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Fred, I don't think about them. I simply distance myself by ignoring them. Eventually they grow tired and mo e on to others (I suppose)


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Fred,

Unfortunately, some people are under the delusion that this is just an easier way of getting sex, instead of simply an unorthodox method. In the vanilla dating world, there's no "expectation" of having sex, like they think there is here. In my opinion, that's the source of the anger.

No one likes rejection. Though, I have to say, I've fielded three SM email inquiries in the last few days and although none met Ms. LT's age requirement for SMs, when I wrote them, all we're very polite in their response.

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@sed- I always wonder how those people that don't take rejection well on here deal with it in the vanilla side of dating. Do they go nuts if a vanilla man or woman rejects them as well.

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Had several incidents with single males who went insane after rejection. But in our experience, single women are worse.


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I presume most just move on but I've had some bad mouth me because I said no. I'm sure no one likes rejection but my feeling has always been that I am not out to screw just anyone. I am very selective and I believe that has enabled me to meet others who are equally selective. Sure, I get turned down as well and that's fine. I would rather go without for weeks or months than settle.

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@Nic how do couples take it when you tell them you don't think you would be a good match? I think that's alot of problems with single males is that they put up with anything to get laid. Never understood why SM's out in public like to be shown respect, but put up with such little respect being shown to them by some people just to get laid.

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I happen to take great pleasure in creating fantasy scenarios for others. Of course I also enjoy the experience but to say it's all about me is selfish and that may work for some but I prefer a mutually enjoyable encounter. By the same token, I turn down couples who only want to use me as a human dildo.

In order for there to be MUTUAL satisfaction, one must put the needs and desires of the other person(s) on at least the same plane as their own, no?

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Swinging is not about servicing others, though at the end it may seem that way. It's about YOU. Regardless of your relationship status. It's a selfish activity. The implications that it's somehow about pleasing others, is, well, not particularly true. To suggest that it's about pleasing others first and foremost is silly at best and has the implication that somehow ones pleasure is not as important, or secondary. Because, even if one enjoys pleasing others, it is still about one's pleasure which is derived from pleasing others


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"If you make this experience less about what you expect and more about what others want, you might find your niche here."

Yes, that.

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I love reading these post on here. All the couples get on here and tell the single guys why they don't want or like to deal with them. Then all the single guys get on here and cry about how couples treat them so bad. Then you have the single males that get on here and try to convince couples that they " are one of the good single males and not like the others, or all othe single males ruin it for us good ones". LOL pity party will get you now where. Last time I checked weather copuple, single male, single female, ect, ect. People are gonna treat people the way they want to. It's like being a single male and going to a meet and greet. You can see the people that are single male friendly and who are not. So go introduce yourself to the single male friendly people. You don't go to the non single male friendly people and demand them to treat you the way you think you should be treated. Get in where you fit in.

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