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TOPIC: Guys, Where is the art of seduction

Created by: PhoenixCougar Original Starting post for this thread:
(Apologies for the length of the message) We have been active in "the lifestyle" for over ten years with a combination of couples and single guys. Our mutual primary interest has trended toward her playing the role of the cougar with single guys. However, we are getting more and more frustrated with that. An excellent example occurred this past Friday night. We have recently resumed going to the largest swing club in Nashville, which promotes itself as one of the tops in the nation. I (the hubby) sent an email to ten of the single-guys who had listed themselves to attend this event on the SLS Hot Date event calendar and whose profiles looked most promising, stating where we would be seated and inviting each guy to stop by, say hello, ask her for a dance, flirt, and possibly more. After we had been there for 2+ hours, the response was ..... NADA, ZILCH, ZERO!!!!!!. She began to roam the room on the social floor. She made contact with two guys who were standing around, chatted with them, and eventually suggested to one of them that she and he go upstairs to "see what was happening". They played a game of pool, and then she suggested that they go to one of the open play rooms. He took care of some foreplay, but when she suggested more, he said that he did not have a condom (she had some, but not his size); she suggested that he could get one at the front desk, but he did not care to do that. While they were playing, other guys gathered around, some wanted to pinch nipples, etc, but no one wanted to unbuckle their pants. Later, back downstairs on the social floor, she approached the second guy, and after some chat, she suggested that the two of them go upstairs. They went, he sat idle after they got into the couples room. He wanted to go to a private, closed-door room. She does not think it wise to go into a private, closed-door room with someone that she has just met, so she suggested that they go to an open-door room, for which he was not interested. Then, she and I re-joined and went upstairs, to an open play room, did our own playing, while several men gathered around to watch. Again, no one made any moves to do anything. When she and I took a break, but remained in the room, we chatted with several men who had gathered, making it clear that we were open to other guys taking initiatives. Again, no one was willing to unbuckle their pants, or take any other undressing moves. Some of them wanted to rub her tits, etc, but no one would do anything more than play with themselves through their slacks or hang their dicks out through their zippers......lined up looking like livestock at the watering trough. So, Guys, (or anyone else), WHERE IS THE ART OF SEDUCTION?????????

Created by: PhoenixCougar
Original Starting post for this thread:

(Apologies for the length of the message)  We have been active in "the lifestyle" for over ten years with a combination of couples and single guys.  Our mutual primary interest has trended toward her playing the role of the cougar with single guys.  However, we are getting more and more frustrated with that.

An excellent example occurred this past Friday night.  We have recently resumed going to the largest swing club in Nashville, which promotes itself as one of the tops in the nation.  I (the hubby) sent an email to ten of the single-guys who had listed themselves to attend this event on the SLS Hot Date event calendar and whose profiles looked most promising, stating where we would be seated and inviting each guy to stop by, say hello, ask her for a dance, flirt, and possibly more.  

After we had been there for 2+ hours, the response was ..... NADA, ZILCH, ZERO!!!!!!.  She began to roam the room on the social floor.  She made contact with two guys who were standing around, chatted with them, and eventually suggested to one of them that she and he go upstairs to "see what was happening".  They played a game of pool, and then she suggested that they go to one of the open play rooms.  

He took care of some foreplay, but when she suggested more, he said that he did not have a condom (she had some, but not his size); she suggested that he could get one at the front desk, but he did not care to do that.  

While they were playing, other guys gathered around, some wanted to pinch nipples, etc, but no one wanted to unbuckle their pants.  

Later, back downstairs on the social floor, she approached the second guy, and after some chat, she suggested that the two of them go upstairs.  They went, he sat idle after they got into the couples room.  He wanted to go to a private, closed-door room.  She does not think it wise to go into a private, closed-door room with someone that she has just met, so she suggested that they go to an open-door room, for which he was not interested.

Then, she and I re-joined and went upstairs, to an open play room, did our own playing,  while several men gathered around to watch.  Again, no one made any moves to do anything. 

When she and I took a break, but remained in the room, we chatted with several men who had gathered, making it clear that we were open to other guys taking initiatives.  Again, no one was willing to unbuckle their pants, or take any other undressing moves.  Some of them wanted to rub her tits, etc, but no one would do anything more than play with themselves through their slacks or hang their dicks out through their zippers......lined up looking like livestock at the watering trough.

So, Guys, (or anyone else), WHERE IS THE ART OF SEDUCTION?????????

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User Details are only visible to members.	As long as there is some obvious interest, I would love to play. Foreplay BTW is very underrated. There just isn't enough. But where I am, seems that noone goes outside anywhere to do anything...have to go 100 miles away to meet SOME nice people...I resent the other guys being idiots...gives the some of use a bad name...we good ones are out there....
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User Details are only visible to members.	At the checkout counter with the box of Instant Oatmeal. There is none.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I, the male, love to flirt and love, love, love the whole dance of seduction. The tempting....teasing...flirting...exchanging of wanting glances.....so much fun to build the excitement and anticipation.
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User Details are only visible to members.	"Given the very strict rules in which single guys are even allowed into these functions, (just an opinion) they may be hesitant to be the least bit aggressive for fear of being dis-invited to future events. Lets face it, most of these places do not even allow single guys in, those few that are, tread very lightly in order to keep the priviledge. Maybe with a tiniest bit more aggression from the wife to indicate bonifide interest, she would getter better results." ^^^^ This
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User Details are only visible to members.	Def thank you ride safe too can't wait for warmer weather
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User Details are only visible to members.	Passion we love to ride maybe we will ride down there one day
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User Details are only visible to members.	Oregonbikers, welcome to the forums, one rider to another. Ride safe and have fun.
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User Details are only visible to members.	You guys are bikers...don't bikers like to ride? ;-)
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User Details are only visible to members.	Passion I wish we live closer together
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User Details are only visible to members.	I've been avoiding stating the obvious. I really don't understand what is so difficult to understand about the OP's dilemma. You can't force someone to fuck you.
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