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This whole thing about who pays for what is absolutely ridiculous. Everybody should pay for themselves. It's not about who gets what out if the deal. It's about tact, class and upbringing. Monetary expectations, that others pay for you because you have a vagina are repulsive.

Offering, buying a drink or two for someone else is normal. Expecting that others pay for you is an indication of low class, lack of tact and moochiness. When you are paid for, you owe the one who paid your way, no matter how much you'd like to convince others and mostly yourself that it's not so.

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This whole thing about who pays for what is absolutely ridiculous. Everybody should pay for themselves. It's not about who gets what out if the deal. It's about tact, class Nd upbringing. Monetary expectations, that others pay for you because you have a vagina are repulsive.

Offering, buying a drink or two for someone else is normal. Expecting that others pay for you is an indication of low class, lack of tact and miochiness.

Can't afford it? Cheap? Stay home.

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Thank you PartyPerks847...much appreciated!

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JR14009 ...U R a stand up guy

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I have read this post for awhile and if I don't host or go to a couples place then I always pay for the room. Some may not agree with this but I don't have a problem paying, it seems like the right thing to do. If the couple offers to split the cost that is a nice gesture, but I always turn it down and thank them for it.

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fancy, it's not complicated, it's really very simple.

The single gentleman should vigerously offer to pay the majority of the costs for the first meeting because; 1. Simple supply and demand 2. He has less expenses 3. It is done out of respect for the couple 4.It's the classy thing to do

Couples should expect the single gentlemen to vigorously offer to pay the majority of the costs for the first meeting because; 1.If a guy lacks the moxie and class to offer, he is a classless buffoon who you really don't want in your life to begin with 2. If the room is in his name, you know he has the where with all to at least have a credit card and didn't just get released from prison or jumped off a freight car (if that doesnt matter, that's pathetic) 3. The room in his name is a security and safety issue if things go sour 4. It's the classy thing to do

All this talk about people being "prostitutes" and sanctimonious BS about "being deprived of pleasure" is retraded

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I would be happy to join him in attempting to "decipher" you m'lady.

;^D

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Nic, you would definitely be an exception to my no SM rule. And I am sorry that I wasn't clear before. You should see the trouble Mr. Fancy has trying to figure me out everyday.

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Yeah, double standard is a more accurate description but I thought you were agreeing that the male should pay and the female shouldn't and then your explanation to explain each side would have been a contradiction.

Now that is out of the way, why not come to Youngstown and I'll host so we won't have to worry about anyone paying for anything?

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"You justify the male paying because hubby very gets little out of the "deal" but have no problem paying for the woman, even if the wife gets little out of it."

What I said is, "If it were a single female playing with a couple, I can only assume MOST OF YOU would expect the couple to pay, regardless if the wife is playing with the SF or not. FROM WHAT I READ HERE, COUPLES feel perfectly content paying for everything in this case and no one seemed to think that was a problem and the single female was never equated to a prostitute"

So actually, I never said what "I" would do in this situation, I was assuming what people here would do or expect.

"That is a double standard"

I wouldn't call what I said contradictory, but a double standard, hell yeah. I actually agree with you 100%, lol. Life is full of double standards and I am not one of those people who complain about them. Life isn't fair, as they say. At the end of the day, if we were to meet a single male, we would initially offer to pay or split the costs. We personally would NOT automatically expect the SM to pay. I just understand where those people who feel that way are coming from. And yes, for a single female, we would offer to pay and would not expect her to chip in.

Back to what you said about the wife getting little out of it, I wanted to add, you did bring up a good point that I never really considered... a FMF with a straight female. We don't play that way so it never really entered my thought process - if we play with a SF, she is playing with both of us or neither of us are playing.

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