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There is no wrong way Fancy, I say go with whatever works for the people involved.

I will point out, your post is very contradictory but your opinion is one that is shared by many.

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After reading this thread, I am glad we don't play with single men. I had no idea it could be so complicated!

I know I am probably in a minority here, and remember I have ZERO experience with MFM, I guess I am just picturing the woman and the single guys are both getting some "extra" out of it but the hubby is playing only with his own wife, which is great but he can do that anytime without the inconvenience of having to figure out who pays for what. I am not a man, I have never done MFM, and I have no experienced perspective on this, but what I always envision is that all the hubby is getting out of the situation is being with his own wife and knowing his wife is having a good time. Which, like I said, is good and great but for the life of me I don't see how this situation is vastly different from a single man and a single woman meeting up if the two of them are the only ones who are playing with someone other than a spouse. If the single man is playing only with the wife, I see no problem expecting the single guy to pay. I know this is an odd point of view most people don't consider, esp those who enjoy MFM. It's all a matter of perspective.

If it were a single female playing with a couple, I can only assume most of you would expect the couple to pay, regardless if the wife is playing with the SF or not. From what I read here, couples feel perfectly content paying for everything in this case and no one seemed to think that was a problem and the single female was never equated to a prostitute (unless I missed something, which is possible). So I have a question. How do you feel about a couple expecting the costs of a hotel/drinks to be split with a single female? Would you prefer a 50/50 split or would you automatically expect to pay because she is a single female? Would anyone expect her to pay for everything?

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I think it all depends on who does the inviting. If we have to get a hotel and invite a guy, we pay, obviously. If we invite a couple, we pay. If you develop a relationship and always have to get a hotel, I supposed you could alternate. I guess it's the same with drinks, dinner, etc. Who whips out their card faster. Or go dutch.

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I have and have no problem doing so, but this is after we have met and come to the conclusion we want a night of sex.

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Well said SWG. Whatever works for those involved is all that really matters. The longer I am around this LS the more I see a huge variety in how people enjoy it and none of it is "wrong" if it works for them and those who want to play with them.

I've stated my opinion on the OP before and the short answer is, if the couple is local or willing to travel to me, I host at my home. If I am traveling to them with plans to spend the night, I pay for the room since I'll be staying the night regardless of the outcome. If a couple contacted me and insisted I pay for the room in order have the privilege of fucking the wife, I would likely pass as it would feel demeaning to me and to her.

Unless it were an "escort" fantasy and she was smoking hot.

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maritimers..when it comes to a person you are about to allow into you sexual relationship, not to mention locking yourself in a hotel room with and there be NO record of his being there should YOU choose to put the room under your credit card and info...being judgmental is highly under rated (The safety factor in this discussion is often ignored, which is why I raised in now)

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A friend of mine was telling me a story about someone she encountered that was rude in so many different ways she couldn't list them all. She was really frustrated with the person and wanted to yell and scream and tell the person off. However, she didn't, she held back and refused to go to this person's level.

She said, "Rudeness is an unwanted gift that keeps giving".

I looked at her with great admiration and thought how true. I remember that saying so many times when I have a choice to be nice or be rude.

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"I am not attracted to guys who cannot pay for a room first round."

Some might call this being judgmental, others might call it using good judgment.

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all4mhb ...Being attacked for an opinion is not universal here, you will find that generally coming from a few people who clearly have some deep seeded issues, not to mention spending a LOT more time on swinger sites than actually swinging, if indeed some of them actually swing at all. Like I said, you don't have to defend yourself to anyone, least of all them. It's actually symbiotic in these cases....the clueless lowbrow deadbeat who doesn't offer to pay the bills on the first meeting, and the classless woman with so little self esteem and respect for her relationship she treats the single males in the lifestyle like selections on a male escort service website, and their husbands/boyfriends like a fool to pay the tab. They claim you are a prostitute and I am a pimp? Who's worse? The prostitute, the pimp, or the desperate fools who seeks them out? Stick to your guns, some of us get it, some of them don't

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You were not attacked. You read the opinions of others on the topic of who should pay for the room. Why it is okay for you to express that you want the room to be picked up by the dood that just finished tapping your vagina, but for others to express that such an act in their worldview is the equivalent to prostitution not be okay to express?

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