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TOPIC: Mrs question for Women How hard is it really to find a woman for MFF
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Mrs. Favorite, well congrats, you made Mr's day. Because his contention is I don't want it enough to MAKE it happen again, I'm not trying hard enough. He's already had the experience a few times. Even when I was "meh" about one of the bi-women we played with, and after the first time she made it obvious she was only really interested in him and we still played a couple times after that. Only with her, it mostly for his sake because it's something we both want but her interest was him, but it still happened. I am bi, not bi curious or only bi because he wants a 3some. I enjoy being with a woman and enjoying a woman with Mr. Fun so it's NOT that I'm just doing it for him, I trying to do it for US. Most every experince we've had whether 4some or 3some FMF, when we've met I've had to be the aggressor to "warm" the other bi-woman up or the first one to get naked. So it's not that I'm not in it. As it's been pointed out by others and Mr Fun, to set up a FMF it falls to the woman. Effort does not always equate success. We get SM offers almost daily (no effort). Even meeting a couple lately seems to be a struggle (unless we go to a party), almost all of them seem to be the man only with no sign of the woman whatsoever.

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Yup, it's hard.

At least here. There's a lot of single women. A lot of single, sane, discriminating, intelligent women that play with couples? With the key word being discriminating? HEH! Hardly none. Then again, we're not looking for single females so I've never searched them out and met any that don't go out socially in the lifestyle.

My question to you, the Mrs., is do YOU really want a FMF or is this something you're doing for the Mr. Not that you need to answer here, but if it's something that you're just meh about for yourself, perhaps your quest should be reevaluated.

From my experiences as a single female on the site a few years back, most couples SAY the female half is bi and a FMF is just for her but when it comes down to it, she's really just wanting to fulfill her man's fantasy. Which is totally admirable and sweet. I think women should just be upfront about saying "this one's for you honey, I want to make it the best ever for you". Much like the straight male half of a couple does when seeking a MFM for his woman.

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It's not that I think it happens for everyone but talking to some couples (mostly the Male 1/2 of the couple) they think it's just gonna "fall in there lap" when the time is right, I THINK sadly those are the ones that will be either waiting a very long time OR just not have it happen at all. One thing we can all agree on is if the Male is out activly looking for it, it just won't happen. Females connect better with other Females. at the very least its a lot easier to explain to another woman LOL. I learned to face it proably not gonna happen, Why?... because the small town #1 and from what I gathered it takes women to have a "agressave" approach toward other women, Lets say the business we are in our phone number is in bold numbers on our vehicles. Mrs Fun gets offers just driving down the road so Single Male will never be a problem. Don't need a web site to find it. apparently we just advertise for it

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Thanks SLOTowner, there are almost no degrees of seperation in some cases. I've tried a couple different times to put hot dates out there for what we are looking for and even contact a few direct by email here and occasionally would get a response with some reason a particulra date or whatnot didn't work or something of that nature (with a little planning we can make most times/dates work) but most often no reponses at all. Leaves one to wonder. Mr. thinks it's got to work for all kinds of people out there, hence the post.

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Yes, I think it would be difficult for you to find single playgirls locally in a small town with not six, but maybe TWO degrees of separation. And, as you say, being somewhat agressively proactive in approaching likely single women could cause you major problems.

Why not put out a "cattle call" here on SLS for single or married women to come visit you? It might be a fun trip for them and I'm sure there would have to be a getting-to-know-you meeting involved, but it might turn into something nice. Also, list a playdate for several zip codes in your vicinity to see if you can find a playmate or two. SLO

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It can be very hard. The biggest issue is that there are so few of them and in some places they are just plane not there. Throw in the lame guys pretending to be a female and it makes it even harder to find one.

The single women that swing alone normally don't stay single very long either. Another fun fact... single women don't have to be on a site like this to find fun.

Bottom line it's just plan hard to find attractive, sexy single women that are open to couples and willing to play with both.

The more 20-40 year olds you have in your area that are into swinging the more likely you might find a single woman.

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Ok, since asking for women to chime in hasn't generated any responses... any response from male or female?

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Me and the Mr have a little debate about how difficult it really is to find a Female for MFF play (he thinks if I try hard enough it should be simple). Let's not use the word "Single" to simplify it. First things first. Honestly, a male going out and asking women to join him and his wife usually doesn't go over well or is at the least very odd to explain (not saying it hasn't worked for someone somewhere). My question is where and how (lets leave parties out of it for the time being) have you approached a female to join in a MFF. We live in a very small town with a conservative population where many people know us or know other people we know, so just walking up to someone and openly flirting is really not an option. I know I am attractive but not a "need all the attention to feel good about myself" type, very friendly & outgoing. But I do worry about the back lash since we are business owners and have younger kids in school, and could be recognized by anyone at any time. His opinion is going out and making more friends (the majority of our friends are male because of the work environment we have). After a few glasses of wine start dropping hints . I don't consider myself an "average" woman as many women I have met are very selfish and only care about what they want or are critical of others. I chose to avoid large circles of women friends because of the drama and don't normally do the "girls night out" thing. I think of others before I ever think of myself or it's all about their self image "the look at me attitude" which is a turn off for me. So what are my options? Am I just limiting myself this way and what suggestions would WOMEN have that have had success approaching women outside of a party enviroment? Please answers from WOMEN .

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