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Mrs. Sav, I shall flog you with a wet noodle, until you scream uncle! indeed I will, that is to punish you for living so far away from me. Had I been a believer in previous lives, you would have been my sister!

Agree with you wholeheartedly! In addition to that list, I'd add women behaving in a shameful way competing with each other, pathetically, at an age where confidence should have been in place eons ago! I watch and cringe and wonder whether it's loneliness, a cry for attention, or simply lack of class.

I was at a furniture store earlier today, watched two women, I think they were in their late 40's acting so pathetically classless, I felt sick at the lack of class. All over two men that stood near by. I walked away wondering if they realized that these guys were laughing at them, that their classless behavior was obvious not just to the men whose attention they were trying to gain, but total strangers too!

Tacky!

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Classy goes beyond standards, it is a state of mind in behaving appropriately, dressing sexy with style not over board trashy or slutty. There is a fine line between being seductively sexy and looking like a cheap hooker, especially in ill fitting clothes unsuited to your body type. It is an attitude that keeps one conscience of never creating a scene, being loud and/or obnoxious or rude to others. It embodies a self control of restraint in word, action and deed. It is finesse without aggression, the art of flirting without ass grabbing, it is behaving like a lady or gentleman even when confronted with anger or hostility. It has nothing to do with money, where you live or what degree you might carry. The list goes on and on but those are a few of my definitions of "class" . Like everyone else I have high standards and a baseline measurement of compatibility is that you are "classy" in my opinion.

To each their own, we all have "tools" we use to screen others out of our potential play list, these just happen to be mine.

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SLO in a perfect world you may be right but you are entitled to your opinion and it is most welcomed. But I think we will just stick to "standards"

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As a single guy on SLS and other sites, I have been fortunate to meet some really great couples. I have made a "connection" with several of them and see them on a regular basis. These types of meetings are usually more satisfying for all involved as we don't need to get past the awkward stage. But having said that, I have met just as many couples who are only looking for a one time deal. I am fine with that as long as all parties are up front about what they want. I tend to look for "friends with benefit" type couples. Where we can have a drink, chat about life, kids, work and then get freaky.... :)

Just my two cents... :)

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I have to disagree with that last statement.

To be sure, swinging is a social interchange. Obviously there is sex involved, however it is an intimate social interchange and exhibiting proper manners and etiquette, which would be appropriate in most any social exchange, are equally important, or more so, in our swing relations. I'd say more so, given the intimacy involved. So, I think there is a good measure of "class" involved.

If you just look at swinging virtually as anonymous fucking and nothing else, I see your point. But I don't view it in that manner.

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I have to agree with ms sav the word "standards" is a better word to use than "class" After all we are all on here seeking out strangers to have sex with so how much "class" do we have to have to do this?

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I would like to stay in contact with my playmates. My problem and I think may single guys' feeling, is that we don't want to bother the couple or make them think that I am trying to somehow be too possessive of the lady. The last thing I want to do is appear "needy," when I'm just trying to be friendly and keep the swing relationship alive.

But, never hearing from someone you have been intimate with is strange to me. I always either call (prefer) or email. I think maybe you should send a brief "Hey, we had fun" - type email to see what reaction you get. Maybe this guy is just one of those guys with little or no respect for those he is intimate with.

At any rate, I wouldn't get very worked up about it, were I you. As was said earlier, sometimes it's only a one-way connection.

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Sed, how true! It's so easy to use your own "standard" as a "standard" for others. It's not the case, nor should it be. Easy to overlook at times though. True, too, that there's all types on here, as in life. Although some personalities do stand out, it's easier to "see" the true person when meeting & spending time with them.......not judging character blindly.

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Class, it's so objective I think. What others may consider classy behavior I cringe at. And I'm certain the opposite is true as well. So many examples of class-less behavior, and classy behavior in these fora :).

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*Finding like minded playmates is a challenge no matter who you are, how hot you are or how high your standards are. That field narrows if you you eliminate single males or are strictly seeking females. *

Agree, it's just logical. I adore logical people btw, particularly women. But I don't find it a big deal. For us it's just a, once in a blue moon thing. We're not actively seeking, never was, I have a husband with whom I'm madly in love. Swinging, is an occasional activity. I would never view it as a challenge, or work, or anything that I'd re-arrange my schedule for, or go out of my way for. It's just something that happens or doesn't.

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