inquire for advice nor opinions on a public forum. I have zero issue with the fact that you disagree with me, if you feel attacked I'd say to toughen up. Both you and your husband have made it clear what you seek,in several postings, in essence a single guy to arrive, drop his pants and fuck you...to each their own. When it is brought to a public forum though you best be prepared to hear opinions that disagree with your own. I respect your right to stand firm in your opinions and I will do the same...that's what makes the world unique. I'm not going to with hold my opinion simply because it doesn't match the OP's or anyone else who posts. BTW I disagree completely we're all going to hell for being swingers.

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We always get the room in a nice hotel. This way when we are done, we dont have to leave, we can stay the night and have fun. I dont want to feel like we owe anybody anything. Same goes for dinner and drinks, we always pay, just makes it easier

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Honey, honey, but he is SO hot, and like, I really really want him, please honey, he doesn't get paid till next Friday, please honey, get out the debit card before he gets away... Don't "deprive me of the pleasure" of fucking this deadbeat...pleeeeease honey?"

"But babe, there are like 47,000 guys on swing sites looking to play tonite"

"Noooo..I want HIM Honey..please please please can we pay his way tonite..pleeeease????"

"Well, can he at least pitch in, I mean after all......."

"How dare you!!!! What do you think I am, a Prostitute? I want him damn it!"

Excuse me, I just threw up in my mouth a little bit

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Sophia,

I am sorry that happened, in my opinion it was very rude. I agree if you can't afford it, you simply stay home. In the future , if your money is budgeted (whose isn't) I suggest you get there a bit early and ask the waitress for separate checks. I don't like quibbling over who got what but I too do not like being taken advantage of. We're all here for fun, when it stops being fun or about fun it's time to take a step back. I am always willing to pay my fair share and expect others to follow suit. If I buy you a drink that's on me, if you insist I buy you a drink I think you lack class . I don't do anyone who think anyone owes them anything for the "pleasure" of their company.

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Just remember, anything PP says is usually wrong. If you find yourself agreeing with him most of the time, you are usually wrong.

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sophiasays69...you summarized perfectly 1/3 the reason I believe it is an obligation of the single gentlemen to at least OFFER (A part of my opinion Mrs SAV has selectively chosen to ignore) to pay and cover most if not all of the expenses. Quite simply, it costs a couple more to come out and play before the evening even begins The other two thirds being simple supply and demand, and having enough self respect for yourself and your relationship/marriage not to allow yourselves to be treated like clients at a male escort service because Johnny Wellhung or Tyrone Bebbedee make the female in the couple moist and the male in the couple can tolerate them

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Mrs Sav, I have to agree with you completely.

However, I think it goes deeper than that, if you can't afford to pay don't go out and play. This means, if you can't afford your own dinner, drinks, or at least half the room costs, then stay home. My hubby and I can't afford to pay for everyone's drinks, dinner, and the whole hotel room if we are paying for our own. We have college kids, bills, and other life things going on with our budget. We have to make sure our bills are taken care of then see how much we have in the budget to attend this party, club, meet and greet, and so on. If we can't afford it we pass on the opportunity. Even if someone says during that dinner, "hey we got this", we still have money in our wallets to pay.

A recent experience of ours was a meet and greet with possible play. They initiated the contact, we emailed, we planned, and we agreed to this restaurant/dive bar they suggested. They ordered like crazy and then told us they had a coupon and both of our orders can go on it to save money. I was leery, but I figure, my phone has a calculator. They took the bill, saw how much everyone purchased and then proceeded to tell us in front of the waitress that we will split it 50/50. They purchased 2/3 of the total amount. No, I did not argue, put up a fuss, or anything. It wasn't worth it. The amount was not as important as the principle.

We were interested until that moment. Any thought that we would do some playing that night or at any other time went away with the check. We then heard about their financial woes. Seriously, if you can't pay don't meet to play.

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It is not so much that I object to a man paying for dinner, drinks or even a room. It is the demand/expectation that they pay that troubles me. I don't see sex as providing a "service" and therefore there are can be no demands of "compensation". I am even more annoyed when this rule(lack of better word) is explained with words like" "he is fucking my wife so of course he pays" . It is that rational that turns what should be a pleasurable experience for all involved into a bartering proposition. If a wife found a particular man attractive and he was unable to pay there would be no play, than attraction is no longer the first motive of sex , it takes a back seat to the mans ability to pay....I find that rather twisted. I also find it demeaning when a man takes this stance and claims no man will have access to wife unless he is willing to foot the bill. To me that is selfish and indicates he is not completely on board or comfortable sharing me with others. It reeks of "if he isn't getting his by golly someone is going to pay" ! Especially when these same men wouldn't bat an eye at shelling out money for dinner, drinks and a room for the chance at a single female. For the record I get some men think that is what gentlemen do but a gentlemen would also provide for his wives pleasure .Why is he no longer a gentleman to his own wife when hypothetically her having sex with other men is a shared fantasy? Anything else makes him sexist in my book with a view of his wife as a commodity not a partner.

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We play on attractiveness and we will not deal deal if he will not pay for room or provide his home! So what!

Julya....you need not explain yourself to anyone or seek anyone's approval, least of all those not secure enough in their own opinions to express them without attacking you for yours. Stick to your guns, you are on the right track. If a man doesn't strongly offer to fit the bill, it shows a lack of manhood and character, and if a women has so little self respect she doesn't expect that of him, she has as many issues as he does. As for the MAN in these couples who pays for this guy who put in the grueling leg work of putting a profile on a swing site and showing up without expecting this guy to at least offer...Good Lord...don't even get me started

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LOL SCORE!!!

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