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I was joking. Actually, I was lightly mocking those who think it can't be done, or that it shouldn't be pursued. There is a segment to "swinger" culture that is very superficial and turns us off immensely. There is also a segment to "poly" culture that can be somewhat snobby. I've been on both ends of the spectrum. I've even been in the position where my openness toward a poly relationship may have contributed to a tragic suicide. There are risks in everything we do, but when two or more people can learn to love without bounds, without selfishness or the superficiality of a strictly physical relationship, it is a beautiful thing.

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You did not VA, but someone posted something about running, I'd like to understand such statements, and what they are based on.

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I think people take the term Poly to mean different things as well. To quote a few lines off the internet, what Poly means to me: "Poly is generally only differentiated from swinging in that swinging emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational. In Poly relationships sex is not necessarily a primary focus, it is only one aspect of their relationships." Maybe i use the term too loosely when describing our preferences here, but i was just trying to answer the OP as it related to us. So, i do appreciate the words of caution from all, but we wouldn't trade what we do or how we do it for anything. :)

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I do not discourage anyone. I simply urge extreme caution.

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To those who discourage others from getting involved in polyamorous relationships, may I ask why you say that? do you speak from experience? and if you do speak from experience, do you believe that everyone is identical to you and would fail as you have?

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I just wanna fuck ya like im never gonna see you again........... :) No in truth most of my close friends in the lifestyle I have known many years. :)

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I guess the answer to this question is yes . Some of our closets friends we have found have been in the lifestyle and depending on what you choose your definition of friendship is depends on how strong your feelings are for them. Our true friends we love and would do anything we possibly could for them but with that being said how many true friends do you really have in life no where near as many people we know ON the other hand my my hubby and I have a bond deeper than sex or friendship yes they are part of it but not the whole package. There is no one I want to snuggle with when I close my eyes at night but my hubby the only person I want to see lying next to me when I awake is my husband people in the lifestyle realize that there is a big difference between sex passion and pleasure and the bond of love that is held between two people called love . People in the lifestyle are not looking for love because they already have it just my thought thanks for reading

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Someone said poly! Run away! Run away!

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Affection, fondness, etc., sure. Even love, but a different definition of the word "love" than what I have with Mr. One of my partners became my best friend (male), but when we moved, we've lost touch for some sad reason, and it makes no sense, b/c we discussed EVERYTHING. I do miss that. And him. And them (the couple). But it's not even close to what I share with Mr. Sexus. And because we do this thing together, and have fun together, I cannot fathom having feelings stronger ever ever, than what I've found with him. The whole idea of swinging comes about b/c of the strong relationship and love we have, so to have feelings for someone else that would rival those is not even a considered idea. He always says, we can share our bodies, but our hearts are each other's. You might get a piece of my heart, b/c I truly have a lot of types of love inside to give, but it won't be all encompassing.

Mr. VA, it may well indeed be one of the same people that I too, miss very much. Email and I'll see if I'm right or not. And I'll tell you who I think./thought it is/was.

Gina

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Surely there is a happy medium between a totally detached emotional fuck with play partners and a "poly" relationship. We just don't get involved with people with whom we share no common interests or feel at least some kind of affection for. If we wouldn't have them as friends, well.....why would you play with someone you don't really care for on some level? On the other hand -- as has been observed by others here -- a romantic attachment is really dangerous for most people. Yes, probably some exceptions, but we'd bet that divorce lawyers eventually make a lot of money from a high percentage of them.

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