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Just for fun:)

** C&P**If you have to explain the purpose behind your name to get anyone to take you seriously, then it is not a good name to use.

You lost me there : )

Fingerfuxxxs

Like mined people seeking like minded people could be a retort to your statement, no?

On a sex site, even more so, then a facebook page or any other social media that a profile or handle name is used. It seems to "me" it's just a word.

To the moral's swinging is being "unfaithful" be it with SM's or couples.

To a large group of nudist and the gay and lesbian community's swingers are unmoral and unfaithful.

Taking offence at words is ok in my book. Being judgmental of words is ok in my book. When language becomes preachy or this makes better sense to "us" maybe you should try it this way. Then it goes into the sermon files.

** Disclaimer, I am in no way trying to be mean or speaking with malice :) It's a interesting highjack of a thread and I'm all in !!

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Trying to keep this related to both the original and the latest side conversation and be nice about it, I have an observation/comment.

For a large number of SMs, getting anywhere with the couple is difficult. There are a few exceptions to that rule and I could mention a bunch of names of SMs that I find interesting, attractive, intelligent, and with some pretty nice pictures, but alas, I won't. I could say that their profile names matter a lot to me, but frankly they don't.

The easier they are to mention in public the better they are. Ones that you can shorten to one word that appears vanilla means you can discuss them in my case with my spouse in a restaurant. Something like "extreme sent a new email today". No one will understand that sentence completely, so the conversation is 'safe'.

We can talk about it without details in a public place and not let on that we are talking about having sex with a single male or another couple. That works out well unless we already know their first names. However, if I am talking about a new communication, hubby will want to know the profile name to look them up. So, we talk about profile names until a later time as we have met with the folks or built up enough familiarity that first names will work. However, even in that case, there may be a few people with the same first names like Scott or Tim, or heavens forbid, hubby's name. Then it is back to profile names. Which we always shorten.

However, "Unfaithful" is a problem. Not only in the public conversation under codes portion I mentioned but the problem my husband has with single men to begin with. He thinks most single men are married men who are wanting to cheat. He has that in his mind with nearly everyone that emails us. So, your email comes into our mailbox and hubby sees your profile name, you are ruled out immediately. You played into his worse fears, "UNFAITHFUL" = CHEATER.

Is that fair? No, not really. He is judging a book by its title alone. It is his right to judge a book by the title, if it doesn't interest him then he will not even investigate it any further. Just like in a book store. I can't do anything about changing my husband's mind and would not want to. We have one rule, 'we both have to agree'. We will never agree on this. He won't budge on something that starts off with 'unfaithful'. He won't budge at all. I don't blame him and I would never try to convince him of it otherwise.

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. If I am told something by a person, I will take them on their word............Until I find out that they have lied to me. I am not naive and believe everything everyone says to me. I rely on the gut feeling to tell me when someone is full of shit. Then I do whatever is needed to resolve or end the 'relationship'

While you understand your profile name and you 'own' that name and that is wonderful, if you have this many people right off the bat telling you that it is sending the wrong message, there is merit to that statement. If you are confusing people or alienating those you seek to 'find and play' with, then you are putting yourself at more of an unfair advantage. Being single has to be the largest disadvantage you have on this site. Seriously, look at the profiles that state NO SINGLE MEN or block single men.

If you have to explain the purpose behind your name to get anyone to take you seriously, then it is not a good name to use. Even if you wanted to keep the base name of 'unfaithful' and added NOT after it (UNFAITHFUL-NOT) it would say something far better to the masses than what you have now.

It is of course your choice and ultimately could be your burden to bear. But please know that the suggestions/comments/critique of your name is valid whether the approach was something you appreciated.

I hope you accept this in the manner it was offered, not an attack but an honest opinion. Best of luck to you,

Sophia :)

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It's just me, my wife is pretty much on team literal for life ..lol

I haven't even looked at your profile, single males are off our radar as a personal preference. I'm wondering if you've thought of mixing it up a little using your tagline. Ie the marquee section of ones profile.

Unfaithful

Rotten to the core enquire within Lawrdy Lawrdy forgive me I'm bout to sin Catholic girls welcome

Buford GA
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@ Fingerfuxs: I am glad someone else here has a broader scope other than the literal meaning of words and how they are used

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For the record, My wife is the most Literal person on the face of the earth. I'm the most nonsensical person inhabiting her world. *smile*

In year one she related "spanking" in a profile to hard core Fetlifers and nudist resorts to the wifeswappers nest....lol

She's still literal to the 10th degree, just a little more open to a nonsensical meanings of thangs here in the tenth year :)

She's a northerner go figure :)

Buford GA
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We are on two different levels and what's in a name? Why is my name such the focus here? I gave an explanation it is up to you to accept it or not. Draw you own conclusion and as I stated you would say I did not answer your question. The topic here is SM, How you like to be treated. Not Usernames and why that upset us or why we disagree with them.

I kindly request that this does not become something that leads others being prejudge mental. We are adults and we all have our opinions that others may disagree with.

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Unable to change name. I inquired but as I stated we all have choices right?

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Not suggesting that you do change your name Unfaithful.

But you do know if you want to you are able to as a paid member.

Buford GA
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Just for fun,

It could mean non monogamous which makes sense or as a taunt to hotwifes

I.E. the old mac davis song, baby don't get hooked on me ;)

Literal meanings for screen names do judge a profile and or person by it's cover. It happens, oh well next :)

Buford GA
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Actually it is a forewarning!

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