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I never said I didn't practice safer sex.

Glen Burnie MD
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Hi everyone,

i'm sure i'll be getting myself into trouble here again (something I usually end up doing) but I feel it's important to speak on

Speaking as a married man (married and completely faithful and more in love with my wife then ever before,married 14 years) there is something very,very sexy about knowing that your wife is enjoying herself sexually both with women and men...as long as it's out in the open and honest and not done with the intention of replacing the spouse there is nothing wrong with that (in my opinion) the reason why I choose to be married,is there is a connection,emotionally,spiritually etc.. but even deeper then that is a best friend kind of love that can't be gotten anywhere else but with my spouse (she feels exactly the same) sex (to us) is just one more beautiful experience that we can share together I find that when we are not being sexually active with others outside of the marriage (i'm not talking about cheating,i mean with consent) that things tend to get a little dull (absolutely no offense to either of us,it would be the same with the most wild porn star in the world,there is only so much that 2 people can do together before you begin repeating patterns) finding new playmates adds variety and newness that we can share with each other...nothing is more exciting then when my wife says to me something new she learned from a playmate...because of my job,i will most likely have to spend many months on the road away from home,and in that time nothing excites me more then knowing she'll be having fun and that she'll be wanting me to have fun...thinking of her sitting home alone playing scrabble wouldn't excite me...but it all comes down to trust I guess...if you don't trust your spouse the idea of playing with others wouldn't work...but I don't understand why that is such a far stretch for some to imagine,if you are willing to share your spouse in front of others,why not when he/she is alone? it sounds like distrust or jealousy to me... and yes,in case I get jumped for my post,I know that our profile says we are out of the lifestyle,we are taking a break (but hoping to get back into it soon)

I think that outside playmates keeps a marriage fresh and if all couples believed in playmates (within the context of honesty and consent) that divorce would be a thing of the past in a very short time

have a great holiday season everyone God bless,

mr eternal

Grantville PA
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well we have the same relationship that the starter of this forum has i have a boyfriend that cums over at least once a month and spends friday saturday and sunday with me sometimes my hubby is here sometimes he isd working sometimes he walks in while i am getting my brains screwed out we been in this relationship for 3 years and married for 5 and me and my boyfriend always get the master bedroom to play in he is such a stud lol

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Why not ask me Jeepers?

I've been married 21 years to a man. I've been bonded 5 years to a woman. I have "other" male friends of several years duration.

Nympho's TDY rules make sense for her. They make sense for me. It has nothing to do with age, generation etc.

Why be married? Because I like it. I like having life partners. I love the history that comes with staying together despite the ups and downs. Pulling off long term relationships with one partner is difficult enough. Try it with several.....

Mischief to a select few.

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Judge not, and ye shall not be judged..................this is an open lifestyle, meaning everyone has different kinks. judging someone who does something different than you is not the way to go about it, then you are as closed minded as some vanilla people who think couple swap is taboo. honestly if a husband and wife are comfy with their arrangement so be it. swinging is about comfort, trust, love, commitment and communication. if you are not into mmf's then don't look for them, if you are not into an open marriage don't be in one. some people are not into full swap separate rooms, don't judge them if they do, enlighten yourself to have knowledge that some do and it works for them, and move on.... here is our twist to the open marriage style......we met a couple several years ago. me and the wife hit it off right at the start. so they invited us over for dinner, while me and wifey were smooching, hubby tells rob that he works oil rigs in the gulf and is gone at least a month at a time. his trust in us made it easier to ask if we would take his wife out and watch out for her and have lots of fun while he was gone. we had a great time with her. there was no cheating, no deception. they had an open relationship. and that worked for them....... so.....one needs to look at ones profile and see that some things are taboo and one might be judgmental and one might need to erase a sentence....... renee

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everyone's rules are differnt thats what makes this so much fun and trying at times to meet that someone or someone's that will work for what we want.we have our rules to follow and most have theirs too, so we try and meet a match and go from there? we dont judge others and hope not to be judged ourselves but for what fun all can be had .................. good luck to all .......somefun

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Oh, and the movie "Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice" was a movie based on the theory of Open Marriage.

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The term "Open Marriage" came from a 1972 book by Nena and George O'Neill. I think for people who are seriously swinging it's worth a read; it's available at Amazon and your local library has a copy - it was a quite popular book thirty years ago.

The basic concept is this: No one person can possibly fulfill another's complete needs. and so to fulfill ourselves we tend to strectch outside our marriages, including having friends of the opposite sex. In the days when most women were stay at home moms, this was an explosive idea.

Adultery (or swinging,) was not a direct result of an open marriage, said the authors, but they realized that when you really get to like someone of the opposite sex, going to bed with them was okay IF your spouse didn't have problems with it and had the same privilages. But the idea is basically friendship and fulfilling yourself outside the bounds of strict monogamy.

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Age has nothing to do with it, Jeepers. One of my couples is 60M/48F. Everyone has a different comfort zone with respect to their swing styles. The key is to be patient and find those people with whom you click.

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Flirty - We agree with you. This is something we do as a couple, just as we do anything and I guess could be considered a fun, erotic "hobby" of sorts. Not that I would mind coming home to see her with another girl..LOL

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