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Pirate Girl, In our particular case, the ones I refer to about being in it for years and have few play mates is not due to being very selective or having little free time. They had rules, guidelines, requirements, issues, and then to make it even more annoying added a bit of drama to the equation.

NO lie, we had one couple tell us that we had to do the following: 1. email them at least five times to build up a relationship ( However, they would not answer a single question honestly, profile had 0 pounds listed for both of them, nothing indicating tame, moderate, or wild, and straight, bi, or BC was not indicated) 2. have at least one IM session a week (again, they don't answer questions but tell me "You can ask us anything". ) 3. Text no more than three times a day and no more than three days in between texts. Pictures can be sent via text as we don't have pictures on our profile page except for the one. We request one face pic of each person. One full body with clothes, one full body front and back without clothes, and close ups of breasts, and genitals. 4. Have 2 meets for dinner and no playing whatsoever before the third dinner date. 5. cannot talk to the opposite sex via email, text, or IM without both parties present 6. have to stay at a particular name hotel 7. Cannot make mention of interest in the opposite sex's body parts 8. And cannot plan to meet to have sex until all the above is mentioned and three months of getting to know each other has happened.

Granted this was in our first week of being on the site. We were trying to get pictures on, but there was a problem. I sent an email asking them about their height, weight, preferences, smoking etc., they refused to tell us and sent the rules to us. I read their rules and sent the following reply:

"thank you for expressing interest in our profile. Thank you for the kind words regarding our profile picture. Hubby loves it and I am glad to hear you do too. We read your profile page and feel it offers a great deal of information about what your are looking for in this lifestyle. We also read your instructions of how the 'relationship' proceeds for you. As a couple, we do not care to date anyone else. When the two of us dated and married, we had far less rules than you have requested of us in this email. We are not looking for long-term platonic dating. We are on this site to find others that we can enjoy being with and of course having sex. I feel strongly that if there is a lot of rules and no details about who you are, you are not for us. We expect drama free and this seems to be a prelude to a lot of drama. Thank you but we are not interested."

Their reply, "you can rot in hell you fat bitch. you think you will get anywhere without playing by our rules, you are crazy. You need to get a clue you crazy bitch."

To which I replied "point made"

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It's very simple, you ask you pay, they ask they pay, but it also depends on your location, if you have to travel to get to , then both should pay if play time has been planed. Just keep it simple and have fun.

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Oh and ty Nic thats very nice of you to say.

Mrs Sav

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Drama= Couples fighting publicly, jealousy that suddenly explodes right in your face , falling down drunk, making a scene.....most other things are just a mood killer...those things are the death sentence .

Mrs Sav

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Thanks for the compliment Sophia. It looks like you already have a better grasp of this than many who have been around a LOT longer.

And yes, the ladies in this thread, particualrly the always erudite Mrs. Sav can get to the bottom of an issue pretty quickly.

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So, OP aside, what's considered drama, or is it another subjective thing? I think we probably come with a mild amount of drama because we are new to the L/s and not quite familiar with etiquette and expected behavior, not to mention the newness factor! Or is it drama a la Soap Opera?! In that case my evil twin only rarely takes over my life!!! ;)

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sophia, the amount of times people play can be for various reasons not only about drama, which I'm sure you already know. We don't play often, mainly because we lack time to go out and meet people, even when we find people we want to meet which is hard to do. But yes when we go out we don't want silly drama as in "who pays for what" to even enter the picture.

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Have to agree with the last few comments, good job getting to the bottom ladies.

I have to wonder why this all has to be soooo hard to figure out. Double standards, unspoken rules (what? let me know what they are so I can decide to play by them), expectations because of gender, conversations, no conversations, rules, labels, and OMG!!!

We have heard many couples we talked to tell us they have been in the LS for X number of years and had only a handful of play times. I guess I know why, they get caught up in the drama of it all. They can't go with the flow and focus on some ridiculous things. They list rules and then add more rules when you start talking to them. They mask the truth behind what they feel is clever banter. I want to scream, just answer the F...ing question already! I am not asking for a credit score or your first born, just if you want to meet for dinner or share the cost of a hotel!!!

You know, if I lived near Nic for example an attractive, single guy and he said, wanna get together, I would be like OMG yes, I would worry about more important things like pretty lingerie, plenty of condoms, lots of bottled water and if the local pizza joint delivers than if he will pay for our food, drinks, and hotel room.

I have had to politely refuse a number of couples who listed the requirements for our 3 month courtship for platonic friendships developed on a swinging site and then with a possibility of sex. Please already, we are a couple interested in expanding our SEXUAL horizons. We don't need to pay a fee on a website to find platonic friends. We have those already. We are looking for couples to play with, thought that was what this site is about.

I would ask the other couple, single male or single female, Are you okay with splitting the room? With any question asked, I have an idea of what I would do with the answer, if yes, proceed, if no, decide if it is worth paying for the room. Most likely at this point in the game, it is.

Just a few thoughts I have,

If you can't pay, don't play If you can't decide to pay, you likely don't want to play If having a night where someone else pays for everything for you is most important to you, look for a sugar daddy, you aren't really interested in swinging

Sophia

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I have paid for a room in meetings with SF and shared the cost with a couple in another case. If this is something you worry about, you should discuss it before you get the room.

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My wife had a date with a SM last night and she paid for the room. He didn't even offer to split the bill. I was a bit miffed when I heard about that.

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