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Encrypted,

Loved your post, would love to have SMs like you near where I live.

Sophia

Hendersonville NC
 
 
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I need to approach this in 2 separate scenarios:

Scenario 1: We meet exchange emails online. We ask questions concerning compatibility, flirty emails with innuendo follow. Drinks. Laughter, conversation and sharing of commonalities ensue. Friendship buds. Play? Maybe, maybe not but conversations, emails, other forms of communications continue.

Scenario 2: On Premise Club setting, <insert special ocassion here> impromptu pile up in room two is on the agenda.

I much prefer scenario 1. I will say it again that our largest sex organs are our brains and for me foreplay begins at the first SLS email. That anticipation and building of sexual chemistry builds the climactic explosions of epic proportions- If it turns sexual and not platonic. *Yes single guys can have non play friends in the lifestyle.

Scenario 2 I feel like a stunt cock and the couple may never even learn my name.

I will take a non-playing friendship with a flirty couple of an anonymous sexcapade any day.

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I so need to reschedule that Detroit trip...

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I'm with you JandC, it's beneficial both ways which is what makes the experience enjoyable. As far as respecting myself, I have no problem turning down couples (and have) who think I should feel somehow that they are doing me a favor. In this area I beg to differ.


 
 
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I guess I wouldn't want to think that I was doing a 'favor' to anyone by having sex with them. I would not want to think that someone was doing a 'favor' by having sex with me.

I may be naive or just plain stupid, but I kinda think that if there is some attraction on both parts to have sex, each person is benefiting. The mutual benefit is not the same as doing someone a favor.

I also think that if I feel repulsed by you in any way, I would have more respect for myself than to do anyone a favor by having sex with them. The emails I shared earlier in this thread that I received is one example of having too much respect for myself and for others to have sex with someone who represents himself in the manner in which they did.

Now, this does not cover the issue of whether the sex was 'good' for both parties, but the agreement before that both or all parties will benefit from the experience. That is a whole different topic!

Sophia

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We've been over this a zillion times and I'll let it go now. There will always be people who view single males as desperate for whatever scrap of pussy someone does them the favor of tossing their way. Me? I don't have an iota of interest in a man feels like I'm doing him a favor.

That said, Jax, wanna swap favors?

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jandscincy, yes she is doing the person a favor. Figure of speech. She does me, her husband a favor by being with me too. LOL

By allowing a SM to be with her she is honoring him for being polite, respectful, fun, witty, charming and all those things wrapped up in one package. And yes notice allowing. Try taking a person's entire posting into context. Don't look for one piece to pick apart. And as a male, I always consider a lady doing me a favor by accepting me as a partner in sex. I guess if a SM was a look alike for Brad Pitt or some other super star, then it would be reversed. LOL.For my wife that is. Don't want someone to jump in and say me.... Hugg a stranger, The world needs more huggsss.

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"But I do remind SMs. The lady is doing you the favour."

This is the thread that will not die but every time I see the sentiment above, I feel compelled to challenge it.

Mr.andMrs.P- Is the lady doing the SM a favor? Is it not a mutually beneficial arrangement? If all goes well, will three people not be getting what they wanted out of an evening? It is a two way street.

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To MrandMrsP, you are soooo right about the whole buy a drink thing! Ugh! I have even seen this with single guys in my friends bookstore where the girl picks up a toy or lube and the guy is like "you are buying that!" WTF?!?!?! I swear some single guys think that just because they are hung like a horse and have abs you could wash your clothes on means they can treat you like a blow up doll!!!!! Chivalry with some single guys is soooo dead!!!!!

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Okay have to chime in here, we are Sm friendly. We have been swinging for a long time now. We have been on both sides of the fence. We used to like getting to know the male before any play. We would meet him out in public have drinks talk get a vibe, tell him we will be in touch. Then wife and I would talk about what we thought, likes, dislikes it was up to her who she pick's. Then we would invite him over for play. Only 1 or 2 that we became friendly with, it just seems we don't have allot in common just the lifestyle.. With us it's all about respect!!! So now we post on hot date for a male to come over chat for a bit and get right to it, sex.. That is why we are here, we do get the aholes but we can we can spot them a mile away. We do not treat male's badly or like a toy we treat them with the utmost respect and we expect the same from anyone. We really don't have time to get to know them or have any kind of relationship. There is texting involved if that counts as getting to know some one. Also we only look at males with certs, if no certs they are the ones we will meet in public when time allows. So far it has worked out very well for all of us including the SM. Again we all know why we are here, sex. So for us skip all the BS and lets just get to it, much easier and allot more fun..

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